I think my friend should pay, she thinks we should split it?

[Welshgal1]

Driving a friend 4 hours away for an operation (cosmetic) and will use 2 full tanks of fuel in my car, cost of a hotel, food while I'm there and I'm using a days annual leave.
She wants to split all costs down the middle, whereas I think I'm using my holiday entitlement and 2 days of my time (which I am more than happy to give up) but don't think I should be paying for fuel, or for the hotel? I've said I'll pay for all my own food.
Her logic is we're both going so why should only she pay, she's already paying lots for surgery.
My logic is I wouldn't be going if it wasn't to do her a favour so don't see it fair to split costs.
Whats the right thing to do here? Don't want to be mean but trying to be fair...

Just come back to this thread and cannot believe what i am reading...!!! What a scumbag.

Made a new thread as apparently this one will stop when it hits 1k.

Thank you all for keeping me laughing rather than crying during this madness. See you on the new thread

TITZILLA 2: Implants, lawsuits & love affairshttp://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/3245152-titzilla-2-implants-lawsuits-love-affairs

She's probably fallen out with her family as well, so that's not possible either.

He called her titzilla. Classic!

She sounds unhinged.

Someone way up in this thread said Titzilla was full of hot air.

This is what popped into my wicked mind -

So thank goodness she cancelled surgery otherwise she would wizz around the surgery like a deflating balloon when the surgeon started operating. (I am so going to hell!)

@MrsCrabbyTree save me a seat because I nearly pissed myself laughing at that!

Well she's got til Tuesday to find someone else then

Cheeky Fuckers - the gift that keeps on giving . . .

@Happygummibear

Its a long time since I was studying law, but if I remember correctly, while a contract does not need to be written down, it does need a offer, acceptance and consideration. What would OP's consideration consist of? Im not sure the warm glow produced of paying for her own petrol and hotel costs would really cut it.

This thread reminds me of how much i love MN, with the collective mind really helping someone to see (what their nearest and dearest long suspected) that their good nature was being taken advantage of 😁

My thought process was regarding the further messages where op stated what she wanted and although titzilla didn't agree straight away in a follow up message she did l. But as op then declined it doesn't matter.

I'm crying. This is epic

"Please Hun, just chip in what you can

Hun?

HUN???

HUN?????

Get her out of your life NOW!

I bet Fb posts are more about a "poor me" approach in the hope some other mug friend will rock up and be desperate to help her.

Is all emotional manipulation - those who live like this often actually do believe they are the perpetual victim.

I bet Fb posts are more about a "poor me" approach in the hope some other mug friend will rock up and be desperate to help her.

Is all emotional manipulation - those who live like this often actually do believe they are the perpetual victim.

Titzilla the Hun!

Why does she think she needs you? There are alternatives to getting to London other than via car. And I'm sure there are more people in the world that could go with her. Just no one daft enough to pay to go with her.

Has she actually cancelled it yet?

He replied to the message saying "Thank you for telling me. It's really appreciated, Titzilla"

I am a little in live with your DH, he's a good 'un and no mistake.

Watch out from more bonkers acts fro. Her

She should pay for ALL of it!

You're doing her a favour. She should pay.

She should definitely pay fuel etc. She should also, even though you are willing, pay for your food as a thank you! This happened to my husband once. He took someone to hospital miles away in London (on his birthday!) and lost a days pay for taking time off work. He paid the fuel too!

There is a new thread on this, the OP isn't involved anymore.

TITZILLA 2: Implants, lawsuits & love affairshttp://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/3245152-titzilla-2-implants-lawsuits-love-affairs#77750674

Why do people do this? I genuinely cant understand how she can not see that she is in the wrong. Tell her to do one and do something nice for you instead.