With my first world problem-beach hut issue.

[LesleyKnopeIsdope]

We've been on the waiting list for a beach for for ages.

A new set are being built and we've been successful in securing a great one.

We were going to buy but I've had to put a hold on it for the following reasons-

I was trying to -using the square footage/floor plans - plan where storage stuff and table/mini kitchen would go etc and asked DH for his help

He's basically dismissed everything and told me that his kayack is going in and that everything else will have to fit around it.

His kayak will only fit it its diagonal and he's refusing to have is hing from the ceiling (which means everyone will have to bend anyway to avoid concussion - there's no permission granted for lockable storage under either.

I asked him is he'd also maintain /paint do essential repairs as he does nothing at home-answer- no im happy just to have somewhere for a kettle and a kayack. No consideration for anyone else or anyone else's enjoyment of it.

I've told him I'm withdrawing from it then- which he's having a huge strop.

I already do every shred of maintencance/work/upkeep on our home he helps with nothing- he has a home office which looks like he's Mr Trebus's protégée ND can just see myself wishing I'd not bothered.

Am I being unreasonable to withdraw (and think £18k for a kayack storage facility because DH is too fucking lazy to take his out of the shed and onto the car) and look elsewhere for myself and he kids?

[edited to correct copy and paste errors at OP's request]

Good move pre arranging getting it fitted out.

Tell him you're getting the keys a week later than is the case, don't mention carpenter coming.
Get all excited about "today we get the keys, it's our first day in beach hut"
Have a little token huff when he delays your outing while he gets the sodding kayak on roof rack.
Look surprised when it won't fit.
"aw never mind"

WHAT lovely pictures!! I am so glad you are going ahead OP and well done for playing your DH at his own game. am now obsessively checking out beach huts. Genius idea!

I LOVE it OP.

Those pics aren't the OP's beach hut! She's keeping schtum about it so she's not identified.

Ah. Still love it though

OP says it's the kayak storage though

Was being sarcastic about calling it the kayack shed

Is the handy man coming back with plans?
If not then tell him exactly what he needs to do or you'll get some half baked thing that you'll be really disappointed with.

Tell us the measurements and let us help plan it.

Please, please...always refer to it as the kayak shed. Never let him forget about this episode of twattery. Every time people ask why it's called the kayak shed you can gleefully tell them the whole story.

"...and this pillock thought he could use it to store his kayak! HAHAHAHA what a berk!"

A friend has a beach hut and she can give ikea a run for their money when it comes to storage ideas. Some highlights : tray under the cupboard to keep wellies on, blanket chest for towels doubles as a seat with cushions on top, boards over part of the ceiling to store camping chairs in the roof space, hooks on walls to store fishing nets in eaves.
She also has a kayak which is stored inside in the winter on a chain pulley and chucked over the balustrade when the hut is in use. It goes under the hut in the summer.
I hope you get the hut of your dreams OP.

He's being a twat by wouldn't the kayak only be In there when it was locked up? He could take it and leave it in front of the when you're there right?

RTFT, Butt. That's been covered a gazillion times.

Well done OP
Glad you and your family will get a splendid base for seaside visits year round for years to come
(A friend always does mulled wine at hers on New Years Day)

You should name it Dunkayaking with a little kayak shaped name plaque on the front.
I enjoy reading beach hut names and speculating about them.

^^

I love your ideas! Now I really want a beach hut.

You know he's absolute twat, don't you?? Maybe it's time to rid yourself of his kayak for good...

Definitely something along the lines of Dunpaddling

I've got fingers and toes crossed you get the beach hut and turn it into the tiny space of your dreams (that's dreams, not nightmares. So no fucking kayaks!).

To the people saying fit it out beautifully then oh dear, kayak won't fit, I think they're sweetly underestimating the awfulness of this kind of man. I suspect he would think nothing of breaking the OP & dc's lovely things by jamming the kayak in, or actually physically ripping a unit out to make room for it.

This kind of man doesn't stop where kind and normal people would. It sounds like he's so selfish and ego driven that he can't quite believe that any wife actually has needs, desires or feelings that matter more than say, a plant pot.

OP, you clearly have relationship problems, but I think you'll probably deal with that in your own time. I'd say that this selfish little turd would deliberately try to take a beach hut off you in a divorce, deliberately, for no other reason than to take it away from you. So would strongly suggest going halves with your parents if at all possible.

If not I think you may have to look at this as a wonderful fulfilling of a dream in this moment, that you can love and get all the joy out of for as long as poss, but maybe not forever. Wonderful, but fleeting perhaps. I don't think it should stop you from getting it though - a wonderful opportunity that doesn't come around often at all. Let tomorrow look after itself. But make sure you get to seize the joy in the present... yay for the hut! And boo to the stupid kayak and the infantile blockhead that goes in it.

Btw, not a first world problem, more of a gilded cage...

I so want a beach hut! And to live near a beach...

He sounds like a Narc.......

LOL at Dunpaddlin .

Post photos of him scratching his nuts or napping on your FB page and tag him and a few mates. Include his selfishness at depriving the children of their beach hut. That way everyone sees it and he can't delete it.

I think mulled wine on New Years Day sounds lovely. MN party!!

WellThisIsShit Slight bit of embellishment there.