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To want to visit George Michaels house

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jazzy57uk · 27/12/2016 23:11

I am a MASSIVE fan of 30+ years, have every record, TV/radio appearance and clippings galore. I am devastated by his death and would like to visit his London home to say goodbye. OH says is childish, pathetic and not appropriate- it's a private matter that should only be for people who actually knew him. I know he'll be massively disappointed if a go but I'll regret it if I don't. WWYD?

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Waltermittythesequel · 28/12/2016 17:34

*craziness not crazies!

CoconutAmericano · 28/12/2016 17:35

Go if you feel a pull to go, I cant see the harm, but to say you are devastated by his death is in all honesty waaay ott. God help you if you ever lose an actual loved one, if a stranger's death has devastated you Hmm

Sparklingbrook · 28/12/2016 17:37

Mmm. OP never returned to the thread did they? I am guessing they went.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 28/12/2016 17:44

Sparkers, maybe OP will be photographed laying her flowers, she can cut it out/ save it to a disc and tell her future grandchildren' I was there' .

Sorry to be arsey OP but that's what it's all about and it's 'I was there', self congratulatory bollocks.

Sparklingbrook · 28/12/2016 17:47

Yes, so the grandchildren can be suitably Hmm

AnUtterIdiot · 28/12/2016 17:47

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WhereYouLeftIt · 28/12/2016 17:51

AnUtterIdiot - don't you think his publicist and staff might be grieving too? They're not robots and they actually knew the man.

AnUtterIdiot · 28/12/2016 17:59

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Sparklingbrook · 28/12/2016 18:03

You would have to feel sorry for the poor florist trying to make that delivery....

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 28/12/2016 18:06

Grief wanking
Seems almost a national passtime since Diana died and now everyone can watch thanks to social media
Yuk just yuk

dataandspot · 28/12/2016 18:08

It's being ignored on the thread but surely his family won't be in his houses. So I don't see any harm in taking flowers.

twinklefoot · 28/12/2016 18:08

I don't see the problem OP as destinysdaughter says I contemplated going to Prince's house but knew I would never get that past DH Smile. And yes it wasbcompletely nuts too! I realise now what I was mourning was my youth more than anything else and that is a really powerful thing. I would go with how you feel. George Michael was a public figure and with that comes all the other stuff unfortunately.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 28/12/2016 18:13

Did any of the George-pilgrims bother to visit him last week? See his house? Collect some gravel/dig up paving slabs from his property?

twinklefoot, no, that 'other stuff' most definitely doesn't come with it. Only the most self-absorbed and attention-seeking people would think of intruding at this point. It's a sign of the 'look at MEeeee' times... but its definitely not normal or acceptable to most people.

twinklefoot · 28/12/2016 18:14

And to everyone saying it's superficial grieving just fuck off! It really is not I was absolutely devastated when Prince died and I was completely shocked by my reaction as I'm not sentimental at all. An icon dying is actually quite a complex scenerio and should not be brushed off by anyone.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 28/12/2016 18:14

It's absolutely grotesque and, as hobnobs says, plain grief wanking. Urgh.

Waltermittythesequel · 28/12/2016 18:16

An icon dying is actually quite a complex scenerio and should not be brushed off by anyone.

It's really, really not.

Roussette · 28/12/2016 18:17

But what a complete and utter waste of money to actually send flowers. The only people to benefit are the florists. The family or whoever takes delivery of them are hardly going to arrange them in a vase and put them on the dining table with a card in front of them. Most likely they will bin them. Harsh but true. They have other things to sort out and think about.

Doing something is to donate, why not do that? I honestly think it's so you can say I had flowers delivered to GM's house. It's really self indulgent.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 28/12/2016 18:17

It's not 'grieving' though, is it? You/we didn't know them, have interaction with them. It doesn't mean that we can't be extremely sad that they've gone. I was shocked and saddened most by Alan Rickman's death; I really will miss his incredible talent but I wouldn't have dreamed of stalking his home, sending flowers or feigning 'grief' because I didn't know him, as much as he was a part of my growing up with his acting roles.

They are human beings - and they have families and friends - and fans, yes, but fans are on the periphery and that's their place.

twinklefoot · 28/12/2016 18:18

I really don't think it's a look at me thing at all. I never once thought about it like that I just wanted to be around other people who felt the same way. I would never have gone through with it tbh. OP I would start an appreciation thread like the Prince one that really helped everyone and some of the posters met up at a Prince Tribute concert!

twinklefoot · 28/12/2016 18:21

Some people found music in their teens and twenties and an integral part of their lives. It's not really about the star in a sickly stalkerly sort of way!Confused

Roussette · 28/12/2016 18:30

George Michael was an integral part of my life, I love his music and I was shockened and saddened at his untimely death. I still wouldn't go to his house though.

But so what... people are going, so that's their prerogative. Personally I find it crass, especially the car hugger!

holeinyourhead · 28/12/2016 18:46

Ah OP do what feels right for you, not your husband, or George Michael's family. When a celebrity dies you can't go to their funeral and pay your respects so go to their house by all means. Their family will be expecting hoards of people to come and it seems he had no family living in Goring with him anyway, so there's no one to upset. And as for your DH - so what if he's disappointed. You have answered your own question, you would regret it, so go and do what you need to do. I went to Kensington Palace when Diana died (along with millions of other blubbering people who would probably not admit to it now) and felt better for it.

EachandEveryone · 28/12/2016 18:52

I actually think any flowers sent today the house will be sent to the nearest hospital/hospice/care home cos he was like that.

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe · 28/12/2016 19:00

Ah OP do what feels right for you, not your husband, or George Michael's family

Yes don't worry about his family and what they would want at all, as long as you're OK Confused

MaQueen · 28/12/2016 19:19

God help you, if you can be 'absolutely devastated' by the death of a complete stranger.

It's turned grief into a competitive sport. I remember the rampant grieving for Madeline McCann, posters insisting they hadn't slept for days...had been sent home from work for uncontrollable crying etc.

I think a certain personality type actively enjoys this sort of mawkish/macabre behaviour and derive a lot of vicarious pleasure from acting it out.