Is this creepy?

[JapaneseCat]

Chatting to someone new on tinder and we exchanged numbers. He’s a bit drunk and just messaged saying “now I’ve got your number the dick pic will follow!” Before saying “sorry that was a joke, I don’t get why people do that! Has it happened to you before?!” It made me feel a bit weird, too far or just banter?

Just read the conversation, sounds like he is just joking, mabey testing the waters.

Not a joke.

He was testing the water, whilst probably sending it to others he is also chatting too.

Gross.

Thing is, Tinder is predominantly a hookup site. For people who want... sex. If what you want is a longterm relationship, and several dates before you get as far as snogging, Tinder is not the site to go looking on.

There is nothing wrong with wanting sex, and being more interested in finding someone who is equally enthusiastic about having sex rather than having to spend a long time discussing your shared interests and where you see the relationship going. People want different things, which is why they 'test the water' on dating sites and, if someone seems to be not suitable, they move on. Rather than having a wailing fit and blaming the entire modern world.

I wouldn't be interested in continuing contact with anyone who sent a dick pic or even joked about sending one.
Life's too short to waste on people that immature.

Some men see it as quite normal and that's worrying. Totally disrespectful in my book & I am no prude.

If you want sincere, more meaningful relationships with like minded men, avoid Tindr, Grindr, POF and all those free hook up sites, you will only get those types. Pay for a more upmarket dating agency. There is one called Elite Singles for more intelligent people or other like minded sites.

Or The Times dating section is meant to be very good.

His chat is rubbish

Dear god, he’s just acknowledging that men often send unsolicited dick pics & he doesn’t see why anyone would. It’s a perfectly normal conversation, especially when one of you has had a couple of drinks. It’s not pervy, it’s not creepy...it’s just nothing. If you’re offended then move on...it’s not compulsory to accept that something someone says doesn’t have a huge ‘deeper meaning’, but it helps if you take things at face value instead of analysing every single thing to the nth degree.

No it really really isn't normal to talk to strangers about dick pics

Dear god, he’s just acknowledging that men often send unsolicited dick pics & he doesn’t see why anyone would. It’s a perfectly normal conversation, especially when one of you has had a couple of drinks. It’s not pervy, it’s not creepy...it’s just nothing. If you’re offended then move on...it’s not compulsory to accept that something someone says doesn’t have a huge ‘deeper meaning’, but it helps if you take things at face value instead of analysing every single thing to the nth degree.

For me it's this ^

I think you aren't really that compatible judging by your reaction.

It isn't him just him acknowledging that a lot of men send dick pics - it's him sounding out your response to see if you're the sort that accepts them and if you are you might be willing to send pics back!
I think he wants to make sure you are the sort that f*cks on the first date otherwise he's not interested!!

"he’s just acknowledging that men often send unsolicited dick pics & he doesn’t see why anyone would. "

Well I must just be an old cynic then-because why mention them at all then?

It's so sad that women could/would fall for such shit!

I don’t mind an occasional dick pic - if I fancy the guy and am interested. I don’t see the harm.
I think he was scoping you out to see what your reaction would be. As you weren’t particularly encouraging, he backed off. It’s a non-issue now surely?

Thing is some women like dick pics, this man seemed to be testing the waters. As you are on Tinder, it is kind of like a hook up site so I would expect nothing less. I can't stand them, that is why I would keep away from those free hook up sites, as they would be more likely to happen with the type of men on there.

Your reaction to him shows you’re not compatible.

I agree with Annie, it's just a joke! Tinder is renowned for men who send dick pics - he know this and is having a laugh about it. You're reading far too much into it!

Many a true word is said in jest!
Sounds to me like he was testing the ground and thought he was being funny
Not funny just cringe worthy!
Personally I’d be put off that he started texting about the possibility of you checking out his junk as soon as he got your number!

It's a joke, a lot of over-analysing going on here.
He's allowed to think about sex - that's pretty normal, doesn't mean he's some kind of predator.

I don't think it's just a joke. He was testing the waters and when he said "I don't know why guys do that" or whatever the wording he's just saying what he thinks you want to hear. I bet he's sent his fair share of dick pics.

Personally I would stop chatting to this one.

Set up a fake account & get chatting to him, see how many seconds long he takes to send one, if you ask him.

Well that's not creepy Flomy

Slightly 'honey trap' which the police aren't allowed to do. Tempting / goading someone into doing something isn't the same as them doing it of their own volition.

Hmmmm, there must be a better alternative (guy) on the site to chat to. So glad I'm not single, would hate internet dating- think I'd just be a crazy cat lady instead!

It's not as if they're all that nice to look at in RL, but these days with smartphones where you can zoom in ×1000 shudder besides, he's probably taken a pic of dick from a 'gentleman's mag'