Can you please help me settle an argument between my children?

[TheCuntess]

Because we have tried and failed.

Our children share a room. The eldest bought an Xbox with his birthday money a couple of years ago.
We have room for one TV in their room and no more. The youngest loves it, wants to have a go, wants his own, wants to share.
The eldest, give him his due is very generous but like most people has his limits.
Ordinarily we'd tell the youngest to save for his own and this would work but this is a gaming thing and I don't know what to do.

And no absolutely no gaming in the living room. Line already drawn.

I would take the tv out of the room! I'm not in favour of having tvs in rooms anyway but I don't think it's fair on your youngest this way.

Our ds 15 has a new x box +expensive bloody games he paid for with his bday cash. Ds 13+8 are allowed on if he is in his room with them but not unsupervised.

Maybe a compromise for you too.

Youngest should pay towards the Xbox or they buy the next version together.

He needs to either buy his own or buy 50% of his brothers then share the tv.

I say share. It is unfair to allow one sibling to buy something that is used in a shared bedroom and uses a shared TV, then say one sibling can't use it.

allegegretto, I said that when my children were toddlers. Do you have male kids 10+ and still refuse? If so, please tell me your rules! im genuinely listening.

I like your thinking isthisoonosy

What is the actual problem?

I'm not seeing the problem. Eldest already shares. Youngest can't have free reign, it isn't his. Youngest needs to accept this. What is the issue?

I think your younger ds should buy his own or ask for one as a birthday/Christmas gift and they get one hour each per evening.

I'm loving 'buying 50%' of it. This makes such good sense. Its the youngest birthday soon as well.

Doesn't seem like a problem to me. Eldest shares with youngest.

Is there another room DS can have the Xbox in? I don't think it's fair that he's saved up for one and is being forced to share it with his younger brother.

Do you have male kids 10+ and still refuse? If so, please tell me your rules! im genuinely listening.

What does their age and more importantly their sex have to do with it? You just say "no". They're children in your house. You set the rules. If you don't want tv inn bedrooms then don't have them. I don't. Mine are males aged 11 and 7 if it matters.

The problem is, I don't like tantrums 4 times a day.

That's thread enough.

They need to share. What's the argument?

You have children over 10 tantrumming?

I guess what I mean is why is the youngest having tantrums if his brother is, as per your OP, sharing with him?

I pointed out their sex just to fuck you off. Its mumsnet.

I think it's unfair for one child to have to share his space with an x box he isn't allowed on.

knob

My teens both have TVs and PS4s in their rooms. If they had to share there would be major problems and DH and I don't want them gaming in the living room as we use that TV.

I am not sure what I would do in your situation OP, if there's no room for another TV.

I think it's unfair to allow one child to have a consol knowing it's unacheivable for the younger child due to practical/space issues.

It's also not fair to expect oldest to share 50% when he paid for it. Nor do I think it's fair for youngest to have his game time dictated by eldest.

I like the idea of youngest buying 50% then they can have equal access

What HermioneJeanGranger said. Does the eldest want to sell 50% of it?

The TV is a shared resource?

The older one saved and bought the xbox but wishes to commandeer the shared resource?

Not fair.

I'd buy the younger one a smaller wall mounted TV and a set of ear phones for them both.