To Be Upset That My Alledged Best Friend Has Invited My Ex-H Over For Sups?

[OhCallistoSolo]

Looking for some perspective here as I really don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not.

I haven't been invited by my best friend for supper (or anything else for that matter) since January. My ex-h has been invited twice that I know of, and the other couple we all see have been regular visitors. My best friend, with and without her husband, has been for sups with me countless times. Every time she comes over she tells me that she must invite me round for sups. Am I being over-sensitive to feel really upset that my ex-h gets and invite when I don't?

MrsQ, I think people are well aware of the demographic that uses 'sups', which is why everyone is having fun instead of forelock-tugging. Though it's less awful than 'picky tea', which sounds like something involving cheesy spaces between toes...

'Hollibobs' is lower-middle class to me, though. Like 'hubby'.

Someone on MN was once invited to a friend's house for 'nibbles and sipsies'. 😂 it still makes me snigger.

OP your friend seems to have picked your ex. I agree with the person up thread who said there is a certain kind of woman who likes mothering recently single men, feeding them, making sympathetic faces etc. They're never half as concerned with recently single women.

No, sorry IMissGrannyW we never had no 'brunch' growing up. You either get up late with a special brew hangover and have a late breakfast. Or you get bored of neglecting the children and decide to eat an early lunch.

And it's not swim, it's swimsies.

so if everyone is well aware of where the word comes from, why are they mocking the poor woman relentlessly rather than answering her post?

And I didn't know Jilly Cooper was on mumsnet. Thats cool

So I think you should put old pal on the spot and ask her straight out where her allegiances lie. I have a very low tolerance for that kind of fakery and would strike her name from my Smythson address book.

As per my username, I am obvs from the Jilly Cooper school of Posh.... 'Kitchen sups' is an actual thing - an established turn of phrase. Nobody, however, ever says just 'sups' - no no no!

OP is clearly a Hyacinth Bouquet - I bet she can't even play lax and doesn't own real pearls - oh the horror! 😆

Mrs sups, I'm sorry you are upset, she obviously quite a crap best friend.

I find sups hilarious, I do wonder if you are the Hurrah type. Either way, it's wonderful.
You should make some new friends.

Is it really too difficult to write the word "supper"?

Seriously? Sups is short for supper now?
I thought "sup" was short for "wassup", which is short for "What's up"...this shortening of words is getting ridiculous now.

I went to boarding school (in the NW) that probably explains why I remember hearing it growing up.

Today 22:58 EverySongbirdSays

"tupping" is Shakespeare for "shagging" isn't it?

I did Othello for A Level

Yep it is. We've got the smarts I seem to have managed to overcome my sink estate roots, put down my special brew long enough to learn summat at schoo.

What is special brew? Why is it special?

She who sups with the devil should have a long spoon

I guess the OP could start hoping her friend's are short?

There is no loyalty in her I expect.

Do you think Callisto that your friend feels your ex needs support? Is he not handling the split well?

If you invite her regularly to yours and see her quite frequently while she only sees him occasionally she might not have noticed the disaparity in the invitations?

Clearly it's upsetting you. Why not raise it with her?

I'm going to have some buttered toast for my sups, then shoot myself.

@OhCallistoSolo

Had no idea the word 'sups' is so offensive. Its just short for supper."

It is a ludicrous abbreviation.

Dimner, tea, supper, sups... we all understood what you were trying to say.

It is possible that your friend is trying to stay neutral, Idk. Is she single? Good luck

*dinner

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I can't stop laughing sups bloody Sups . Op are you Binky from made in Chelsea

No YANBU, but it sounds as if she's decided whose side she's on.

This happened to me with a couple of what I thought were very close friends from when we all had our babies. We'd all got together as couples for social events from time to time, but as far as I was concerned they were my friends. How wrong I was! When we were going through the preliminaries for divorce, all of a sudden I discovered my DH was being asked round on his own, and I was not wanted.

Happily, we were able to get through the bad patch without divorcing, but I found a new set of friends!

This really hurt me at the time, but I realised with hindsight I had mistaken what were fairly casual relationships from their point of view for something much deeper.

if everyone is well aware of where the word comes from

I wasn't, so at least one person found your post enlightening, MrsQ. (Certainly never read a Jilly Cooper).

I feel like I finally understand where I sit in the class system. I'm apparently 'posh' enough to call it supper, but not enough to have even heard of 'sups'.

Sorry op I think your friend maybe sees your ex as a friend still and probably feels sorry for him you are going to have to speak to her about it

Mitzylafrouf
I salute you! I haven't laughed (larfed) so much for ages. "Nibbles and Sippsies"? Dear god I can't even type as tears are streaming down my face.
And then you talk about "Old Pal"! Well that's just finished me off. Stop! I'm hurting now.

Sups. Sups? pretentious much?

I love my tups but I never go out for sups.

Actually laughing out loud at some of these comments. (Not at the situation)
hope you get it sorted OP! X