To want to visit George Michaels house

[jazzy57uk]

I am a MASSIVE fan of 30+ years, have every record, TV/radio appearance and clippings galore. I am devastated by his death and would like to visit his London home to say goodbye. OH says is childish, pathetic and not appropriate- it's a private matter that should only be for people who actually knew him. I know he'll be massively disappointed if a go but I'll regret it if I don't. WWYD?

"if you know his address, then send some flowers"

So his Dad, or siblings or partner are inside of the house trying to sort out how they handle all of this and keeping away from the press and people while they quietly grieve, and the doorbell goes and it's Interflora with a message saying "George, I love you. From Janice in Bolton"

That would go down well wouldn't it...

People went to Amy winehouses flat princes compound etc it brought them comfort I dont understand it personally but I wouldn't call somebody who did it pathetic. Op im sorry your husband is being a dick about your sadness my Dh is the same about these deaths I do think going to his house is an intrusion on his families privacy could you maybe find another way to remember him.

His house will probably be empty wont it? Why would his family have decamped to his home? They have homes of their own and his well publicised address will be the last pace they will be if they want any peace of the next couple of weeks. They'll know all the grief tourists will be hanging about outside. Sorry OP. I too think it's very self indulgent to want to do this. You didn't know him he didn't know you.

Oh god that car hugging is bizarre.

"If it brings you comfort" comfort from what exactly? A musician died. He wasn't known to the people outside the house. He wasn't known to the people sending flowers. The music which people remember him for is still out there. MTV and the like have been practically playing it on a loop in fact. This is not anyone's loss here.

It would likely be more helpful if the people who are so grief-stricken by the deaths of people they didn't actually know took a look a bit closer to home to find out what is missing from their own lives in order that they sort that out rather than projecting on to these particular situations.

I would laugh if a bemused stranger came out and got into that range rover, having removed the loons clinging on to it, and took it straight to the car wash.

That fan looks like Yvette Fielding misses the point

Can you imagine being the car hugger going into work the next day?

Never mind bizarre - the car hugging is bloody hilarious.

I hope she has enough sanity self-awareness to feel a bit sheepish once all the hysteria has died down a bit.

The woman who played his GF in the Last Christmas video was outside his house doing the sadface to the Daily Mail too.

And the crazy woman from the Last Christmas video wasn't even the 'girlfriend' - just some randomer in the video.

I thought we were supposed to believe she was the GF but he would have rather have been with the dark haired girl? Or neither of them as it turned out.

What happened to being stoic and getting on with our every day life in the event of a well known personality dying?

There's 'don't keep the tears in, let it out' but it seems to have overtaken ' keep it together and stay calm'.

OP you aren't grieving for GM because you did not know him, personally. Seeing him on TV, or in concert does not equate to knowing him. It just doesn't.

You are grieving for your idea of him and that's a totally different thing. A rather mawkish thing, to be honest.

What you actually know is his music, and that certainly hasn't died, and you can enjoy it into perpetuity.

I have zero time for Grief Tourists. Genuine grief is completely incapacitating, and cannot be 'cured' by catching the tube and putting some forecourt flowers on the pavement.

If only it could...

He was a very private person - it's not appropriate for strangers to turn up outside his house. His family and friends are entitled to some privacy.

I'd say do what you want to do and stop worrying what everyone else thinks. It's not up to your DH or MNers. I can understand why you want to even though it doesn't make practical sense. You won't be harming anyone.

Yes OP, be as crass as you like, it's YOUR 'grief' that matters after all, you hearted him MORE than anybody else, certainly you should be allowed - and indeed encouraged - to visit his home. It doesn't matter that you weren't any part of his life, it's your RIGHT, dammit! Go and join the other cling-ons who are wallowing in self-indulgent wailing and weeping everywhere...

I'm sure, if you wait around, the family will let you take your rightful place in the cortege. If not, you can just overtake it and take a selfie... after all, it's your right to do what you WANT.

I genuinely can't understand this level of grief for a stranger. You didn't know him as a person you just knew his public persona. The reports suggest he was a good person but I have no idea what he was like in real life. This sort of obsession suggests a void in a person's life that they have filled with a construct based on a person they don't really know.

Some people are just plain weird. The man died a couple of days ago, he's not even in the ground yet and people want to visit his home's. If you're really stuck for something to do over the Christmas break try visiting a soup kitchen or do something to help someone else. He was a very charitable man who gave thousand to various charities privately. What's the point of going to his home, he isn't there you're not going to see him or is it so that you can say " I was there when....( fill in the blanks) leave his family and real friends to grieve for goodness sake.

Seriously get a grip. How is visiting his house going to benefit you? And why is it that when someone is supposedly 'mourning' a celebrity, it suddenly becomes about that person and how they are feeling? What about reality??! the deceased's family? If a friend died would you be going round to their house and intrude on the family's pain and grief? In this instance you don't even have this in common with them!

I can't understand why someone who felt so driven to go to his house wouldn't pull themselves up and make a donation to one of his favourite charities instead, now that is worthwhile. He gave to McMillan, Childline, Terence Higgins Trust etc. Make a gesture like that instead because hanging around outside his house is all about you. Not him

I would rather be saying to my DCs... oh yes George Michael, he was wonderful and when he died I gave some money to the McMillan nurses in his honour as it was a charity that meant a lot to him.

I can't believe the crazies on this thread!

It's self-indulgent, invasive nonsense to show up at his bloody home.

You didn't know him. He wasn't a friend. He didn't give a shit if his song got you through a tough time in your life.

The people who knew him have a right to grieve him.

MTV are playing all his videos. Watch them if you wish.

Don't be a car hugger.

It's because superficial grieving has been raised to a performance art. You're not grieving, unless you're seen to be grieving...standing forlornly on the pavement, before forlornly hunkering down to place your little IKEA tealight & bunch of Asda carnations. Whilst your mate takes your photo and instantly uploads it...#heartbroken.

Ideally, someone in the meeja will spot your blatant forlornness and ask you for your precious words of inane drivel wisdom.

Do please, please, please fuck orf and stop casting yourself as the tremulous, but brave heroine in your tawdry little self indulgent soap tragi-opera.