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With my first world problem-beach hut issue.

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LesleyKnopeIsdope · 15/08/2017 11:05

We've been on the waiting list for a beach for for ages.

A new set are being built and we've been successful in securing a great one.

We were going to buy but I've had to put a hold on it for the following reasons-

I was trying to -using the square footage/floor plans - plan where storage stuff and table/mini kitchen would go etc and asked DH for his help

He's basically dismissed everything and told me that his kayack is going in and that everything else will have to fit around it.

His kayak will only fit it its diagonal and he's refusing to have is hing from the ceiling (which means everyone will have to bend anyway to avoid concussion - there's no permission granted for lockable storage under either.

I asked him is he'd also maintain /paint do essential repairs as he does nothing at home-answer- no im happy just to have somewhere for a kettle and a kayack. No consideration for anyone else or anyone else's enjoyment of it.

I've told him I'm withdrawing from it then- which he's having a huge strop.

I already do every shred of maintencance/work/upkeep on our home he helps with nothing- he has a home office which looks like he's Mr Trebus's protégée ND can just see myself wishing I'd not bothered.

Am I being unreasonable to withdraw (and think £18k for a kayack storage facility because DH is too fucking lazy to take his out of the shed and onto the car) and look elsewhere for myself and he kids?

[edited to correct copy and paste errors at OP's request]

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NotaPantsTroll · 15/08/2017 15:50

Insurance wise a lot of people insure kayaks etc through the British Canoe Union - and as long as it is hidden and padlocked in some way or another the BCU probably wouldn't care.

Could you not work on your vain DH in another way? That he needs to get rid of his kayak as it is very old-fashioned these days and get a stand-up-paddleboard instead? Ideally an inflatable one that fits in a rucksack They tend to be smaller and lighter so may be easier to combine his SUP storage with your Beach Hut usage iyswim. May cost you a few hundred pounds to swap the kayak for a SUP but may resolve the situation.

(BTW I think he is being a twat - but I also can see how he has visions of using the kayak more. We have kayaks and SUPs and sometimes the sheer faff of getting them near water puts us off getting them out. A beach hut would be ideal. But NOT if it means you cannot use it for anything else! Fucking expensive shed otherwise!)

Sashkin · 15/08/2017 15:53
  1. Many local authorities don't let you keep boats, windsurfers or kayaks in beach huts are precisely because they want rows of pretty little beach hits, not industrial boat sheds. So it may well be against your lease.
  1. Insurance won't cover it...
  1. Because beach huts get broken into all the time. People will see the £3k kayak in there unsecured and will just cut the padlock off the beach hut door with boltcutters as soon as you leave for the night. He's insane to even think about storing it there - it would be like leaving an expensive road bike in your front porch. All these jokes about sailing it out to sea - there's no need, it will just get nicked.
MrsTerryPratchett · 15/08/2017 15:53

You do know you have bigger issues than a kayak and a beach hut, right? That this isn't about his kayak but about him feeling his needs and wants are massively more important than yours or the kids. That his image of himself is important and your wishes (long term wishes) don't count for anything.

Do you believe he loves you? Do you love him?

Motoko · 15/08/2017 15:54

Christ, how many more people who haven't RTFT are going to ask the same question, that has been answered several times? You don't have to read the whole thread, just read the OP's posts. There are not that many.

OP, buy the beach hut, dump the husband. Failing that, get friends onside to tell him what a dick he's being. But buy the beach hut, it's been your dream and the children will love it.

MollyHuaCha · 15/08/2017 15:56

Poor OP. You envisaged this...

With my first world problem-beach hut issue.
lampshady · 15/08/2017 16:01

Inflatable kayak? Couple of hundred quid and packs up really small.

But dump the husband instead.

BonnesVacances · 15/08/2017 16:01

Or maybe this one in Lyme Regis.

With my first world problem-beach hut issue.
LockedOutOfMN · 15/08/2017 16:03

NotAPantsTroll That's true, paddleboards are much more wanky Instagramselfieable.

Eliza9917 · 15/08/2017 16:20

H's off on one this morning reminding me every 10 minutes how it's been my dream for years and that I'm depriving the DC

What a fckn cheek. I'd tell him we'd still be getting the beach hut but the kayak would be coming no where near.

Could you get some kind of lockable cage that goes on the outside of the beach hut? That would be the only option I'd be offering.

onalongsabbatical · 15/08/2017 16:22

Eliza9917 is the lockable cage to put the H in? Because that's what I'd be using it for... Grin

TestTubeTeen · 15/08/2017 16:37

I would get the beach hut, get it kitted out, (without involving him - which is a fruitless exercise anyway), he probably won't get round to taking his kayak down this year... then 'oops. oh well, it doesn't fit' .

It is very upsetting, that he knows that this has been your dream for so long, and thinks he can just crash it like this. When you went on the list, did he mention kayak storage?

Does he recognise that blocking the hut with a kayak robs the kids of their fun?

He sounds incredibly self-absorbed, illogical and impractical.

TestTubeTeen · 15/08/2017 16:48

Is his brother the DH who, in packing for an Alps Mountain Biking hol said that his Wife's and Children's bikes would be replaced on their roof rack by his mate's road bike, so that he and the mate could go off road biking together? Him having arranged for his mate to fly out and meet him there?

Maybe he is even the same man, given the bike in the study?????

whyhastherumgone · 15/08/2017 16:48

OP your DH sounds like a selfish prick. I swear my blood pressure has gone up just reading this thread so I can't imagine how you feel.

I think you need to dig your heels in on this one - he sounds like he's used to getting his own way. Just repeat that the kayak needs a suitable storage solution not just thrown in diagonally. Refuse to back down. Tell him that there is no point having it for the DC if the DC can't actually get in there.

The whole buggering off and taking selfies thing just makes him sound like an utter twat I'm afraid. Are you sure you can't ditch the DH and the kayak and keep the beach hut? Grin

EnriqueTheRingBearingLizard · 15/08/2017 16:54

Get the hut however you do it and argue the toss when it's in your possession. Use the shame to his mates weapon if necessary and best of luck.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 15/08/2017 16:55

Yes to the stand up paddle board.
Or preferably the Orlando Bloom naked type...

CauliflowerSqueeze · 15/08/2017 16:56

A beach hut would be glorious. You wouldn't regret it.
Your husband sounds like a spoilt pissy little dickhead.

Hillingdon · 15/08/2017 17:07

£18k blimey. I can spend money like water given the chance but £18k...

Having said that I think sometimes men just cannot see the wood for the trees. To him his Kayak is the centre of his world and after all you decide almost everything else (not saying that is the case btw!) Its like men who go do-lally over expensive cars. They are not an investment, they arent for the whole family to enjoy. THEY ARE FOR YOU!

liquidrevolution · 15/08/2017 17:22

I bloody love our beach hut. We actually permanently rent it from the council but will probably cost more then £18k by the time we die.

Once the worktop (make sure its a two ring one so you can boil kettle and fry sausages at the same time) is in for the stove and storage for the biscuits and condiments plus a toy box for buckets and spades and hooks for towels and comfy chairs and a basket for blankets in there wont be any space for his kayak.

On another note - does he have any redeeming features or is he just a complete twat?

NearlyFree17 · 15/08/2017 17:27

This is the sort of fucking shit that my ex would try and pull. (He would also insist on taking his bike on family holidays leaving me with the DC while he spent all day riding)
What an utter twat your H is.

HiggeldyPiggeldy · 15/08/2017 19:21

Happy to help you do this so it can fit!!

With my first world problem-beach hut issue.
M10s · 15/08/2017 21:33

"I've mentioned to my mum about her and dad coming in with me half and half."

Brilliant idea, Lesley!

"I've told DH we're not buying it as a glorified shed"

Good, I am glad you've told him. How did you put it? I think "Piss on my dream and you can piss right off" might get the point across!

StatueInTheSky · 15/08/2017 21:57

Lots of ideas here for the kayak

and tell him to fuck off

Mix56 · 15/08/2017 22:09

great idea for your parents to co own.
He won't be able to dump his crappy out of date kayak on their turf
He seems a jerk, any redeeming features ?

Mix56 · 15/08/2017 22:12

great link, the canoe bed is good....... siesta.....

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