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To not pay for friend's taxi?

338 replies

GambaJoe · 23/01/2017 15:36

Best friend and I have been very excited to go to a mutual friend of ours wedding for some time.

Beat friend has recently had a baby so is excited to let her hair down and show off her baby.

I've recently learned to drive and have my license. I am still a nervous driver and friend is now assuming that I'll be driving her and baby to wedding.

The thing is: I don't want a baby in my car. I don't feel ready to have that responsibility on my shoulders (not only for a worse case scenario but also crying while driving ect)

Friend is now in a huff and expecting me to pay or contribute to her getting there and getting back home.

WWYD? Drive the baby or help/pay taxi fare

OP posts:
MolyBoly · 23/01/2017 15:38

Tell her to fuck off. Is she seriously expecting you to pay for her taxi?!

loaferloveforyou · 23/01/2017 15:40

What Moly said

FutureMrsRanj · 23/01/2017 15:41

What contribution was she planning on making to your lift when she expected you to drive her? And how close do you live? When she says she wants a contribution does she mean because she expects you to also be in the taxi? Just trying to understand how this has come about?

fruityb · 23/01/2017 15:42

What she said. If you don't want to drive a baby that would be fair enough in my eyes - I drive with my son but someone else's is a big responsibility too. If she can't get there no way is it up to you to pay for her there - are you her skivvy?? I'd be telling her to get stuffed if she asked that!

BrowsOnFleek · 23/01/2017 15:43

Why is she under the impression that you will chauffeur her around?

Don't pay the taxi or take the baby. Meet her there! Does she normally act this entitled or has the stress of a newborn gone to her head..

BreconBeBuggered · 23/01/2017 15:43

Hang on, hang on. How are you planning to get there yourself? So we can get the full picture.

VeryBitchyRestingFace · 23/01/2017 15:45

WWYD? Drive the baby or help/pay taxi fare

I would paraphrase the great Phil Collins:

you're no friend/you're no friend of mine

Part with not one bean for her.

Aeroflotgirl · 23/01/2017 15:46

My goodness what is your friend on. I would not like my child to be driven by a nervous new driver. She can bloody pay for a cab, cheeky mare!

paddypants13 · 23/01/2017 15:47

Pahahahaha! She's a chancer. It's not your issue if she can't get to and from the wedding. I would offer to split the price of taxis if her place isn't too far out of the way. If she got shirty about it I'd leave her to it.

Bluntness100 · 23/01/2017 15:47

I'm confused to, are you driving by yourself and uour friend now needs to get a taxi by herself with the baby?

Original poster
GambaJoe · 23/01/2017 15:48

Hi Future friend obviously was counting on me getting license and didn't plan alternative transport, so got quite the shock when I told her that while I'm happy taking her in car (we go Tescos together for our "big shop" so she can use my boot), i don't want her DD. She took offense as she thought I was implying DD is a "bad" baby.

Apparently I should contribute as I didn't tell her earlier that DD could come in my car and that I'm spoiling her first night out as a mum. It'd come to around £100-130 both ways. So while I can understand she doesn't want to pay that herself, I've also got my own car and bills to pay and it's stupid to me to pay (I'm not a drinker, so if I stop with alcohol after the toast and stick to fizzys I'll be OK to drive by the time I'm ready to go home

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FutureMrsRanj · 23/01/2017 15:49

I would also add that as a driver of 15 ish years who drives a minimum of two hours a day I refuse to drive newborn babies, because I have before and the edginess of pfb mothers puts me on edge, I hate it and wouldn't do it as a new driver

MakeLemonade · 23/01/2017 15:51

Could you all get a taxi and then you can have drink?

MakeLemonade · 23/01/2017 15:52

Cross posts! I think it's fair enough, your car, your rules. Simple as that.

Of course you shouldn't pay for her.

ChicRock · 23/01/2017 15:52

Ok, if this friend lives eg. next door to you, or round the corner from you, and you're planning on driving yourself to the wedding but won't give her a lift then you're being ridiculous.

Regardless, friend is being ridiculous to expect you to contribute towards her taxi.

You probably both need to give your heads anwibble.

Nospringflower · 23/01/2017 15:52

Well i would drive her & baby. It seems ridiculous that you are going anyway and wont take them with you!

I know its not your fault but it is a huge amount that it will save her.

ChicRock · 23/01/2017 15:52

*a wobble Grin

xStefx · 23/01/2017 15:53

tell her your not driving cos you want a drink and of course you don't have to pay for her taxi

Ilovecaindingle · 23/01/2017 15:53

Trying to stay I partial why not offer to do a short journey with her and the baby to see how you feel?
I worry you have labelled yourself a nervous driver and this will stick in your mind for longer than it should.

I was a nervous driver but managed to drive to Portugal without a mishap!! Not saying her attitude is in any way correct but you may be selling your driving skills short!!

purplefizz26 · 23/01/2017 15:53

I think you are being a bit mean if you are planning on driving yourself, and would have taken your friend, but are refusing to take the baby.

If you aren't driving yourself there then she is being ridiculous.

Either way, it's your choice and you certainly don't owe her taxi money.

NerrSnerr · 23/01/2017 15:53

I'd be a bit miffed if I was the friend and couldn't drive and you were going, had room in your car but wouldn't take me so I had to pay hundreds for a taxi. I wouldn't expect the friend to pay for the taxi though.

KinkyAfro · 23/01/2017 15:55

Regardless of how you get there it's not your responsibility to get her there or pay her taxi

ChicRock · 23/01/2017 15:56

You're driving yourself anyway, and would happily take your friend, but you are refusing to take her baby, and it'll cost her about £100 in taxi fares.

Well that's a bit off OP Confused. Really mean actually.

sum1killthepawpatrollers · 23/01/2017 15:56

when is the wedding?

AmeliaJack · 23/01/2017 15:57

It is not your responsibility to arrange her transport. Would she have expected you to fund her travel if you had failed?

Did she contribute to your driving lessons?

She's being ridiculous.