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My childs future Godparent groped me

280 replies

Changedhername · 04/02/2011 16:23

To cut a very long story short me and OH have a friend who is in his seventies and last year lost his wife.
Me and OH are alot younger then our 'friend' and we let him spend Easter/Xmas etc with us as he told us how lonely and bored and sad he was.
We even asked him to be Godfather to my youngest(DS 2 aged 7m).My eldest(DS 1 age 2.5)loves our friend as he acts like the lovely grandad.
Anyway over the months he has been coming around during the daytime while OH is at work and I would make him lunch etc and he would play with DC..
Around two weeks ago he asked me what it felt like to have such a big bust and after that he grabbed my breasts and fondled me.
I grabbed his hand and told him he should not touch me in that way ever again and how dare he do that etc.
He then started shouting at me 'how dare you hurt my feelings and push my hands away..you horrible person'!
Anyway I've told OH that he gives me the creeps and he got 'touchy feely' and that's why I've ignored him recently.
I just admitted to OH that he touched my breasts and OH said 'are you sure you didn't ask for it'?
OH says he blames me!Maybe I shouldn't have been so nice and asked him aroundConfused
Oh and to top it off said 'friend' is calling my house number and mobile everyday(10 to 20 times)and in the last 2 weeks he turned up at my house staring at me through the window and wouldn't go away.
I feel like I shouldn't have been so friendly with him-he now thinks he owns me.
I don't think he's a bad person he's just obsessed with me.
We live close and go to the same places.He's left me voice messages saying 'have you got a problem'? etc..
Don't know how to handle this situation.
Thanks for reading
(I've been here a while but name changed)Smile

OP posts:
spongebobsquareknickers · 04/02/2011 22:37

bom chicka wa wah!!
unhooks braces and reveals white Y fronts

already took my little triangle pill Wink

(dammit, theyre being deleted quicker than I can read them!)

Hullygully · 04/02/2011 22:37

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spongebobsquareknickers · 04/02/2011 22:39

Ditto what Hully said

( heart :) )

Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 22:40

Hullygully-why have I not?Please explain?
He's fucked off with me already for being on here all night anyway..please expllain hg

OP posts:
softglowsandmaybes · 04/02/2011 22:40

OP did you ask the mafia connected, slept with famous actresses lonely old git to be the godfather cos he is loaded? Wink

Hullygully · 04/02/2011 22:42

Chn - why didn't you punch your oh in the nose?

Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 22:42

Hahahahahahaha

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Baublelicious · 04/02/2011 22:43

It's very hard to follow when MNHQ delete comments so quickly!!!!

spongebobsquareknickers · 04/02/2011 22:43

I wasnt gonna christen my DS, but I may change my mind now. I think he'd benefit in life from mafia connections :)

Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 22:44

Well I guess I should hullygully-thanks for that!He can be a git after all

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HelenMumsnet · 04/02/2011 22:44

Hello. Please can we remind you of our Talk guidelines about trolls and trollhunting and ask you not to shout troll on the boards.

If you doubt the authenticity of the OP, please do report your concerns to us, using the Report link above posts.

FWIW, we can see that the OP is indeed a regular MNer under a namechange.

AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 22:44

bauble, this is sooooooo not gonna make sense in the morning !

softglowsandmaybes · 04/02/2011 22:44

CHN, can't you outyourself now? not saying your lying or anything but you are quite quick with the retorts, just wondered who you might be

softglowsandmaybes · 04/02/2011 22:45

spilt my Wine now

Hullygully · 04/02/2011 22:47

Chn - well that's why. It seems astonishing that you seem to not mind his suggesting that this groping bu the 70 yr old mafia godfather, famous person driving man, was your fault. And surely you can see that the whole connections thing seems a bit mad?

As I said before if it is all true...

kill them

AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 22:47

I didn't use the T word

I doubted the authenticity of the tale

it's not the same thing

the OP could be me as a sock puppet, for all you know

except Helen might know, in which case my cover is totally blown

Baublelicious · 04/02/2011 22:47

You spilt yours, think I need another! Wine Wine Wine

ElephantsAndMiasmas · 04/02/2011 22:48

Oh, this is one of those parties where everyone is pissed except me, isn't it?

The fact that the husband is behaving like a dick about it is far from unusual I'd have thought. He is probably the type who think that women always ask for it, and is hardly alone in that way of thinking is he?

As a general rule, I like to give people who say they've been sexually assaulted the benefit of the doubt. It's just one of the many ways I like to distinguish myself from the average card-carrying misognyist.

Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 22:48

Soft-been here for over 2 years I recognise most of these people(don't know them personally)how weird when you're anon and how people speak to you.
I feel I've been polite the whole time and this is a genuine problem and yet some people will still be nasty..oh well-you'll always find those types....

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Hullygully · 04/02/2011 22:48

And if it is true.

Then very simply: WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU PUTTING UP WITH THIS SHIT?!

LoveBeingADaddysGirl · 04/02/2011 22:49

AF would love to see mnhq when someone namechanges the spends all night arguing with themselves Grin

Baublelicious · 04/02/2011 22:49

Hully, you can't kill people just because you don't like them or what they do.

You have to defend yourself when they attack you.....

Hullygully · 04/02/2011 22:49

killing is much faster

softglowsandmaybes · 04/02/2011 22:52

no waaaaay CHN, i think everyone here is, how can i say this nicely - quite outspoken, i don't think you have received any special treatment :) I don't think however, anyone has been actually nasty and you seem to be taking it quite well

As an aside, my cousin and his wife had to move because the sad old git who lived next door to them developed a crush on her. It got to the point where she couldn't go in her own garden. Police involved and suchlike.

Baublelicious · 04/02/2011 22:52

Trouble is, women DO put up with shit. We are conditioned from birth to put up with shit.

I am so glad my daughter is of the era she is - she stands no shit from anyone. She is incredibly polite and respectful BUT she knows her worth.

I think the OP does not know her worth due to her self esteem.

I can sympathise OP.

And Hully, you would get away with it if you said it was in self defence......