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To Be Upset That My Alledged Best Friend Has Invited My Ex-H Over For Sups?

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OhCallistoSolo · 01/11/2016 21:57

Looking for some perspective here as I really don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not.

I haven't been invited by my best friend for supper (or anything else for that matter) since January. My ex-h has been invited twice that I know of, and the other couple we all see have been regular visitors. My best friend, with and without her husband, has been for sups with me countless times. Every time she comes over she tells me that she must invite me round for sups. Am I being over-sensitive to feel really upset that my ex-h gets and invite when I don't?

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PurpleDaisies · 01/11/2016 22:00

You aren't unreasonable to be upset, although it is difficult when you're friends with both members of a couple that splits up. Have you just got into a pattern where she comes to you instead of you going to her?

You are unreasonable for using the words "sups".

Iamcheeseman · 01/11/2016 22:04

Ask her about it.
And please don't write 'sups' ever again!

Queenbean · 01/11/2016 22:05

Do you think you don't get invited because you say "sups"?

ArmySal · 01/11/2016 22:06

I never get invited for sups Sad

KenDoddsDadsDog · 01/11/2016 22:07

Sups in my house is a bowl of shreddies. Make your own .

ParadiseCity · 01/11/2016 22:07

Give her a call and ask wassup?

YANBU though.

Oldraver · 01/11/2016 22:08

SUPS ? WTF

Fruitboxjury · 01/11/2016 22:09

Do you also go on holibobs together? Sorry you're finding it difficult but all I can think about is what an awful word sups is. Perhaps you can suggest breks instead if sups isn't working.

DamePastel · 01/11/2016 22:10

no you are not being unreasonable.

She's nailed her colours to the mast there.

Electrolens · 01/11/2016 22:10

YANBU. But she maybe just doesn't realise it's been an unequal balance and enjoys coming to yours because you dish up amazing sups. If she's your best friend call and say 'can I come over on Friday'.

ChuckGravestones · 01/11/2016 22:10

What are you supping, as a matter of interest?

SailingThroughTime · 01/11/2016 22:10

Invite her for sipsies and ask her what's up.

DamePastel · 01/11/2016 22:10

Is sups short for supper or is it sups like 'drinks'.
I'm not from the uk

Cucumber5 · 01/11/2016 22:11

Next time she says 'ah we must do sups at mine' WHIP OUT YOUR DIARY and say when?!

ArmySal · 01/11/2016 22:12

I'm lost on sups, Dame, and I'm from the UK.

Queenbean · 01/11/2016 22:13

Dame sups is dinner and sips is drinks

Snozz is sleep, breks is breakfasts, shuh is shower

And one never says "going to town". You'd say "visiting the City"

Anniegetyourgun · 01/11/2016 22:14

Is sups short for supper or is it sups like 'drinks'. I'm not from the uk

I am from the UK and I am pleased to say I have never come across the word used in this way before. I hope never to do so again.

Come on, someone tell us how mean we are all being :P

SaucyJack · 01/11/2016 22:14

Do you live in a dorm at Malory Towers?

Ledkr · 01/11/2016 22:14

Grin Grin Grin
You lot are on fire tonight!

Fancy a cuppa anyone?

Antifrank · 01/11/2016 22:15

I always thought sups was slang for blow job

katienana · 01/11/2016 22:15

It's what posh people call dinner. I have a friend who said this and we were like "huh? Supper is toast and a glass of milk!"

OhCallistoSolo · 01/11/2016 22:15

Had no idea the word 'sups' is so offensive. Its just short for supper.

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ParadiseCity · 01/11/2016 22:16

Or see what happens at Crimbo?

Nurszilla · 01/11/2016 22:17

You're not being unreasonable to be upset, however perhaps she can't bring herself to say "sups" and that is the reason for the lack of invite.

Ledkr · 01/11/2016 22:17

God I know I'm going to end up saying this by mistake Hmm

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