To think that all men watch porn even when in a sexually gratifying relationship ?

[pedestalpony]

Possibly done to death but do they or at least the majority and if so are you ok with it ?
No real back story but have reason to believe that my bf does now and again ... mainly through presumption of women he follows on Facebook ... first six pictures etc.
I know he also games with many men and women throughout the world through that platform so he has many' friends' from that..
He doesn't like or comment on the women's posts but they show up now and again on the six profile pics of his friends on Facebook .
Am I being a prude/ presumptuous / overthinking .

Is this all about one woman he games with out of a group who has a profile pic with not much on?

I've seen statistics to say that the vast majority of men in the UK have SEEN pornography (98%?). Some people, deliberately I assume, conflate this with regularly watching pornography. I've seen porn. I don't watch porn.

I'm unsure why some people find it incomprehensible that not every single man watches porn. You rarely see this disbelief with regard to other activities. I'm quite prepared to believe that a majority of men do watch it with some regularity. I don't think that majority would be overwhelmingly enough to justify the condescending attitude some posters are taking toward others who think that maybe, just maybe, their partner might be able to exercise enough self control not to wank off to videos of potentially exploited women.

No, my husband doesn’t.

That's rubbish sorry Comtesse.

Unless the mainstream sites have seriously changed the content they have from home page etc in the last few years for milder stuff (that sounds likely!).

@mollypuss1 that's really well said actually. Im a fan of a plunge top and have a sternum tattoo I like to be visible on occasion. I'm not an adult entertainer. I can dress how I like, for me and for no one else and should be able to do so without backlash, or speculation "that I'm well up for it" - which I've heard more times that I can count.
A massive problem in today's society. God forbid a woman show some skin, or be overly sexual. She's automatically a slut with no morals, or attention seeking, or a porn star. Shockingly there are female porn stars who do it because they enjoy sex and getting paid for it - the horror!

DP doesn’t watch it but I do occasionally

Mine doesn’t. He’s technologically illiterate and I can see his search history anytime.

Yes I'm sure the majority of people under a certain age have seen porn.

And over too if you count old school soft porn pics!

I'm feeling very confused now by.

1. All men watch porn. If they say they don't they're definitely lying
2. Porn isn't like that! It's mainly lovely lovemaking which is lovely. Lovely people making love. In a loving way

Erm...??!!

I'm not sure if he games with her . It is a possibility . I just wondered if a random womans pic popped up on his first six friends , if it was likely that he was getting off to her pic . If it's a thing and if people mind when their oh does this . Is it insulting to them .

My partner doesn't... and I wouldn't be with someone who did

Yes, of course they do, whatever they may say to their partners. It’s absurdly naive to think otherwise.

Xvideos & Pornhub are the world’s 9th & 10th most popular websites, ahead of Amazon, EBay, BBC Etc etc. (Source : Wikipedia)

@NiceGerbil

'According to Daspe et al. (2017) 73 percent of women and 98 percent of men reported internet porn use in the last six months, for a total of 85 percent of respondents'

Was this across all ages, backgrounds etc? Certain country? Got a link?

18-55yo with majority ages between 18-35. Study was in Canada. There we a bit over 1000 participants. You can find it if you Google "when pornography use feels out of control"

That being said. There are several different studies with different statistics.

I also found this country breakdown interesting on gender and pornhub visits.

www.statista.com/statistics/661314/gender-distribution-of-pornhubcom-website-traffic-in-selected-european-countries/

I know Dh doesn't. It literally goes against everything he believes in.

Just because maybe most do, it doesn't mean ALL do, just like most men eat meat but some have decided not to or don't like it for various reasons

@SmashedAvocado

I used to say my DH never watched porn. Found out after 26 years together that he did and had been watching it for many years . With hindsight I should have been more shocked that I was stupid enough to think that he didn’t .

My DH works in a very male dominated industry with loads of men who say they clear the porn off their phones, so their wives don't find it.

So you won't have been alone in that.

@pedestalpony

I'm not sure if he games with her . It is a possibility . I just wondered if a random womans pic popped up on his first six friends , if it was likely that he was getting off to her pic . If it's a thing and if people mind when their oh does this . Is it insulting to them .

I had a DP who suffered from a porn addiction. It was bad, but he managed to keep it a complete secret, I never would have know. I once saw a notification on his phone to an instagram account that wasn't his, took a look and found he had a secret account used to follow hundreds of women. I confronted him and he confessed, porn wasn't doing it for him due to overuse and he'd used pictures of real women posted on their social media instead. This included some of my own friends and their profiles. So yes, OP, while you can't know for sure based off this one Facebook friend, it certainly does happen.

DH doesn't. And to those saying that women saying this are deluded, I know my DH rather better than you do.

@pedestalpony

I'm not sure if he games with her . It is a possibility . I just wondered if a random womans pic popped up on his first six friends , if it was likely that he was getting off to her pic . If it's a thing and if people mind when their oh does this . Is it insulting to them .

Okay. So you have a very specific problem. It is possible that he is getting off to the pic but it is possible that he doesnt. What are the odds that these hot half naked women play the same game? To answer the question. While I am generally ok with porn (there are limits to this) but I would not be happy with bf friending someone and then masturbating to their pics. To me it makes it more personal.

No, they don’t. My DH doesn’t because he thinks it’s vile and misogynistic.

I would not stay with a man who looked at any kind of pornography. It’s incredibly damaging to women and children and I don’t know why it’s legal.

Having concerns about pornography does not make you a prude - you’re allowed to object to abuse and exploitation of women. That is what pornography is.

@LaurieFairyCake. Mm— I thought the same about my feminist supporting , very respectful to women H, until I had reason to look at our router stats one day — I then kept track and had a bit of a jolting realisation it was being watched around 5 times a week, the minute I was out the door — not nice knowing your H is a total hypocrite

@VestaTilley

No, they don’t. My DH doesn’t because he thinks it’s vile and misogynistic.

I would not stay with a man who looked at any kind of pornography. It’s incredibly damaging to women and children and I don’t know why it’s legal.

Having concerns about pornography does not make you a prude - you’re allowed to object to abuse and exploitation of women. That is what pornography is.

No - it really isn't. That's your view because you hate pornography. Saying all porn is an objectification of women, and insinuating they are all forced is just not true. There are many female adult entertainers, web cam models etc who do what they do because they enjoy sex, and like getting paid for it. That is a fact.

@Rewis . Ok thanks . Can I ask why it is more personal ? This woman lives a continent away and her only interaction on Facebook is provocative pics of herself . She is not fully naked . Just overtly sexual imo . Her page is full of likes and
Comments from men , about her various attributes . No likes or comments from my boyfriend .

yetmorecrap

(I control the router in our place, everything blocked - used to have teenagers)

@ShrikeAttack

I always think it's a bit odd when posters proclaim that all men watch porn and that women that think they don't are somehow naive or deluded. I don't understand why they're so keen to insist it's so. Is it because they have to believe that to accept their own partner's porn usage, or because they want to be seen as somehow more worldly?

Do I think the vast majority of men have seen porn at some point? Yes. Do I think all men use porn on a regular basis? No. Because, just like women, all men are individuals, have different tastes, desires, sexual motivations and moral frameworks.

It's a bit strange to make such sweeping statements.

I totally agree.

[quote pedestalpony]@Rewis . Ok thanks . Can I ask why it is more personal ? This woman lives a continent away and her only interaction on Facebook is provocative pics of herself . She is not fully naked . Just overtly sexual imo . Her page is full of likes and
Comments from men , about her various attributes . No likes or comments from my boyfriend . [/quote]
Just to me it feels more personal due to the "add friend" feature. It breaks the barrier. Similar to cam girls. It take a it from being aroused from the act of sex and turns it becoming aroused by one person. I also completely understand that this is not logical.