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Is this creepy?

129 replies

JapaneseCat · 31/03/2018 01:50

Chatting to someone new on tinder and we exchanged numbers. He’s a bit drunk and just messaged saying “now I’ve got your number the dick pic will follow!” Before saying “sorry that was a joke, I don’t get why people do that! Has it happened to you before?!” It made me feel a bit weird, too far or just banter?

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justinhawkinsnavalfluff · 31/03/2018 01:53

Very definitely gross Sad

gonnabreakmyrustycage · 31/03/2018 01:54

Block him

Oddcat · 31/03/2018 01:54

You need to readjust your 'wrongun' radar if you can't see this is wrong !

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JapaneseCat · 31/03/2018 01:54

It is isn’t it. Ew

Is this creepy?
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JapaneseCat · 31/03/2018 01:55

We have a mutual friend

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Railsam85 · 31/03/2018 01:58

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user1473878824 · 31/03/2018 01:58

Dick pics are gross but I think you’re being a little harsh, he’s making a joke!

Itsnotanthrax · 31/03/2018 02:00

Just no.

Lacucuracha · 31/03/2018 02:05

He's scoping you out to see if you're game.

What was his response to your text about it being creepy?

And yes, what happened to Mr Text me when you get home?

Birdshitbridgegotme · 31/03/2018 02:05

From reading what he said in the pic he was making a joke.

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JapaneseCat · 31/03/2018 02:06

He apologised.

No reply from the other guy

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InsomniacAnonymous · 31/03/2018 02:15

I agree that it was just a joke.

JustKeepStumbling · 31/03/2018 02:26

It’s just a joke... better a sense of humour than none...

Eveforever · 31/03/2018 02:27

In his defence he's a bit drunk and he didn't actually send a picture, so, if I really liked him, I'd probably give him another chance. I do struggle to understand why men think I want to see their dicks though. I mean generally I don't think dick pics are all that seductive, attractive or unique, but maybe I'm being too harsh!

Storminateapot · 31/03/2018 02:29

Massive sense of humour failure there I think. Clearly a joke.

ReanimatedSGB · 31/03/2018 02:33

In itself, that isn't particularly creepy. Most people know that creepy guys send dick pics and women don't like it, and a lot of people joke about it.

Like this, for instance [[https://assets.punchdrink.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/unsolicited-dick-pic.jpg]]
(That is not a picture of a penis, for those reading with DC/workmates nearby. Link is SFW)

If he keeps on about the subject, move on. If his conversation is otherwise entertaining, see what happens.

IAmNotAWitch · 31/03/2018 02:45

I REALLY don't understand dick pics. Some of the young'uns in the office get them and all that happens is that they are ruthlessly mocked and derided (the dicks and pics).

What is their purpose?

Whyarealltheusernamestaken · 31/03/2018 02:47

Agree, he was joking, you can’t join tinder and be so outraged at people joking and flirting. Do you want them to present a formal dating presentation? You still Tinder!!

LanguidLobster · 31/03/2018 02:50

I've never had a dick pic. I feel cheated now.

Though to be fair I've never done OLD.

I'd think it was daft rather than anything else.

SD1978 · 31/03/2018 02:51

Hm: on the fence. I’d say it’s a leading question to ask if you would be offended by the idea of seeing his penis. With an out for him if he answer is eww no thank you. Would depend for me how the date had gone, to how I’d find that comment. If it had gone well, I’d give the benefit of the doubt. Not great, he’s being a bit creepy and wouldn’t be following up anyway.

Whyarealltheusernamestaken · 31/03/2018 02:57

Aww lobster, I’d offer to send you one; but I’m lacking the necessary genitalia 😂 wouldn’t want you to feel cheated

PrettyLittIeThing · 31/03/2018 08:53

Hmm people say joke but for me I wouldn't like someone I just met off tinder talking to me about their dick joke or not, so that would be him blocked.

LadyLaSnack · 31/03/2018 09:26

Creepy.

There’s some element of power play in this.

‘See I could have sent you an unsolicited dick pic, but I won’t because I’m one of the nice guys’

Yuck. I’d block.

Pfftkids · 31/03/2018 09:34

He's just chancing his luck to see if you're up for it. Your reply was good and he backed down realising there's no hope of a sexting happening. I wouldn't call it creepy or ridiculously 'power play'.

Emma198 · 31/03/2018 09:38

He isn't joking he's seeing if she's up for it then pretending he's not like that when she's said no! If she'd given any encouragement at all that pic would have been in her inbox in a second!