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To think that all men watch porn even when in a sexually gratifying relationship ?

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pedestalpony · 16/03/2021 20:39

Possibly done to death but do they or at least the majority and if so are you ok with it ?
No real back story but have reason to believe that my bf does now and again ... mainly through presumption of women he follows on Facebook ... first six pictures etc.
I know he also games with many men and women throughout the world through that platform so he has many' friends' from that..
He doesn't like or comment on the women's posts but they show up now and again on the six profile pics of his friends on Facebook .
Am I being a prude/ presumptuous / overthinking .

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 16/03/2021 20:40

Dh doesn’t.

ReverendRicketyCricket · 16/03/2021 20:41

DH doesn't here either. A lot of men I know don't.

Outbutnotoutout · 16/03/2021 20:43

Neither does mine

NormanStangerson · 16/03/2021 20:44

Not all of them, but probably most of them, despite what they tell their life partners.

StopSearching · 16/03/2021 20:44

To think that all men watch porn

or at least the majority

Well which is it, all men, or a lot of men? I think a lot of men do watch porn. I think some don't. I don't think any of it has to do with their relationship situation.

Nicknacky · 16/03/2021 20:44

Those that say that their partner doesn’t, how can you possibly know for certain?

They might say they don’t, but you can’t know with all certainty that they don’t.

WhatAreWordsWorth · 16/03/2021 20:46

@NormanStangerson

Not all of them, but probably most of them, despite what they tell their life partners.
100%
Loopyloututu2 · 16/03/2021 20:47

I think lots of women think their dp/dh doesn’t watch it until they actually catch them or find evidence of it.
I do think the large majority of men do watch it yes. It’s there at the click of a button - whatever they want to see.

NetballHoop · 16/03/2021 20:48

I think most men look at porn.

It's so widely available and so targetted at men's sexual arousal that it's unlikely that many men will not look at some, but I don't think many men see that as cheating, or as supporting abuse of women.

If your bf is just gaming with internet women and men, you may be overthinking it.

Givemeabreak88 · 16/03/2021 20:49

Every man I’ve dated has watched porn

Laughing at all the pps that say their partner doesn’t 😏

PurpleFlower1983 · 16/03/2021 20:51

I think lots of men and lots of women do.

LampsOn · 16/03/2021 20:51

Ha! I love how some people don't think their DH watches porn. They do. And no, it's not a big deal.

JourneyToThePlacentaOfTheEarth · 16/03/2021 20:59

Mine doesn't. I asked him not to years ago. Only because I felt terrible for the girls and kept imagining them as my own daughter. If he wants to watch it behind my back, I guess that's up to him

MysweetAudrina · 16/03/2021 21:01

Not all men do. I'm sure most have at some stage but plenty aren't arsed.

SimonJT · 16/03/2021 21:01

No they don’t.

ComDummings · 16/03/2021 21:02

Most do. And they will lie about it. But most do.

Meme69 · 16/03/2021 21:04

@NormanStangerson

Not all of them, but probably most of them, despite what they tell their life partners.
I agree. Every man I've ever been close enough to to discuss the subject has watched it at some point, if not regularly. This is men, not my partners etc.
LunaHeather · 16/03/2021 21:04

OP what do you mean bu guessing from the first six pictures?

I do think there must be, I dunno, 5% of men who don't?

RIPworkingmums · 16/03/2021 21:04

I personally think they do, or look at sexual images online. Maybe not regularly but it’s (sadly) so freely available and easy to access. Not all will admit to it though!

Emeraldshamrock · 16/03/2021 21:05

I'm not sure if mine does anymore.
He developed an addiction to it during his teens right till his 20's.
I threw him out when DD was born sex was replaced with porn back then.
He is aware it nearly cost his family it really scared him.
If he does it isn't noticeable.

Meme69 · 16/03/2021 21:05

My partners have too. I honestly don't think I'd believe a man who said they didn't ever!

SmashedAvocado · 16/03/2021 21:05

I used to say my DH never watched porn. Found out after 26 years together that he did and had been watching it for many years Angry. With hindsight I should have been more shocked that I was stupid enough to think that he didn’t Hmm.

imalmostthere · 16/03/2021 21:08

Most do or have.
Those who swear blind their Dh never would - they'd never tell you. You've no idea what they look at online.
And no, there's nothing wrong with it. A lot of men and women look at porn, and it has no consequences in their relationship.
Also - not all porn is due to some kind of assault on the woman involved.

x2boys · 16/03/2021 21:09

People can laugh all they want but I have access to my DH ,phone TV ,tablet etc and I'm pretty sure he doesn't watch porn

DramaAlpaca · 16/03/2021 21:10

I'm certain my DH doesn't.

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