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To want to visit George Michaels house

227 replies

jazzy57uk · 27/12/2016 23:11

I am a MASSIVE fan of 30+ years, have every record, TV/radio appearance and clippings galore. I am devastated by his death and would like to visit his London home to say goodbye. OH says is childish, pathetic and not appropriate- it's a private matter that should only be for people who actually knew him. I know he'll be massively disappointed if a go but I'll regret it if I don't. WWYD?

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TheresAGhostYouFools · 27/12/2016 23:15

I adored him too, so I do understand how you feel. However, I'm not sure visiting his house will necessarily help? I'm skint, but as soon as I'm able, I will make a small donation to one of the charities he supported - could you do something like that? I'm sure, given his generosity in life, that he would approve!

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 27/12/2016 23:15

I would stay away and let his family morn in peace tbh.

Sparklingbrook · 27/12/2016 23:15

I don't really understand why anyone would want to do this. You don't have to visit his house to pay your respects.

What would you do when you got there?

quicklydecides · 27/12/2016 23:16

How do you know where his London home is?
I saw photos of fans hugging his Jeep and cringed for them.

DonaldStott · 27/12/2016 23:16

I have read many a thread saying if you didn't know them personally, you should not be allowed to mourn their death. What utter bollocks. Go if you want to pay tribute. Amy Winehouse meant a lot to all our family although we didn't know her. She was special to us and reminds us of havinh her tunes on at parties, karakoe, family time etc. She touched all of us. It's not pathetic. Its acknowledging what they meant to you at certain important times in your life.

sj257 · 27/12/2016 23:16

I can't see how visiting his house will help.

HopelesslydevotedtoGu · 27/12/2016 23:17

What do you mean by visiting his home? Stand outside it in the street?

I'm afraid I agree that mourning at the deceased's home is for those who knew them personally, not fans of their public persona. Although I don't think its fair to call you 'pathetic', your dh is having quite a strong reaction here

If you feel you need to say goodbye, I would find your own way of doing it at home

dontbesillyhenry · 27/12/2016 23:17

Well if it's good enough for Heather Trott...

Sparklingbrook · 27/12/2016 23:17

I think you can acknowledge your sadness over a celebrity's death in so many other ways than visiting their home.

cbigs · 27/12/2016 23:18

What would it mean to you op? Tell your oh to fuck off. He'll be disappointed if you go? Hmmhe's not your dad tell him you're disappointed he's got no fucking empathy. I wasn't a massive fan but your grief is just that . Flowers

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe · 27/12/2016 23:19

I'm also a massive fan, but I'd never intrude his family's privacy by going to his house.

Maybe going to a church and lighting a candle would be more appropriate.

DancingDragon · 27/12/2016 23:22

I wouldn't go. I expect lots of people feel like that and have been outside his home. i think thats a bit much on the family. Isn't there something else you can do instead?

Destinysdaughter · 27/12/2016 23:23

I would have gone to Paisley Park after Prince died if I could have afforded it. If it is something you feel compelled to do and will make you feel better then do it, sod what anyone else thinks!

MrsTerryPratchett · 27/12/2016 23:26

The family have said that they are touched by people's reactions so maybe it's not such an awful idea. If it helps the family understand how many lives he touched.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 27/12/2016 23:26

sod what anyone else thinks!

Including the family that are grieving and might not want people turging up on their doorstep?

What a delightful way to think Hmm

WhereYouLeftIt · 27/12/2016 23:28

Oh FFS. DOn't be an arse. His family have just lost a much-loved son, and you want to go and trample all over their grief. Get a grip!

CruCru · 27/12/2016 23:32

Please don't. It's disruptive for the family to have a load of strangers camping outside and it will really annoy the neighbours.

I like the idea of donating to a charity that he supported.

Katinkka · 27/12/2016 23:33

Oh god. Don't be silly.

RJnomore1 · 27/12/2016 23:35

Some very harsh replies. I'm sure op isn't intending knocking the door and collapsing on a family member in floods of tears.

Op if your husband would truly be disappointed you did it he is an arse.

I do think there are perhaps better ways to celebrate his life, particularly the charity donation, but you are mourning a loss, it may be the loss of an ideal rather than a real person but you should be allowed to mourn and go through that process.

MargotLovedTom · 27/12/2016 23:36

Yep, I agree with your husband.

Pseudonym99 · 27/12/2016 23:38

Get a grip

Sparklingbrook · 27/12/2016 23:39

I have just seen the pictures where' fans' are writing in the dust in what they believe to be GM's car and one is hugging it. Confused

People are placing flowers but they soon will be scooped up and taken away/binned.

A donation to charity would be nicer/more useful surely?

I am a huge GM fan but I don't understand it all.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 27/12/2016 23:42

If it means that much to you go. I wouldn't make a song and dance about it though. Just do it quietly and privately.

Cherrysoup · 27/12/2016 23:43

Yabu. You didn't know him personally.

ShowMePotatoSalad · 27/12/2016 23:44

You're probably one of thousands of people who want to do this. Imagine losing a loved one then having to deal with the inevitable fallout of thousands of people stood outside your home.

Please don't go to his house.