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Baby seeing husband naked AIBU?

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Supertiredmummy · 13/11/2018 22:01

My baby has just started walking and is running about already.
So today they ran into the bathroom whilst my husband was out the shower drying off and toweling his hair. He freaked out send told me to take her away. Initially I thought it was because she had scared him (ie. Not realising she was there nearly stepping on her ) by turns out it was purely because he was naked. I laughed this off explaining she had seen me naked plenty (hell Im still breast-feeding ) but he got very serious and doesn't feel comfortable about it.
AIBU to think this is strange? And trying to get him comfortable considering she might do this lots in the years to come?
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Karwomannghia · 13/11/2018 22:03

It wouldn’t bother me or dh.

Sethis · 13/11/2018 22:03

I don't know about "strange". Certainly irrational. Worth having a conversation about in a very respectful and light hearted way to find out exactly what the problem is, if he can tell you. If not, I guess it doesn't cause any harm.

Honeyroar · 13/11/2018 22:04

Yes it's a bit strange/silly. Hopefully he'll get over himself and get used to it. He'll have to anyway, like you say, it will happy plenty.

WorraLiberty · 13/11/2018 22:04

There's no right or wrong in this. Your DH feels how he feels and if he doesn't want the kids to see him naked, then that's his choice.

He needs to get a lock for the door though.

DonaldDucksTowel · 13/11/2018 22:05

He’s being ridiculous

Jaxtellerswife · 13/11/2018 22:05

If he's uncomfortable he should be respected surely? Hopefully he will relax though

HeddaGarbled · 13/11/2018 22:08

It’s his decision but it’s his job to manage it, not yours.

Nothininmenoggin · 13/11/2018 22:09

Sorry but he is being very ridiculous she us a baby not a 16yr old.

ThatOneHurt · 13/11/2018 22:11

What does he think is going to happen?

Genuinely what negative effect does he believe will occur?

Usually these things stem from however our parents were around us. We were a relatively naked family when I grew up and we are now I have my own children.

You just kinda do what you're used to.

notdaddycool · 13/11/2018 22:11

Our kids see us naked at times, I saw my parents naked, I tried to avoid it, I’m sure my kids will too when they get awkward with it.

LL83 · 13/11/2018 22:12

Our kids haven't seen my dh naked much. He just doesn't allow it. It hasn't been an issue for him to avoid. Your dh will need to lock the door though not freak out if she comes in.

I do think it's normal for children to see parents naked but not essential.

Fluffythrow · 13/11/2018 22:12

Tell him to lock the door then. Problem solved.

CrispbuttyNo1 · 13/11/2018 22:12

He’s not being ridiculous. But If it makes him feel uncomfortable then he needs to lock the door.

CrookedMe · 13/11/2018 22:13

He's not being ridiculous! Confused

If he's not comfortable with being naked around his child, that's his choice and preference. You can feel and act differently.

AuditAngel · 13/11/2018 22:13

I have covered up in the last week only because my brother in law (and sister) have been staying. My 14yo has never expressed embarrassment at us walking around without clothes,

JagerPlease · 13/11/2018 22:13

Well I'd love my son not to see me naked because that would mean I could wee or shower alone misses point of thread

But perhaps try and talk to him about why he's so uncomfortable about it. It certainly seems unusual to be so concerned about a toddler seeing you naked

Nanny0gg · 13/11/2018 22:15

Does he never look after her on his own?
How does he go to the loo in peace?

DragonMamma · 13/11/2018 22:16

I don’t see the problem with him being naked but similarly if he doesn’t feel comfortable, he doesn’t feel comfortable.

I draw the line at walking around naked in front of a 14yo son though - that just seems odd and no real reason for it? My dc are 11 and 7 and I cover up now but if they catch a glimpse when I’m getting dressed then it’s NBD.

festivellama · 13/11/2018 22:17

Some men don't like being 'interrupted' when they are in the bathroom.

Tell him to lock the door.

DowntonCrabby · 13/11/2018 22:17

We’re really relaxed about this sort of thing but he feels how he feels, it’s not for anyone else to question.

Now that your DD is toddling round I’m sure he’ll naturally adjust, lock doors/keep them closed etc. It’s definitely up to him to manage though.

WorraLiberty · 13/11/2018 22:18

WRT going to the loo, he probably feels there's a difference between having a quick wee (and possibly turning his back) and actually standing naked in front of her.

Either way it's his body and his choice.

Doyoumind · 13/11/2018 22:19

I don't think a day goes by when I'm not seen naked by my DC. Much like PP since they were zero it's been impossible to wee, wash or get dressed without them more than a few feet away, even now they're a bit older.

Bit of a strange reaction from your DH.

DrWhy · 13/11/2018 22:21

Slightly odd, it’s all very well to say it’s up to him but as a PP said she doesn’t get the chance to say she wants privacy from the toddler because she can’t just leave them alone when she wants a shower. DS is 2 and he’s in the bathroom in the morning with whoever it’s most convenient for to get us out of the door most efficiently.

JudgeRulesNutterButter · 13/11/2018 22:21

His body his choice. I know other men the same, I think it’s totally normal.

Isitsixoclockalready · 13/11/2018 22:21

Might be that he was brought up in a house where parents were not naked in front of him/any siblings. My parents never made an issue of it when we were growing up as they didn't want us to feel embarrassed about nudity and same for DW so we don't lock doors when having showers or anything like that.

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