To think that all men watch porn even when in a sexually gratifying relationship ?

[pedestalpony]

Possibly done to death but do they or at least the majority and if so are you ok with it ?
No real back story but have reason to believe that my bf does now and again ... mainly through presumption of women he follows on Facebook ... first six pictures etc.
I know he also games with many men and women throughout the world through that platform so he has many' friends' from that..
He doesn't like or comment on the women's posts but they show up now and again on the six profile pics of his friends on Facebook .
Am I being a prude/ presumptuous / overthinking .

Absolutely not checking up on him ! He posted something and asked my opinion on it . I did and then I saw this enormous pair of boobs and a trout pout when I went onto his profile
Page ! I wondered who was this friend and Have only presumed that she is there purely for voyeuristic reasons !

[quote Pancake4life]@SarahAndQuack its pretty rare to find someone who doesn't have their own mobile phone and why would you be reviewing your partners Internet use?[/quote]
DP and I just swap computers/phones because they're the same. It's not that we don't have our own, but if for example mine was out of charge and I needed to take a call during the day, I'd borrow DP's, or if we were in the car and DP was driving, I'd answer either phone.

I don't think that is rare at all. My point is that most people don't hide their internet use from their partner - they might say 'don't look, it's your birthday soon!' or 'I've ordered something and I've got Alexa to disable notifications so you don't know about it,' but other than that usually it'll be perfectly obvious if a partner is using porn. I can believe some people use porn and go to lengths to hide it, but I don't believe most men use it and make little secret of it, but that their partners don't know.

@Helmetbymidnight

Do you?

How old are you?

Assume this was directed at me? I'm definitely over 40 and I'm pretty sure my life experiences are extremely vast

Dh and I both do, not often but occasionally. It's not that big of a deal for us, I don't feel threatened by an actress.

I don't think any man with a smart phone wouldn't have watched porn at some point though. They're more likely to lie to their partners than not watch porn

Have you not heard of Private browsing/incognito mode/deleting browsing history?

@SplendidSuns1000

Dh and I both do, not often but occasionally. It's not that big of a deal for us, I don't feel threatened by an actress.

I don't think any man with a smart phone wouldn't have watched porn at some point though. They're more likely to lie to their partners than not watch porn

Everything you said 👏

@SarahAndQuack so if you use his phone that's one thing but for you to know he isn't using it for porn means you're going into his search and message history and checking he hasn't accessed videos that he hasn't deleted in the last x months .. which is crazy

I don’t think all men watch porn. My husband hasn’t in the last 30 years I’ve known him. He’s never hid anything and thinks it is morally wrong. Some people have morals, still.

I don’t have a partner but when I did I genuinely can’t think of a time they’d be scrolling through my search history to see what I had looked at !!!

And I’d happily hand my phone over for a partner to use as I have nothing to hide including if they wanted to be nosey and found I’d been looking at massive cocks on occasion 🤷🏻‍♀️

I'd find it really weird to have it on social media like that.

I could get an argument that virtually all men in the UK have likely seen pornography, but it would be unreasonable to say all continue to watch it throughout the rest of their lives. Not everyone gets their jollies in the same way.

I have access to all my DH internet.use I use his email account as mine ,there are many things I could question but porn no

Myself and DH have morals thanks. I'm sure everyone could do something that's morally questionable to others, including those who oppose pornography.

DH definitely doesn’t. He used to, a lot, until I explained to him why I found it morally reprehensible. Since then he’s stopped completely.

No I know men who don't because they think it's exploitative and objectifies women.

We don't watch it together but I'm sure he does.

[quote Pancake4life]@SarahAndQuack so if you use his phone that's one thing but for you to know he isn't using it for porn means you're going into his search and message history and checking he hasn't accessed videos that he hasn't deleted in the last x months .. which is crazy[/quote]
She's a she, as I've already said.

I don't go search message history, no, but I'm making the point that someone would have to be actively hiding porn use for a normal partner not to notice.

@Clymene.. c'mon.. you don't buy that line for real

Well no they don't, not all of them.

My dad for example or my father in law. I mean I don't know for sure but for various reasons it's pretty unlikely.

I also think that most mainstream porn these days is pretty grim and some men just wouldn't like it- mainstream het porn is about sexual dominance over women. Not all men are into that and the other way round is pretty niche and would require hunting...

Most people under a certain age have seen porn I think. Whether all men watch it- s majority? It's there it's free and it's what they are 'supposed' to do- it's normalised.

I often wonder when the incident happened that human males in the UK sadly lost their imaginations. Because a lot of people seem to think without porn there's no wanking which is flat out weird.

OP though you haven't really mentioned porn.

You talked about different things.

'No real back story but have reason to believe that my bf does now and again ... mainly through presumption of women he follows on Facebook ... first six pictures etc.'

I don't go on Facebook much but if you're friends can't you see everyone he's friends with etc? Is it different to following? If the first 6 people on the screen (not sure which screen) are all scantily clad young women then who knows what's going on. Facebook isn't porn like I think of it. I don't know how far things can go on Facebook etc. If I was going to watch porn I'd watch porn. Following hot young people on Facebook is a bit different surely?

'I know he also games with many men and women throughout the world through that platform so he has many' friends' from that..
He doesn't like or comment on the women's posts but they show up now and again on the six profile pics of his friends on Facebook .'
What does this have to do with porn? These are women who he knows through gaming, he also knows men through gaming. How do you mean they show up on his friend's profile pics. Are these real life friends? I'm not at all sure what you're getting at here.

If you have some more info you might get more pertinent responses.

Clymene you are really down on men. I'm sure they aren't all liars etc.

Funny on feminism threads women like me get accused of man hating, and on ones like this seen not to have a bad enough view of them!

DH does rarely, but it’s me that’s the porn watcher in our relationship. We have a very active sex life and it doesn’t change how I feel about him; I just enjoy it.

I always think it's a bit odd when posters proclaim that all men watch porn and that women that think they don't are somehow naive or deluded. I don't understand why they're so keen to insist it's so. Is it because they have to believe that to accept their own partner's porn usage, or because they want to be seen as somehow more worldly?

Do I think the vast majority of men have seen porn at some point? Yes. Do I think all men use porn on a regular basis? No. Because, just like women, all men are individuals, have different tastes, desires, sexual motivations and moral frameworks.

It's a bit strange to make such sweeping statements.

@Ritasueandbobtoo9

I don’t think all men watch porn. My husband hasn’t in the last 30 years I’ve known him. He’s never hid anything and thinks it is morally wrong. Some people have morals, still.

I watch it sometimes, as does dh, as do several others I know. We have morals coming out our arses How's the weather up there on your highest of horses?

Majority of men watch porn. Minority of women watch porn. There are statistics for this. However, not all men watch porn. Some watch and calim to their partner that they don't and some just don't.

My bf claims he doesn't watch porn anymore and I happen to believe him. He has some ED issues due to medication and doesn't want to risk not being able to have sex with me and therefore does not masturbate. He might be lying but I doubt it. On the otherhand I do occationally watch porn to help masturbate.

No, all men don't watch porn. A lot think it is horrible, contrived etc, which of course it is. Even if they were not in a satisfying relationship they'd rather watch cars or something else.

DP doesn't. He rarely goes on his phone, we have no home computer or tablet and we spend 24 hours a day together working from home in lockdown, so I honestly can't see how he'd be able to watch it without me noticing. I access his phone and vice verse, have nothing to hide. He just isn't into it. I think he may have watched some in the past, but nothing in the years we've been together. Similarly I don't watch it either.