To Be Upset That My Alledged Best Friend Has Invited My Ex-H Over For Sups?

[OhCallistoSolo]

Looking for some perspective here as I really don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not.

I haven't been invited by my best friend for supper (or anything else for that matter) since January. My ex-h has been invited twice that I know of, and the other couple we all see have been regular visitors. My best friend, with and without her husband, has been for sups with me countless times. Every time she comes over she tells me that she must invite me round for sups. Am I being over-sensitive to feel really upset that my ex-h gets and invite when I don't?

I have been on mn for over 13 years and lately it is a place I don't recognise. It used to be wonderfully supportive

Did other oldtimers get a MN delivery of rose tinted glasses that I didn't receive?

MN used to be hella scary! If you didn't know the in jokes and the worshipped regulars you had better dare not post! Its a lot less insular these days

yuck it could be scary too (til Moldies!)but most of the responses to an op were generally helpful, constructive and supportive. The ones from the scary in joke people were usually in the minority. This has just been pages and pages of who can take the piss most and who can outdo who with funniness at the expense of the op.

Some of the posters are bound to have divorces or separations under their belts and I bet they would not have liked it either had their best friends been having cosy dinners with their ex.

but most of the responses to an op were generally helpful, constructive and supportive

nah, most repsonses all agreed with the queen bees either way and if you didn't or if they didn't agree with your OP, god help you!

I didn't use to post just lurk, now anyone can dive in and there's no hierarchy or initiation period

I still use 'sup as a greeting. This solves the mystery of people turning up at my house late at night expecting a hot drink and light snacks.

Witch Lighten up. I have no idea what Mumsnet was like in t'olden days, but really who cares. As far as I know it's not an exclusive club and anybody can post!
Anybody who uses the word sups is going to have the piss ripped out of them.,and of course they knew that, which is why they started the thread, for a bit of ruck..
Even if they are a troll, it's a bloody amusing thread.
It's been particularly hilarious to see, - the thankfully minority of posters hand wringing at the sleight done to the poor OP.

Anybody who uses the word sups is going to have the piss ripped out of them

By why ? There are some terms that are markedly class related - for
Me kitchen sups is what I read that David Cameron and his notting hill buddies had . So an upper middle
Class term .

Genuinely why do terms that are only used by a certain group means it's 100% ok to ridicule you ? I can't fathom why this is OK .

the old mumsnet was NOT supportive.

The old mumsnet included people who thought it appropriate to report posters to social services based on something said on a thread.

But please dont let that ruin your view of how wonderfully supportive it is.

Desertmum - how do you know you are posher than them?

Oh give over. There may be some corner of Mumsnet that's supportive but most of it, as this thread illustrates, is an embarassing nest of vipers.

Restless just out of curiosity, if "most of Mumsnet is an embarrassing nest of vipers", why are you here?

I'm here because I've been here for years, and as I said there are some corners which are very supportive and I've had some great advice. However I would never tell anyone in real life I come on here because I'm too embarrassed.

Too embarrassed because you perceive other posters as a nest of vipers? If so it does beg the question why you're here.

I just answered that above!

I've had some great advice in The Doghouse' and health forums.

Sorry, can't.Get. past. Sups.

I'm quite new here really despite having children who are now 20+ - not sure how it passed me by before! But I've had great conversations with people on the higher education threads.

Anyway, seriousness over.... "Sups" made me laugh - sounds so daft. I have trouble with abbreviations that are aren't much shorter than the proper word!

"If it was that awful...... "

It (the OP's retort) wasn't tho. Perfectly in keeping with the spirit of the comments we all made to her, let's be honest.

So the relentless attack on this poor woman continues.

Seriously.

There is a right mountain being made out of this molehill, folks.

I think some of you need a Snickers for your sups.

So the relentless attack on the poor some continues Sweet suffering Jesus, are you putting me on. The women is probably not even real.
I'm off for Sups.

Can I just say:

Nobody, but nobody uses sups that much in one post unless they're looking for a reaction, darling.