DP startled me.

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Ok - he didn't do it on purpose, but it made me cry out, and then he got cross with me.
Back to school today - DS and I downstairs, Dp comes into the living room, chats, and disappears into the kitchen (or so I think).
DS and I go back upstairs to finish getting ready, and I walk into our bedroom which is pitch black (very efficient blackout blinds) so I fumble my way to the window to open them. Suddenly there's a male voice, and I yelped. DP had gone back to bed, and I thought he was in the kitchen. I then got "Oh for fuck's sake!" because he was cross with me. DS also said "You didn't need to scream"
It was involuntary - I didn't decide to scream.
Now I'm wondering if I'm like that Catherine Tate character. AIBU?

And I’m not sure if people saying something is a non event makes them a witch

MelloDee I'm so glad someone else got that it was a lighthearted post from the beginning.

MiddleClassProblem when OP asked if she was like Catherine Tate didn't you grasp it was a non event and that she was being funny!!

There has been some mean posts on here. Lots of people jumped on the bandwagon after they saw the first few rude comments.

I thought she was saying DP’s reaction was extreme but was unsure of herself so tried to lighten it after, iyswim. Just like when many people have a shot experience they pop a lightener on the end. I, as did many, thought she was evaluating the DPs reaction in a series manner which actually was a fairly common reaction to being disturbed when trying to sleep. Either way, I’m not sure it justifies being called a notch or a witch although I know those comments may not have been directed at me. Sure it’s easy to come late to a thread after reading op’s second post and say it was lighthearted. That’s why the first two pages of posts don’t imply that.

I've read about people who have a heart attack and die when their alarm goes off in the morning. So the op seems positively zen by comparison.

Yanbu as it’s horrid to be startled and you can’t help your reflex. To be then made to feel that you’ve been silly is a horrid feeling.

However, many times my DH has jumped out of skin when I’ve just been going about the housework etc and it’s been a very ott reaction “Jesus Christ, you scared the shot out of me! Why are you creeping up on me?!” Etc etc while clutching chest in shock. Which is also very annoying and makes me feel like I’ve done something wrong when I’ve just been doing normal stuff!

Can’t “win” either way it seems.

Best outcome is “sorry I made you jump” “no worries”. And move on.

Blimey. Some extreme reactions on here.
Yes i did feel belittled by DP for a normal reaction. He is quite selfish and noisy when other people are sleeping.
However, it's not that important in the great scheme of things.
Thank you all for taking the time time to reply.

OK, the thread might be dreary as dishwater......but the comments are pure entertainment. Keep it up people - way too funny!

kateand
In English please

My DH made me jump once, only once. I was engrossed in something on my iPad and he crept up on my. I whacked him so hard (pure reflex) right around the side of his head it was beyond belief that my iPad survived. He’s never done it since. (Not on purpose anyway) I tend to lash out first rather than scream.

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are my cats!

My husband gets startled easily, it pisses me off!

Where are the blinds from though ? Mine are no good

All of you lot making rude and snarky comments because you don't find this interesting enough - you're the ones who need to get a grip! If you aren't interested you can just move on to another thread without being a smart arse about it...

OP it sounds like you got a fright which is always shit and your DH doesn't sound totally sympathetic - he maybe got a fright when you yelled. I would have a cup of tea and a laugh about it and let it go x

I had toast earlier. Tasted great.

They sound horrible. If this is the way your family usually treat you, it's time to stand up to them a bit. But I am really sorry. I lived with a bully and gaslighting started like this. Making you feel nuts for a perfectly normal reaction. Don't let them make you feel that way. I know lots of people have been scathing here but some of us see the real issue.

Your scream gave him a fright. So everyone was startled and because he's a guy, he doesn't like admitting he got a scare so he gave you a hard time about it.

Now on to my story.
When DS was a toddler, we used to go to MIL every Sunday (don't ask) for a meal. On the way home DS would normally be in a stroller and one of us would push him along. Sometimes he liked to walk tho. One evening, late autumn, dark, the pair of them took off running ahead to 'scare' mum. They planned to jump out at me shouting BOO.
Of course, before I reached them, I was overtaken by a women walking quite fast.....
Sure enough, the pair of them heard the footsteps, jumped out yelling BOO and just about scared the woman to death. I was in hysterics, having had a really good view of all this happening (and to a degree anticipating it), DP was beside himself with embarrasment and I just about had to be put into the stroller cos I couldn't walk from laughing.....

Ah, good times!

Conversely, my partner quite often gets startled if I walk into a room where he is, and shouts "UGHDBDHDJ". Well, it's like a mix between a scream and a grunt. And it's loud.

Does my fucking head in. I don't even need to make a sound, it's purely from me just being there. I understand it's a natural reaction but it's so bloody irritating being screamed at going about your usual business.

Christ take up a hobby you’re nuts