To think that all men watch porn even when in a sexually gratifying relationship ?

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Possibly done to death but do they or at least the majority and if so are you ok with it ?
No real back story but have reason to believe that my bf does now and again ... mainly through presumption of women he follows on Facebook ... first six pictures etc.
I know he also games with many men and women throughout the world through that platform so he has many' friends' from that..
He doesn't like or comment on the women's posts but they show up now and again on the six profile pics of his friends on Facebook .
Am I being a prude/ presumptuous / overthinking .

I'd say 100% all men have watched porn.
Some of them get completely hooked and get a habit.
Most watch porn now and then.
Some men stop watching it completely after they grow up properly.

What I mean is that in the first six profile pics of his friend , there is a pic of what can only be described as very scantily dressed... think very sexual pics I f huge boobs in a net top etc. I expect he was viewing the pic .
I can't explain why but I don't see it as a huge deal as it is literally a pic .
We have spoken about porn and he has said that in the past it almost became a habit when he was single before he was aware of it and that he does watch it now and again but felt the fake ness of it all became tiresome .
I wouldn't mind watching some mild porn with him sometime. I was interested to know if your partner / dh does and how you feel about it and if you think men can separate it from
Their relationship ?
Thanks s it disrespectful to their partners in your view ?

yes I think almost all do and those that say "my partner doesnt" are deluded. the only ones that don't are those that for age/ability struggle with the Internet/phones.

I doubt it TBH. I think it's normalised in the way all abuse is normalised. In the 60s/70s it was 'most men hit their wives and if you think not you're lying' and in the 70s/80s it was 'there's nothing wrong with him wanting sex when you don't and there's no such thing as marital rape'.

I don't have a male partner so have no skin in the game, but lots of men I know are disgusted by porn. In the same way, back in 1990, lots of men didn't really think it was ok to rape a woman just because you were married to her. Of course legally it was allowed. But a lot of them had come to think, actually, no, that's a bit disgusting. Change happens like that.

Most men do in my experience , As do I .

iv always worked in a male dominated field of work so I think I prob see the other side so to speak of men

I know men who say there partners would not think they watch it but they do . I know a couple of men who have said they very rarely watch it and the majority watch it a bit .

I sound like some weirdo who knows my work mates private habits haha the jobs iv had mean working in fairly close quarters and these things have often come up in casual conversations

I always find the women insistent that all men do, are either really young or have a very limited life experience.

Also - not all porn is due to some kind of assault on the woman involved

The problem is that there's no way to actually tell which porn is perfectly consensual and which porn is rape on screen.

also if u have access to your partners phone and Internet use and scan it enough to be "sure" they don't watch porn -you have serious issues beyond porn use..

@Helmetbymidnight

I always find the women insistent that all men do, are either really young or have a very limited life experience.

Strange, I find the absolute opposite.

I watch it with my DH, happy for him to watch it alone too. If it’s not causing issues and not addiction happy for people to do what they want

Just asked him, he said not much anymore. I believe him. I know what he watches when he does, (he's a creature of habit!) It's not shocking or questionable, it doesn't offend me.

Does DH buy porn magazines, have porn DVD’s or stream porn on the TV? No

Does he look at porn on his phone - which can be accessed with just a few clicks in a matter of seconds? Probably

How would I know for sure, even if I asked him? I wouldn’t

So the only way I would know for sure is if I went snooping around on his phone trying to catch him out. I don’t have the time or energy for that quite frankly.

I trust him with my life. I know he loves me and always does everything to put me and our family first. But I’m under no illusions that sometimes people can tell a white lie because they feel embarrassed or because they don’t want to upset their partner or hurt their feelings.

Sarah and Helmet, I hope you're r

Right!

I think age and libido play a significant part in whether men do or don’t. My DH is touching 50 and he doesn’t watch porn. He knows I don’t give a shit if he did and he fully admits he did when he was younger so there is no reason for him to lie. He says it’s just ‘fake shit’.

Not all men are the same!

@Pancake4life

also if u have access to your partners phone and Internet use and scan it enough to be "sure" they don't watch porn -you have serious issues beyond porn use..

Or ... they share computers and phones?

Do you?

How old are you?

YABU, simply because you've said, 'all men', and i think sweeping statements like that harm everyone.

It's probably the majority, but I think a significant minority don't.

I think age and libido play a significant part in whether men do or don’t. My DH is touching 50 and he doesn’t watch porn. He knows I don’t give a shit if he did and he fully admits he did when he was younger so there is no reason for him to lie. He says it’s just ‘fake shit’.

Perhaps when they talk about all men, they're refusing to include anyone over 45. Who knows.

Porn use is an absolute deal breaker in my relationship. But he has more respect for women than that anyway

Recently found out dh does ... would have sworn he didn't.
Have actually found it quite difficult to deal with. Find it hard to square that with seeing women as equals not objects.

Most do, I know DH does.

I get that some genuinely don't, but others may be embarrassed and lie to partners.

I'm just happy that DH is honest and we are open in our communication. I'd certainly never make him feel bad about masturbation.

@SarahAndQuack its pretty rare to find someone who doesn't have their own mobile phone and why would you be reviewing your partners Internet use?

But he has more respect for women than that anyway

I never understand when posters are insecure in their own relationships they have to make generalisations about everyone else's relationship. Is it to make you feel better? Or is it just lack of imagination?