AIBU to have a male friend to stay when DH is away?

[clothesoverbros]

ok, background: have known this man for 20 years, never had a relationship or even any drunken fumbles when younger. I would class him as one of my very closest friends, we say each other regularly and email / chat often.

DH and he get on ok - but very different so not really friends if you see what I mean. DH is generally happier for me to see friend on my own.

He's recently lost a parent and split up with his long term girlfriend, so I'm a bit worried about him.

DH will be working away during the week, returning at weekends so I've arranged for my friend to come visit and because of the distance he'll need to stay over. We now have a young DD and so it's difficult for me to go out in the evening as I would have done pre-baby.

My DH thinks this is 'inappropriate' my response was 'how dare you tell me who I can or can't see'.

So am I being unreasonable?

Moad a troll?........dont think sooooooo

rhubs, thats shit. I always make a point, if Im wrong, of apologising. i blame aibu for the aggressiveness of mn at the mo.

thank you to everyone backing up my non-troll status. Im fine with people disagreeing with me, hell, call me a cunt for all i care, but not a troll.

I have returned to MN to say that MOAD is most definitely not a troll

(she can bake awesome cakes, but she aint no troll)

thank you carmina

i love cake x just thought id lighten the mood x moad is a great friend and baker xx genuine and kind x

Those suggesting that Lissie / moad is a troll really need to take themselves outside and have a word.

'Tis a bit shit and I still feel a bit bruised. On both accounts. I never learn though. I go into these threads to give an opinion and just as I did yesterday, I apologise if anyone is offended by anything I've said, like you do MOAD. But as for apologies from personal attacks by them, just don't hold your breath. Some people don't know when to stop.

maybe I'm getting soft in my old age?

Hope you are ok MOAD? It's nasty when you are turned on but at least you've had plenty of support on this thread, that makes a huge difference.

Jeepers Lissie/Moad a troll????? Ha ha ha that was a joke wasn't it??? Sorry but I really can't stop laughing. How mad must you be to think that?

Nor am I a sockmoney.

luvinlife LAY OFF WITH THE TROLL STUFF MOAD IS NOT A TROLL OK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MOAD - hope you are okay.

Luvvin - you need to look up trolling and what it actually means before you start slinging mud around.

rhubs, its horrible. I dont know why people use the internet to say things they wouldnt in real life. I speak like this in rl, and hold these opinions. but its important to acknowledge when you are wrong. hope you feel better about it soon. its not nice or fair.

tbh, Im heartened by the support Ive had. Ive given a lot of support and advice over the years, and I would hate to see that wiped out by one idiot.

Do you have some kind of vendetta against Lissie because it seems like you have. Hounding a poster like a dog with a bone is not a very attractive quality and makes you look a little unhinged.

Hope this doesn't affect your day Lissie and MOAD.

i too have reported i cant abide this bullying and cant sit back and let it happen aspeciallly to someone as genuine as MOAD xxxxx

Forgive me but I lost interest in the original post pages ago but would like it noted that MOAD IS NOT A TROLL.

lissielou ?

Mon 11-Jul-11 08:04:45

what on earth has being the alpha male got to do with it? how weird.

YANBU, he should trust you!

From the begining of the thread. I told you my names. When I rejoined the thread had moved on. Its not my fault you can't read. And I wasn't asked my opinion on the op later. Stop lying

luvvinlife - I don't know how long you've been on MN, but apparently not long enough to realise that one of the main features of this site is that talk threads do not always stay exactly on topic, that many issues around the subject of the OP often come up and are discussed on the same thread, and there are no moderators, self-appointed or otherwise, to insist that discussion stays strictly to the original topic. On MN at least, this does not constitute 'trolling'.

Other posters have also raised the question of whether it is 'permissible' to have close friends of the opposite sex, but for some reason, you have only picked on MOAD as your target.

I am happy to add myself to the list of those who have known MOAD for years, know how much she has helped many posters on here and that she certainly does not fit any rational definition of the word 'troll'

We have established that MOAD has friends who think she is not a troll. What can we possibly gain by extending this thread with even more messages? No-one (and I mean no-one ) has improved their standing in the last half of this thread. enough is enough.

Luvvin do you feel a bit of a dick now?