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My childs future Godparent groped me

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Changedhername · 04/02/2011 16:23

To cut a very long story short me and OH have a friend who is in his seventies and last year lost his wife.
Me and OH are alot younger then our 'friend' and we let him spend Easter/Xmas etc with us as he told us how lonely and bored and sad he was.
We even asked him to be Godfather to my youngest(DS 2 aged 7m).My eldest(DS 1 age 2.5)loves our friend as he acts like the lovely grandad.
Anyway over the months he has been coming around during the daytime while OH is at work and I would make him lunch etc and he would play with DC..
Around two weeks ago he asked me what it felt like to have such a big bust and after that he grabbed my breasts and fondled me.
I grabbed his hand and told him he should not touch me in that way ever again and how dare he do that etc.
He then started shouting at me 'how dare you hurt my feelings and push my hands away..you horrible person'!
Anyway I've told OH that he gives me the creeps and he got 'touchy feely' and that's why I've ignored him recently.
I just admitted to OH that he touched my breasts and OH said 'are you sure you didn't ask for it'?
OH says he blames me!Maybe I shouldn't have been so nice and asked him aroundConfused
Oh and to top it off said 'friend' is calling my house number and mobile everyday(10 to 20 times)and in the last 2 weeks he turned up at my house staring at me through the window and wouldn't go away.
I feel like I shouldn't have been so friendly with him-he now thinks he owns me.
I don't think he's a bad person he's just obsessed with me.
We live close and go to the same places.He's left me voice messages saying 'have you got a problem'? etc..
Don't know how to handle this situation.
Thanks for reading
(I've been here a while but name changed)Smile

OP posts:
LoveBeingADaddysGirl · 04/02/2011 22:03

Junk maybe he's got hisceye on his house

AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 22:03

aww soft, don't be all Sad

I know you now

< wine fog lifts >

I shall not type it...you may wish to be incognito

Changedhername · 04/02/2011 22:04

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softglowsandmaybes · 04/02/2011 22:07

Grin happy now

junktrunk · 04/02/2011 22:08

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Mouseface · 04/02/2011 22:10

So softs not a stalker?

Buggeration Grin

AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 22:12

no mousey

she is just a common-or-garden namechanger Grin

LoveBeingADaddysGirl · 04/02/2011 22:16

Changed that's bang out of order

Mouseface · 04/02/2011 22:16

Those I can handle AF Grin

junktrunk · 04/02/2011 22:20

I was just trying to make the point that sometimes people r not what they seem!!!
i know a girl who was married for 10yrs before she found out her hubbys was a lying fantasist he even told her he couldn't have kids then said her subsequent pg was a miracle.

softglowsandmaybes · 04/02/2011 22:21

who you calling common?? grrrrrrr

Hullygully · 04/02/2011 22:22

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AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 22:25
Grin
spongebobsquareknickers · 04/02/2011 22:26

is a little bit in love with hullygully and anyfucker

Blush
Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 22:28

Always thought hullygully was abit kinky...

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Hullygully · 04/02/2011 22:28

If you're 70 and "connected" you can cop a feel, sponge

AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 22:32

goodness, the deletions are starting now

this thread is going to look seriously wierd in the morning

oh, wait...

spongebobsquareknickers · 04/02/2011 22:33

I am Ronnie Biggs, I'm 81...

Cheddacheese · 04/02/2011 22:34

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AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 22:34

sponge, you are in

Hullygully · 04/02/2011 22:35

Will you be godparent to my 17 kids as well tho?

softglowsandmaybes · 04/02/2011 22:35

squares up to spongebobsquareknickers - back down biatch, AF is mine!!!

Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 22:36

Nasty trolls of mumsnet-qnyfuckr and hullygully..
And as for spongebob-you poor saddoConfused

OP posts:
Hullygully · 04/02/2011 22:36

AF you didn't use the T word did you?

ElephantsAndMiasmas · 04/02/2011 22:37

How stupid am I being in not understanding AF & Hully's reaction to this thread? Have I missed some previous debacle involving pervy grandfathers? Is there an upper age limit for godparents for some reason?

OP if you're real, then please reassure yourself that vile pervy assaulty young men grow into vile pervy assaulty old men. He was probably acting like this before you were even born. It's not your fault for being "nice".

You need to call the police if he keeps coming round, forget the "he's an old man" thing, his behaviour sounds sinister and your husband is clearly a total waste of space.