To set up fake fb account

[WynterBlossom]

To message my exes new gf to advise her I am pregnant as I have reasons to believe he hasn't told her...realistically I know it's not my business whether she knows or not as she will likely find out once the baby arrives, however, I feel if she knows now & the circumstances...then she can get her head around it just in case he decides he wants contact with our son as I'd like to meet her too!

To message ex when the baby is here??

I don't know the girl, I've not ever met her....if my ex has contact, so does she....I want an amicable mutual arrangement or!! Shall I just end this all together & move away??

Take control & just cut any potential contact he might have wanted with our son

"she can get her head around it" oh come on if you in any way meant that you'd not be coming up with juvenile fake Facebook profiles. Grow up. Or phone Jeremy Kyle.

Why aren't you taking legal advice regarding his contribution?

The contact arrangements are between you and your ex not the gf.

SM get berated on here constantly for getting involved in contact.

Wow. Clearly living in a different universe to me. I think it would probably impact on my life ever so slightly if my boyfriend was expecting a baby with another woman.

I agree, if I was the other woman & he didn't tell me his ex was pregnant, I'd question the kind of guy he is!

They might split up next week! Honestly, who knows what's going to happen. You will seem slightly unhinged, sorry. Just concentrate on yourself and your baby (congratulations by the way). If you do anything, be grown up about it, not sneaky/made up stuff. That's just silly.

You need to deal directly with your ex. It's not his girlfriend's responsibility to handle this and you don't want to get into a load of Facebook drama. That's for kids. Tell him you are pregnant if he doesn't already know and leave it at that. It's then up to him whether he does the decent thing and communicates with you. You can go after him for maintenance later on. Concentrate on your baby and keeping yourself calm and healthy. Do you have family to support you?

"she can get her head around it" oh come on if you in any way meant that you'd not be coming up with juvenile fake Facebook profiles. Grow up. Or phone Jeremy Kyle.

I have been blocked....it is not juvenile....I do not have her number so cannot call or text.

Don't tell her. You're doing it to get at him, not for her benefit.

I know it's tempting, but Seriously, be the better person. She will find out eventually.

I'm guessing you've already made your mind up though and it won't make one bit of difference what people on here advise you to do?

It's not to get at him in the slightest.....it may look that way but honestly it's nothing to do with him.

It's to do with my son, the one who's been dropped by his father.

This was my way of reaching out, maybe if she did know then she would possibly encourage contact.

It's a very immature response TBH.

Your ex is having a baby with you. That is between him and you. Your ex is in a relationship with another person, that is between him and them. You need to be concentrating on the baby, not on what your ex is doing. If he doesn't want contact, you go to CMS and claim exactly what you are entitled to. If he wants contact, you work with him to come to an arrangement that works for you, him and the baby. None of this has anything to do with a new girlfriend.

Be very, very careful throwing around threats to move away. He can take you to court, apply for PR and t just makes the entire situation much more acrimonious.

This reeks to me of jealousy though if I'm completely honest.

There is absolutely no reason to do this other than vindictiveness, and I suspect you know that otherwise you wouldn't have posted.

If she sticks around, she'll find out, and can make her own mind up about whether she wants to stay with him or not. All messaging will do is feed the line he's no doubt giving her about what a loon you are, and what a lucky escape he had.

Think back 10, 15 or 20 years. There was no Facebook & not a lot of internet. What would you have done then?
Agree with other posters that you need to address the subject with the resposible progenitor.

OP, I sense that you want to do something, but really, listen to what most posters are saying to you. This is not for your son, how can it be? If you want your ex to have contact, then deal with it properly and maturely, with HIM, not his new girlfriend, via a fake name, on flipping Facebook!

It would be so obvious that it's you - who else would bother making a fake profile up to impart that news?

In the nicest way possible, this is a really bad idea

I can see why you want to do it, but at the end of the day it's up to ur ex to tell his girlfriend that he is expecting a baby with you. If you do what you want to do, you will just come across crazy and bitter.

Stay well out of it all, and concentrate on just you and baby. Yes he is trying to run away from his actions but you telling his girlfriend is not going to change anything. She can't force him to take responsibility. Also what your saying about when the baby comes regarding access, sort that out when the baby is here, not now. A lot can change in a few months.

I tried to contact him previously, he called the bloody police!

It's not a threat of moving away....I'm now being faced with having to move & this would be my opportunity to get away.

Somewhere him & his family don't know where we are, take control & decide what happens next

Doing that would make you look really weird
Sleep on it

Telling her is fine, but doing it through a fake Facebook account is immature and won't help your case. He'll just say it's someone trying to stir trouble.

Why not do it through your own account? You don't need to add her, just send her a message and tell her. What she does with that information is upto her.

There is absolutely no need to be involving her at this stage. Your ex is the one who needs to make the decision whether to have contact, regardless of what his new partner says.

Why is she being involved anyway? How long have they been together? My child certainly wouldn't be meeting my ex's new partner if they've only been together for 5 minutes.

Did you post a few weeks ago about an argument you had at his mums house?

I have been blocked....it is not juvenile....I do not have her number so cannot call or text.

I bet she does actually know.

If you don't know her how are you already blocked?

Also, fake FB pages are usually very obvious!
When are you due?