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With my first world problem-beach hut issue.

349 replies

LesleyKnopeIsdope · 15/08/2017 11:05

We've been on the waiting list for a beach for for ages.

A new set are being built and we've been successful in securing a great one.

We were going to buy but I've had to put a hold on it for the following reasons-

I was trying to -using the square footage/floor plans - plan where storage stuff and table/mini kitchen would go etc and asked DH for his help

He's basically dismissed everything and told me that his kayack is going in and that everything else will have to fit around it.

His kayak will only fit it its diagonal and he's refusing to have is hing from the ceiling (which means everyone will have to bend anyway to avoid concussion - there's no permission granted for lockable storage under either.

I asked him is he'd also maintain /paint do essential repairs as he does nothing at home-answer- no im happy just to have somewhere for a kettle and a kayack. No consideration for anyone else or anyone else's enjoyment of it.

I've told him I'm withdrawing from it then- which he's having a huge strop.

I already do every shred of maintencance/work/upkeep on our home he helps with nothing- he has a home office which looks like he's Mr Trebus's protégée ND can just see myself wishing I'd not bothered.

Am I being unreasonable to withdraw (and think £18k for a kayack storage facility because DH is too fucking lazy to take his out of the shed and onto the car) and look elsewhere for myself and he kids?

[edited to correct copy and paste errors at OP's request]

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Ginlovinglady · 16/08/2017 19:04

I have read the whole thread
Not one person likes your husband
In fact they actively HATE HIM
BECAUSE HE IS A CUNT
if you've "won" this fight there will just be more of them.

Seriously I feel very very sorry for you

Ginlovinglady · 16/08/2017 19:08

And I feel sorry for your children
You say he doesn't eat your food!? Does he sit with you as a family and eat his own food
That is fucking shocking if it's so

Fbpn · 16/08/2017 19:08

Sorry. It was me above. I did what I swore I would never do and posted before I read the entire thread. Sorry.

Never ever will it happen again!!!

I'm glad you are getting the beachut of your dreams for your children and yourself to enjoy. The plans look fantastic. I too have physical disabilities and find lifting or pulling impossible. Also, when my partner watches me struggling with shopping bags or try to do things beyond my physical capabilities it drives me insane!!! I don't think he would ever distroy beautifully hung expensive wallpaper though.
I've had controlling partners in the past. I hope this hut gives you and your children freedom from that and builds many happy memories, especially of their Nan who feels like the Queen Sat drinking her tea.

Is it possible to stay overnight in one?

meiisme · 16/08/2017 19:09

I reckon he wants his kayak in there because he know exactly how much enjoyment you would have from an actual beach hut. Manipulative misery guts like him know they need to keep wifey unhappy. How much more likely would it be you LTB if you have a place to relax away from his stressful nonsense and fantasise about a life you actually enjoy. Saatchi indeed.

FrLukeDuke · 16/08/2017 19:09

Yanbu

LancelotLink · 16/08/2017 19:11

I'd spend the £18k on a divorce instead. He sounds like a total fuck knuckle.

thenightsky · 16/08/2017 19:11

Buy him bars to put the kayak on the roof of his car

He has a roof rack already. The OP said so earlier. He finds it too much like hard work to use it though.

PovertyPain · 16/08/2017 19:13

FFS, READ THE OP'S POSTS! 😡

Mummyoflittledragon · 16/08/2017 19:14

I think you should buy a chain saw to solve the kayak problem and a dummy for him.

Callmegeoff · 16/08/2017 19:16

I've got a beach hut, I love it. Last year Dh built an L shaped bench with storage underneath and reduced the kitchen bit of it. He muttered something about getting a kayak to which I replied yes dear and changed the subject. He's turned his attentions to the gym hardly goes so I'm safe for the moment 😁

I'm happy to post pics of the lay out if you like Op it's about 6 feet by 8 feet .

Whinesalot · 16/08/2017 19:23

Buy it then send the fucker to live in it permanently with his kayak

Whinesalot · 16/08/2017 19:24

Oh and yes please to the pictures call

Ginlovinglady · 16/08/2017 19:34

between this and the fucking kebab twat
My blood pressure is at maximum

neilwalker · 16/08/2017 19:39

He sounds like a completely self centred bully. The fact that's he's berating you every ten minutes for ruining things for the kids is proof that's he's an abusive cunt and has ground you down so much that you are actually asking if you are the one being unreasonable.

MCamp10 · 16/08/2017 19:55

It's not about the beach hut, or the kayak. It's about your relationship! Why are you together? And more to the point, why do you want to stay together?

SirVixofVixHall · 16/08/2017 20:16

He sounds about 15. Why doesn't he simply take the kayak to the beach when he needs it? Surely he has a roof-rack? Why does he need to put it in the hut? He sounds as though he simply wants to assert himself over you. Pathetic. I am Angry on your behalf OP, as a beach hut is lovely for children, and for snoozing in, making tea etc. I live a mile and a half from the beach, but I would love a beach hut!

bemusedmoose · 16/08/2017 20:28

He's being a huge arse. So huge infact, he should store his kayak there!

18k for a kayak shed is insane!! If he wants it he can pay for it.

Personally i would get it for me and the kids, kit it out with no space for a kayak and keep the key for myself. (i too dream of a beach hut!) and when he wants a cuppa point him in the direction of the nearest cafe.

McSmith · 16/08/2017 20:45

It's been a busy day and so far I haven't had time to RTFT. I'm hoping that OP has shoved the kayak somewhere the sun doesn't shine, bought the beach hut and made sure OPs DH never gets to know its location.

pinkyredrose · 16/08/2017 21:59

I hope he's got medical insurance because he'll be needing it if that kayak ends up where it should do!

He's no ordinary cunt. He's a Kayak Cunt.

Shockers · 16/08/2017 22:14

povertypain, I'm on holiday and wanted to comment on a post which resonated. I haven't the time or the inclination to go through the whole thread.

Just ignore me rather than getting angry.

Highlyinternational · 16/08/2017 22:29

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Highlyinternational · 16/08/2017 22:31

Oops it's kayak not kayack

NoFucksImAQueen · 16/08/2017 22:36

It's kayak not kayak !

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NoFucksImAQueen · 16/08/2017 22:37

Ha cross posted with you. I reread it 3 times thinking no that is the same word Grin

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