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Worried She is Having An Affair

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jamesk0001 · 14/04/2017 18:59

DW has lost a lot of weight over the last few months since the new year, going from 10 stone to 7 stone and is making a real effort to look better, going to the gym, wearing make up etc, buying new clothes.

Last night she went out with the girls and got home late. I was in bed and she thought I was asleep.

I noticed that when she got undressed she was wearing stockings and had totally shaved down there! She has never done that before and has not worn stockings since we got married 30 years ago!

In the morning she had already got up and dressed before I awoke. So I haven't officially seen the shaved area and am dying to bring it up but don't want to be told a lie!

Other changes are that she is always texting on her phone and has really gone off intimate times with me.

We are both in our 50s and this is burning me up!

Advice gratefully received!

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Crunchymum · 14/04/2017 19:00

She lost 3st in a few months? What's her secret?

MrsTerryPratchett · 14/04/2017 19:00

It sounds bad. Sorry.

SmileEachDay · 14/04/2017 19:01

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SusanDelfino · 14/04/2017 19:01

Yeah, sounds like an affair

Brokejoke · 14/04/2017 19:03

Well, if my dh had suddenly shaved I would just ask him about it. Same if he was texting all the time. Her losing weight and making more effort with her appearance doesn't mean she is having an affair though.

Funnyonion17 · 14/04/2017 19:05

I would be concerned about her going to 7st so fast firstly. The rest does sound suspicious hmm

FittonTower · 14/04/2017 19:07

Losing a nearly a third of her body weight that quickly does not sound healthy - have you checked she's ok? Do you talk? Maybe ask her what's going on

NoFuckingRoomOnMyBroom · 14/04/2017 19:09

Fucking hell, please ask her how she did the weight loss? Shock

WhooooAmI24601 · 14/04/2017 19:10

Nobody under the age of 400 wears stockings on a night out any more. YABU being married to a 400 year old.

Trifleorbust · 14/04/2017 19:11

Gosh. Did you get a horrible fright? I'm not sure stockings and a shaved wotsit would do it for my DH now, let alone 30 years from now Blush

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jamesk0001 · 14/04/2017 19:17

Weight loss is Slimming World, there is no sugar or fat in the house anywhere, not even for the cornflakes in the morning and all the milk has gone to red top (yuck!).

She also goes to the gym in the morning and evening for at least an hour every day which is new since the new year and cycles everywhere as well when she used to drive.

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Mrsknackered · 14/04/2017 19:43

WhooooAmI24601 I just laughed so hard at that.
7st? How tall is she? Hmm

HelenaWay · 14/04/2017 19:46
Hmm
Frillyhorseyknickers · 14/04/2017 19:53

You're in your 50s and using phrases like "burning me up"?!

CakesAreBiscuitsToo · 14/04/2017 19:55

My advice is to use far, far less exclamation marks.

Waffles80 · 14/04/2017 19:59

Agreed cakes. Sound advice.

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jamesk0001 · 14/04/2017 20:03

Christ, some people on here can be so unpleasant.

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HomityBabbityPie · 14/04/2017 20:07

Yeah ok, this definitely sounds real.

GeekyWombat · 14/04/2017 20:15

What lie do you think she would tell you for shaving her bits?

I'm just curious

shyturnip · 14/04/2017 20:16

Ditto the question of losing 3 stone! Shock

ghostyslovesheets · 14/04/2017 20:19

she's probably fed up of living with a man who wont buy his own bloody milk to be fair

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user1489261248 · 14/04/2017 20:29

I am struggling to believe all this too,

7 stone is underweight for any adult. Unless they are 4 feet 5 inches tall.

No-one wears stockings.

How did the OP see she had shaved 'down there' in the dark as she was getting undressed?

intimate times
burning me up

My kids used to use the phrase 'they have been having sexy times,' 'and they've been having intimate times' (referring to people shagging,) when they were 14.

I am going to hazard a guess that this is the approximate age of the OP.