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AIBU?

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CF friend or AIBU?

990 replies

SilverBirchTree · 07/12/2017 00:31

We recently cleared out a family attic and found an antique object that is associated with a profession (think fireman's helmet/doctor's bag/judge's gavel etc). We looked it up online and saw they sell on eBay for between £150-350.

A friend of mine's FIL is retired from this profession and his hobby is researching its history. He has even self published books about it. He is a lovely man who I see about twice a year. He lost his wife a few months ago so he has been in my recent thoughts.

It is such a marvellous object (beautiful with history and craftsmanship) we decided we'd rather see it go to someone who would appreciate it, rather than sell it.

I asked my friend if her FIL would enjoy it. She responded that he would love it. When I dropped it off at her house, she and her husband said something about wrapping it up and making it their Christmas gift to their FIL. I was Hmm because it wasn't really from them, but whatever.

Today I saw on Facebook that she has put the object for sale online. Shock I messaged her a screen shot of the ad with the message '???' She wrote back 'hey, u gave it to us! I'm going to use the money to buy everyone a Chrissy present, not just [FIL]. We showed it to him and he enjoyed looking at it and taking snaps. Time for someone else to enjoy! :)'

I am so annoyed! She's correct that I gave it away- but I didn't give it to her to sell!! I feel like demanding that she either return the object to me or at least give me the money from the sale.

She's a good friend otherwise, but the kind of person who is always hunting for a bargain or a freebie. It was fun at uni but getting a bit tiresome today!!!

AIBU or is my friend a PITA?!

OP posts:
HoneyBadgerApparently · 08/12/2017 19:07

Probably not puzzled, it looks like that seller sells a lot of antiques. I'm dying to know what it is!

Puzzledandpissedoff · 08/12/2017 19:14

Ah yes, you're probably right, Honey ... I noticed the seller had a lot of feedback, but not what they were actually selling

The suspense is killing me Blush

TimeforCupcakes · 08/12/2017 19:15

This "friend" sounds awful, I'd go round and hammer on the door til she opens it! Hope you get it back OP x

DrizzleHair · 08/12/2017 19:15

missbloomsbury if you rtft you'll see OP has asked for it back and has gone round to the friend's house to collect it but friend wasn't it.
Posts like yours telling the OP off for not doing something you think she should do, and in this case something she has actually already done, would piss me right off.

goodeyebrows · 08/12/2017 19:16

Shamelessly place marking.

LongingforNeptune · 08/12/2017 19:17

This is such CF.
Tell her you’ll make the winning bud and leave her positive feedback if her eBay status is really something she’s willing to upset a friend over.
Then head over there and collect it.
If she says no, say you’re reporting her.

Seriously. WTF.

Trueheart1 · 08/12/2017 19:20

goodeyebrows. There is no need to comment in order to placemark. Just click "watch this thread" and then if you hover in the lower right corner the word "bookmark will appear.

Tiger44 · 08/12/2017 19:23

Shamelessly place marking.

BewareOfDragons · 08/12/2017 19:23

If you don't get it back in time and she does sell it, Demand the money she got for it.

What a cow she is.

ladystarkers · 08/12/2017 19:25

Thats disguisting.

captainjacksparrow · 08/12/2017 19:27

I need to know the outcome!!!!!!!

Op get up and tell us what's happening!!!

AskBasil · 08/12/2017 19:27

She sounds like she has a personality disorder tbh.

I'm on the edge of my seat here, waiting to hear what the outcome is.

bluepumpkin · 08/12/2017 19:30

OMG I can’t believe your friend... that is above and beyond cheeky fuckery! She sounds dreadful! No shame whatsoever Shock

Menarefrommarsitwouldseem · 08/12/2017 19:32

I really don't know how you've kept your cool.
I would be absolutely hopping mad. In fact I have friends in Melbourne... Just give me the nod and we will get it sorted. If it is Melbourne of course haha.

Also. Those ebay links. I'm amused here thinking the sellers are wondering why they have hundreds/thousands of views hahaha

Enwi · 08/12/2017 19:34

Oh I'd be so annoyed!
If someone has gifted me anything of value, even if it's a £10 children's toy, I always ask them if they would like it back before I sell it on. It's just common decency. I still got the weeks/months/years worth of use out of it for free... that makes me a very happy person!

cardeyscat · 08/12/2017 19:34

Anyone else googling the time difference between here and Australia? WAKE UP OP!

MurmmersShow · 08/12/2017 19:35

Op said the listing was 600 dollars way back how many pages, so I wonder how much it is now.

BackAwayFatty · 08/12/2017 19:42

Place marking! Need to know what happened! Ha

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 08/12/2017 19:43

OP is probably stuck underneath her cluster feeding baby.

OFuckShitAndBollocks · 08/12/2017 19:50

Wow, just realised my post was on page 35 or 36 and not at the beginning. Will now read all the way through.

But seriously what a fucking rude bitch!

SoGoodToBeBackHomeAgain · 08/12/2017 19:51

I wonder if the CF will sell it anyway, give the OP the money (or some of it anyway) claiming that she was selling it on behalf of the OP to save the OP the bother of listing it on eBay?

IhaveChillyToes · 08/12/2017 19:59

Report to eBay

Post on her ebay saying THIS ITEM IS STOLEN PROPERTY

see what that does for her rating on eBay

Amiable · 08/12/2017 19:59

Hope you've got it back? The suspense is killing me! (and I rather like the idea of it being an antique ram castrator!)

Littlebelina · 08/12/2017 20:00

Let's not fill up the thread waiting for the op to wake up not hypocritical place marking honest Wink

Coconutspongexo · 08/12/2017 20:03

I would have commented on the post ‘this isn’t yours to sell’