To Be Upset That My Alledged Best Friend Has Invited My Ex-H Over For Sups?

[OhCallistoSolo]

Looking for some perspective here as I really don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not.

I haven't been invited by my best friend for supper (or anything else for that matter) since January. My ex-h has been invited twice that I know of, and the other couple we all see have been regular visitors. My best friend, with and without her husband, has been for sups with me countless times. Every time she comes over she tells me that she must invite me round for sups. Am I being over-sensitive to feel really upset that my ex-h gets and invite when I don't?

When I read the OP I was thinking "sups????" then RTT and turns out so was everyone else!

I'm DEF going to start using 'sups' from now on. Can I do it for ALL meals, or only those (snacky or otherwise) served after 4pm? Perhaps someone from a NE sink estate could advise? (if they have the internet up there, and are sober enough to use it, and can take time out from neglecting their children).

Was going to try to offer the OP some advice, because this sounds painful but (a) what I was thinking has more-or-less been said by the sups-acceptors (and possible experienced users of the term!!!!!) who have posted and (b) then I read the OPs next comment.

So what I would say to you, OhCallistoSolo, if you're still reading, is that I suggest you start a new thread and pick your wording a little better? You will get some decent advice - people would be happy to give it to you, and some on here are trying, despite your best efforts.

And, just a thought.... Are any schools still on holiday (perhaps in the NE?)? Or have they all gone back now? I had a very busy fortnight troll-reporting, and got a few removed, but I thought the kids were back at school now???

yeah you're right I never feed my children their "sups"
Just breakfast, lunch and dinner…

.. anyway.. if this is real, sounds like she is still your friend (you do still see her) but she's just more friends with your ex.

And thats allowed, just because you're not her fav doesn't mean she's not your friend

Unless you make it a problem and insist she sees you an exact equal amount to how much she sees your ex now that you've split, in which case you'll make it a ball ache to keep being friends with you both and she'll probably chose him over you cause he's probably not as hard work as you are.

"tupping" is Shakespeare for "shagging" isn't it?

I did Othello for A Level

But is it kitchen sups, OP? And are the other couple you all see Dave and Sam Cam?

Yup it is. Particularly sheep.

I'm from NI and had never heard of sups but there again never heard of special brew either is that moonshine? Anyhow never mind cut the crap going by your original post (regional confusion aside) I would be wondering is she your best friend all along or were you and exh friends with her as a couple (possibly with her dp?) If she was/is your friend in your own right I would be blunt enough to ask outright, doesn't she realise it makes you uncomfortable to socialise with your exh. If you were coupley friends though it's more awkward

Correct. A tup is a breeding ram.

I think sups is what t'yows has wi t' tups when t'tups has done tupping 'em.

Tupping is a farming term, for when the ram is let in with the ewes. Tupping time here is the first week in November. Tam The Ram is very happy today.

cakedup you are clearly from a NE sink estate (and probably a drunken child abuser. Or worse). BRUNCH is a specific word. Like "swim". (as in, you swim in a pool or the sea). EVERYONE knows what yo mean when you say "swim" (which is now sounding quite rude to me for some unknown reason!)

Brunch means you skip breakfast and lunch and have one big meal at around 10 - 11 am. Every parent's dream! One meal for the price of two. Gives one so much time to sip a spec before sups!

Excellent OP. Nice one.

I ❤️ half term

Is sups what one calls supper if one has a 'Mercedes, sauna and room for a pony'?

I'm sorry OP but she is not a friend. Not really. Maybe she once was, but she has clearly chosen sides; she is telling you this by her actions. I'd ask her candidly what she sees your future relationship looking like - if she has just been thoughtless to date it may wake her up. Otherwise, be prepared to let her go.

Oh, and please pleaes help me wash the word SUPS from my ears.

1. - I think invite her over and ask her. It may be the case though that she has chosen her 'side', as it were, and its him.

1. - Have none of you read Jilly Cooper??? Correct me if I'm wrong, but posh people (I can't think of another word. Upper class? I dunno) use the word 'sups' for supper. Which is the main meal of the evening. Dinner, tea, etc. Some refer to it as 'kitchen sups' - an informal version of supper usually eaten at the kitchen table.

And yes, the word 'holibobs' is also used. I know one person like that. She also went to boarding school, says 'jolly' a lot (I'm jolly hungry), says 'sups' and is one of the loveliest people I know.

I understand you are all pulling her tail, but when she is after some advice and people start in on her using a word they are not familiar with, smacks of playground bullying.

Came on to mock "sups"

It's been mocked repeatedly

saunters off

Supper I get, but sups? No one ever says sups, surely!

An no I certainly don't live on a sink estate!

never heard of special brew either is that moonshine?

No its cheap, strong lager that only tramps and my brother-in-law drink.

Yes it's used in Othello to describe him as a ram.

When posh people say supper I imagine them having some sort of nursery tea. Heaven only knows what sups is but I'm darn sure it's not proper grub.

Poor OP. She's obviously come on for advice but everyone can't get past "sups"

It's been SAID now. Why don't people get back to the issue?

But also yes to be less mean and more helpful your "friend" has clearly picked her side . I would never behave like this and neither did any of my friends after I split up with my ex ( who used to come with me for meals etc with them when we were a couple ) out of order

'Sups' eugh yabu for using that

Well I've learned a new word! Tupping and I'm supposedly a vaguely intelligent person.

God I love MN!

Jilly Cooper is a MNetter!!!!