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To set up fake fb account

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WynterBlossom · 09/01/2017 19:33

To message my exes new gf to advise her I am pregnant as I have reasons to believe he hasn't told her...realistically I know it's not my business whether she knows or not as she will likely find out once the baby arrives, however, I feel if she knows now & the circumstances...then she can get her head around it just in case he decides he wants contact with our son as I'd like to meet her too!

To message ex when the baby is here??

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StillMaidOfStars · 09/01/2017 19:35

Why fake? She'll know who it is?

AddToBasket · 09/01/2017 19:35

No, don't do this. It looks immature and weak. Just deal with him.

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WynterBlossom · 09/01/2017 19:36

I was going to message as a "3rd person".

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JellyWitch · 09/01/2017 19:37

Just do it as yourself. Much more mature.

FilledSoda · 09/01/2017 19:38

God no , don't go there.
Your ex is the one you need to talk to , not his gf,

harderandharder2breathe · 09/01/2017 19:38

Either do it as yourself or not at all. A fake 3rd party is childish

pipsqueak25 · 09/01/2017 19:41

sorry but you are just going to look really stupid, why would she care anyway if you are pregnant, it's not her problem.

RumAppleGinger · 09/01/2017 19:41

No idea that starts with "should I create a fake facebook account" is a good one whatever the reason that follows maybe.

Don't contact her. She isn't your problem and she will find out sooner or later. Concentrate on your self and your baby. Congratulations on your pregnancy.

Patriciathestripper1 · 09/01/2017 19:42

Don't do it. Stay out of their relationship. She probably already knows.
Wouldn't your ex already know when baby is due? Surly if he is interested he will contact you?

pipsqueak25 · 09/01/2017 19:43

do you still have feelings for him ? i just wondering why you want her to get her head round it ?

Deadsouls · 09/01/2017 19:43

Are you really concerned that she gets her head around it in case he wants contact, or is it because you suspect that he hadn't told her? Do you know her from before?

I'd favour just being straight about it and direct. This is manipulation.

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WynterBlossom · 09/01/2017 19:44

Kind of is her problem, she's with a guy who has a baby on the way who is trying to run away from responsibility

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MoonshineJungle · 09/01/2017 19:45

No because once it comes out that you are the fake profile you're going to look very silly.

Maudlinmaud · 09/01/2017 19:45

You will look immature and a bit mad. It's not up to you to tell his gf.

19lottie82 · 09/01/2017 19:46

No don't do it over Facebook, especially anonymously..... you're not 12 and that's just cruel.

If you're going to tell her get her number and call her.

Ilovecaindingle · 09/01/2017 19:46

Do you still have him on fb? Just send him a message relating to the baby and she will see it.

Imo she should have access to the full facts about her new bf so she can make a decision about their future together before heaven forbid she is lax about contraception or believes he can't have kids or some crap.
And ends up alone with a baby like you. .

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WynterBlossom · 09/01/2017 19:46

If he intends to have contact with the baby & also be with her or anyone....I want to be the one to approach her aside from him to speak with her personally as I would like that eventually she would meet me for my sons sake.

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Deadsouls · 09/01/2017 19:47

If you want to tell her, can't you just do it directly? Why does it have to be a fake FB account? Have you been blocked?

ilovesooty · 09/01/2017 19:47

Deal with your ex and any arrangements you intend to make. I don't see why you need to contact her at all let alone via a fake Facebook account.

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WynterBlossom · 09/01/2017 19:48

Myself & my ex haven't spoken in 8 weeks....I haven't even spoken to his family.

He blocked me on his Facebook, so I couldn't message if I wanted too.

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TheresABluebirdOnMyShoulder · 09/01/2017 19:49

"why would she care anyway if you are pregnant, it's not her problem."

Wow. Clearly living in a different universe to me. I think it would probably impact on my life ever so slightly if my boyfriend was expecting a baby with another woman.

Squiff85 · 09/01/2017 19:49

I'd do it. You have nothing to loose!

Birdsgottafly · 09/01/2017 19:49

If he hasn't told her and you make a fake profile, then your both playing games and lying to this innocent third person.

As said you should be concentrating on communicating properly with your ex.

Or your head is going to be done in with it all, as the years go by, you don't need to be creating additional drama.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 09/01/2017 19:49

I want to be the one to approach her aside from him to speak with her personally as I would like that eventually she would meet me for my sons sake.

This is between you and your ex.

She has every right to not want to speak separately with you.

ilovesooty · 09/01/2017 19:50

Perhaps you'd better be looking at legal pathways to ensure he takes responsibility for his child then. I still don't see why she has anything to do with it.

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