My childs future Godparent groped me

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To cut a very long story short me and OH have a friend who is in his seventies and last year lost his wife.
Me and OH are alot younger then our 'friend' and we let him spend Easter/Xmas etc with us as he told us how lonely and bored and sad he was.
We even asked him to be Godfather to my youngest(DS 2 aged 7m).My eldest(DS 1 age 2.5)loves our friend as he acts like the lovely grandad.
Anyway over the months he has been coming around during the daytime while OH is at work and I would make him lunch etc and he would play with DC..
Around two weeks ago he asked me what it felt like to have such a big bust and after that he grabbed my breasts and fondled me.
I grabbed his hand and told him he should not touch me in that way ever again and how dare he do that etc.
He then started shouting at me 'how dare you hurt my feelings and push my hands away..you horrible person'!
Anyway I've told OH that he gives me the creeps and he got 'touchy feely' and that's why I've ignored him recently.
I just admitted to OH that he touched my breasts and OH said 'are you sure you didn't ask for it'?
OH says he blames me!Maybe I shouldn't have been so nice and asked him around
Oh and to top it off said 'friend' is calling my house number and mobile everyday(10 to 20 times)and in the last 2 weeks he turned up at my house staring at me through the window and wouldn't go away.
I feel like I shouldn't have been so friendly with him-he now thinks he owns me.
I don't think he's a bad person he's just obsessed with me.
We live close and go to the same places.He's left me voice messages saying 'have you got a problem'? etc..
Don't know how to handle this situation.
Thanks for reading
(I've been here a while but name changed)

No, not before she got to know him.(I should have added 'better' at the end of that sentence) But before he told the tales of aspects of his life.
You can never know everything about a person. I have been married for almost 20 years, and there are still times I say to DH 'I never knew that about you!' and ditto for friends I have known for years.

emma, you are coming across as a sock puppet, sorry

shriekingharpy , dont you mean THE Godfather

Sorry - but I have to be off. Have a long shift coming up this weekend, listening to children who are worried and frightened, who will often be silent for 20 minutes at a time, whilst I try to gently convince them that someone does beleive them, and that the kids at school who tease 'your Dad's a perv' etc after they had summoned strength to tell a peer, should not be listened to.

Fucking hell, your DH said you asked for it?

I would be telling old guy that if he doesn't fuck off you will be calling the police. Then do so if necessary.

And then I would be sitting down and having a deep think about whether I would want to stay with a man who treated/spoke to me like that. Do you have any daughters? Is he going to react the same way if somebody assaults them?

ah, emma, I get it now

A worthwhile and wonderful job you do, but am really not sure how it projects onto this thread

I work in a similar field and it doesnt stop me seeing bullshit where it is posted on MN

you really can't pull that card on me

AF - If you think I am trolling/namechanging, answering my own posts - you're entitled to your opinion.
Really makes no difference to me. I'm sure MNHQ can see otherwise.

where did you write (or even imply) that AF ??

sponge...nowhere

Thought I'd missed it

The term you used was 'sockpuppet'. As a MN regular, you will know exactly what it implies.

Just for your records

sockpuppet implies one poster posting on behalf of another

that may be the same person with a different account, or another person summoned to lend weight to an argument

FWIW, I said you were coming across as a sockpuppet, I have no idea if you really are one

I wish I had a sockpuppet

All I have is DHs wanksock

Not putting my hand in there !!!

You may not want to google one of Urban Dictionary's definitions of sockpuppet

you know i simply HAD to do that!

hahahahahahahahaha!!!!!

was that what you thought Emmanana was coming across as!!

am ashamed of myself for the last line!

The op's story at the start reminds me of an episode of Mad Men.

To the troll hunters.

Please can you explain to me why mumsnet bans troll hunting?

Is it perhaps because there could be a chance that you're wrong, and if so you are doing something pretty low indeed - kicking somewhen when they're down?

And in this case, refusing to believe a woman who has been assaulted. I sincerely hope you never find yourself in that situation as it can't be very nice to be on the receiving end of that.

I really don't understand what goes through your heads. If I thought someone was trolling but had the slightest doubt in my convictions, there's no way I'd dish out the kind of abuse you lot have, just in case I was wrong - however small that chance seemed.

Imagine for a minute that the OP is for real (it's not hard to do. Try it). Can you see how awful you all sound? You come across like a bunch of playground bullies.

Why on earth would you ask a man in his mid seventies to be a godparent in the first place?

A godparent is meant to be there to guide a child through life, and to be a responsible guardian if the childs parents die.

An elderly man really isnt going to be able to fulfill that function I wouldnt have thought.

that's cos they are, threefeet. Sorry you are having a difficult time with this family friend, op. I can only suggest what other sane posters have been suggesting; don't have anything more to do with him, keep a diary of all his calls/harassment and don't be afraid to involve the police.