To Be Upset That My Alledged Best Friend Has Invited My Ex-H Over For Sups?

[OhCallistoSolo]

Looking for some perspective here as I really don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not.

I haven't been invited by my best friend for supper (or anything else for that matter) since January. My ex-h has been invited twice that I know of, and the other couple we all see have been regular visitors. My best friend, with and without her husband, has been for sups with me countless times. Every time she comes over she tells me that she must invite me round for sups. Am I being over-sensitive to feel really upset that my ex-h gets and invite when I don't?

I think I would feel really hurt, I feel for you.
And fucksake the rest of you, if there's a time and place for mocking other people's word choices THIS ISNT IT.

I'm NW too and have never heard of sups. Everyone was probably slurring their words from the Special Brew.

My boss at work invited our team for a 'group nosh'.

Keep a note for the tribunal!

Why so rude OP?

I'm going to be a total hypocrite here because I distinctly remember going all at posters who tormented one poor wee OP at length over her use of "hubs".

But sweet fucking baby Jesus in a manger, what the fuck is "sups"??

Ye gads, my eyes! I can't unsee that!

I thought tuppinng was what a ram does to an ewe?!

Well, being as she's now gone full snob I don't think this will end well.
To the guillotine!

And op, yes, ignoring 'sups' whether it is tea, dinner, lunch or whatever YANBU and should speak to your friend.

I'm loving the word sups. Cant believe its not come to my attention before. Can I have sups of special brew and fags though? Op rude!!

In tears over sups here . Thank you OP for brightening my evening.

On a serious note, YANBU. Have to tried talking to her and telling her how you feel? Are her sups better than yours?

And now the op is being asked why SHE is being rude? Christ she came and asked advice about something that's really hurting her and everyone ignored that and decided to mock her instead. No wonder she lashed out.

How do people feel about "din dins"?

Up here we " sup" our special brew so that's all bases covered

Bloody hellfire. Someone comes on with a reasonable question and because her use of language is slightly outside everyone's cultural norms or expectations she gets this much teasing?

My children act more grownup than that.

OP - no, you're not unreasonable to be feeling hurt and left out. Suggest you invite your friends to yours one evening and ask her then, or the next time an invitation is suggested, pin her down to a specific date. You could always call your friend and let her know how you're feeling if you don't feel like talking face to face.

My incredibly finely-tuned instinct tells me you just might regret your last post, OP.

I think she means buy special brew and fags, then feed them to your children queen.

How do people feel about "din dins"?

Perfectly fine if said ironically within families, or to a baby or pet. Otherwise, it's guillotine time.

Perfect, as long as the children are being fed that's important. Maybe sups. Or dins. Or eats.

Your last post was very rude OP, you got a light ribbing for using a silly word and then made some very prejudiced remarks....

To return to your quandry. You need to define supper for me/a lot of us

Is going round for supper to your friends house:

a) a three or two course meal involving a dessert staying for hours
b) A quick beans on toast or Welsh Rarebit, with a cup of tea home 2 hours later

??

I do think the person who said "she's nailed her colours to the mast" has it.

She's either siding with him, or if single looking to line herself up as a replacement.

What relationship are they to each other? Are they friends in their own right?

They prefer your ex's new GF and are inviting her now instead of you. Sups to be you OP.

When a couple splits up, friends have to take sides IMO. It never works out in the long run to try to remain friends with both. This situation will probably come to a head sooner or later. They will inadvertantly tell you something he said or tell him something you said and it will cause awkwardness. Seen it happen loads of times.

If the split was a nasty one, or if you can't stand to be around him, then I think it's out of order for a real friend to keep in touch with the ex. If the split was amicable, then it's a difficult situation to call.

I'd be annoyed they were still in touch if it were me. Perhaps it shows they feel loyal to him?