DP startled me.

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Ok - he didn't do it on purpose, but it made me cry out, and then he got cross with me.
Back to school today - DS and I downstairs, Dp comes into the living room, chats, and disappears into the kitchen (or so I think).
DS and I go back upstairs to finish getting ready, and I walk into our bedroom which is pitch black (very efficient blackout blinds) so I fumble my way to the window to open them. Suddenly there's a male voice, and I yelped. DP had gone back to bed, and I thought he was in the kitchen. I then got "Oh for fuck's sake!" because he was cross with me. DS also said "You didn't need to scream"
It was involuntary - I didn't decide to scream.
Now I'm wondering if I'm like that Catherine Tate character. AIBU?

Right...

With all due respect OP, you’ve taken the time to write a thread about this...

Edge of my seat here

What else happened?

Good lord.

What a non-event to write about.

I thought you were going to say he startled you and you whacked him in the face, or something equally as thread worthy...

I think I might eat some bread today....

Log it with 101.

Talk about a non event good grief

I just spilt a bit of my tea. Then my nose was itchy. I'm off to put some toast on.

I just realised I need to buy toilet roll and butter. No doubt there's other stuff I need. I might make a list.

Go NC.

Ltb?

I'm waiting for the train into town. It's on time

You sound like hard work!!!

What did you expect us all to say?

I woke up. The dog wanted her breakfast. It was still dark. I fumbled to find my mobile as it was still dark. Wwyd

this place is weird.

Why are you so on edge OP? Is there a history of DV? Do you have anxiety? I'd be concerned why this is so startling for you.

I do think that's a weird reaction to you being startled. I don't understand why it pissed him off at all.

I'm an awful 'jumper'. I let out a little squawk the other day when someone knocked at our front door when I wasn't expecting it. My husband finds it amusing.

Just seen the post before mine - I do suffer with anxiety which I've had therapy for and I take medication for. I suspect there is a link.

How cross?

I’d have reacted exactly as you did OP.

It’s not weird or odd to react as you did when startled.

Your DS is copying Your DP, by belittling your reflexive response to the situation.

Is your relationship with your dp otherwise ok or is he usually dismissive?

My DP would have apologised if he’d startled me, & we’d have forgotten about it immediately.

Slow news day...

To be clear, I am saying her DH's reaction was weird.

I have anxiety and went to the loo in the night. I came back to bed and was “startled” as I hadn’t realised the dog had got up and taken my spot. I did not feel the need to write a thread about it. Nor every time I stub my toe and unnecessarily shout and say obscenities.

Yes, but her thread is about her husband's reaction, not being startled.