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My childs future Godparent groped me

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Changedhername · 04/02/2011 16:23

To cut a very long story short me and OH have a friend who is in his seventies and last year lost his wife.
Me and OH are alot younger then our 'friend' and we let him spend Easter/Xmas etc with us as he told us how lonely and bored and sad he was.
We even asked him to be Godfather to my youngest(DS 2 aged 7m).My eldest(DS 1 age 2.5)loves our friend as he acts like the lovely grandad.
Anyway over the months he has been coming around during the daytime while OH is at work and I would make him lunch etc and he would play with DC..
Around two weeks ago he asked me what it felt like to have such a big bust and after that he grabbed my breasts and fondled me.
I grabbed his hand and told him he should not touch me in that way ever again and how dare he do that etc.
He then started shouting at me 'how dare you hurt my feelings and push my hands away..you horrible person'!
Anyway I've told OH that he gives me the creeps and he got 'touchy feely' and that's why I've ignored him recently.
I just admitted to OH that he touched my breasts and OH said 'are you sure you didn't ask for it'?
OH says he blames me!Maybe I shouldn't have been so nice and asked him aroundConfused
Oh and to top it off said 'friend' is calling my house number and mobile everyday(10 to 20 times)and in the last 2 weeks he turned up at my house staring at me through the window and wouldn't go away.
I feel like I shouldn't have been so friendly with him-he now thinks he owns me.
I don't think he's a bad person he's just obsessed with me.
We live close and go to the same places.He's left me voice messages saying 'have you got a problem'? etc..
Don't know how to handle this situation.
Thanks for reading
(I've been here a while but name changed)Smile

OP posts:
AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 20:05

OP...have a slice of pepperoni Smile

Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 20:06

Thankyou Anyfucker hope it's nice and spicyGrin

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Ladyofthehousespeaking · 04/02/2011 20:08

Weird. I feel like I gave you the benefit of the doubt and you really are just taking the piss

pass the biscuits anyfucker

TheShriekingHarpy · 04/02/2011 20:12

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Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 20:20

Ladyofthehousespeaking-I swear on my life this is true but thought I'd try and make 'light' of a situation with 'cynics' on mn.
I don't know why a small handfull of mns decided to take he 'mick'.
I only came on here to ask for advice.
As for anyfucker(lovely name) and hullygully Confused

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AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 20:22

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Malificence · 04/02/2011 20:23

If this thread is real and your partner really said that, the old perv is the least of your worries.

AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 20:23

that slice of pizza I offered you might have been a bit dodgy

sorry about that

have some Wine instead

Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 20:24

Ooh do carry on 'any fucker'.....

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mackereltaitai · 04/02/2011 20:25

Report your new stalker to the police.

Tell your OH that you are seriously angry at his reaction to a crime committed in your own home.

AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 20:25

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ZacharyQuack · 04/02/2011 20:30

OP, you say you've been here a while. Have you never come across AnyFucker before? I think you've just blown it.

Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 20:30

So what point are you making 'any fucker'??
Any wise words of advice or you just want to criticise??

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RevoltingPeasant · 04/02/2011 20:31

Changed, I don't disbelieve you. I see some threads on here where I think, 'Yeah right' but quite a lot of people know some older guy who has tried it on with them. We also all know older guys who shoot their mouths off and try to impress. I don't see this as that far-fetched.

People do weird stuff. An old friend of mine sort of took a student under her wing once and then when they were alone once in a lecture theatre after hours he started telling her that he had been in prison for raping a woman and mutilating her.

I mean, he probably hadn't, he was just trying to be intimidating/ get attention/ etc but it was still scary. I imagine he is some village Don Juan type grown old who thinks he's still got it and you want it.

I'd punch your OH though.

Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 20:31

I think Anyfucker needs a good shag.

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RevoltingPeasant · 04/02/2011 20:33

And if even there are weird parts about the story....

Do any of think that if this is real, you are (mostly) women telling a woman who has been assaulted that she is making it up and should shut up?

Really? I'd rather be naive, tbh.

AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 20:33

why are you putting my name in quotation marks ?

is it to counter the fact that I put your whole post in them ??

Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 20:34

Revolting-thankyou for that!You're right!Smile

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AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 20:34

true colours, OP ?

do I need a good shag from your 70 year old friend with mafia connections ? Grin

TrollyMcTrollPants · 04/02/2011 20:35

Shock That last post from the Op may have just lost the thread any credibility it may have had.....

Mouseface · 04/02/2011 20:35

Oh dear.

Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 20:36

Anyfucker-why waste your precious friday night talking to me??I do feel for you.....

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AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 20:36

< passes the tortillas around the thread >

cool dip with that anyone ?

RevoltingPeasant · 04/02/2011 20:38

Trolly - the one to me?? Thanks...

bringbacksideburns · 04/02/2011 20:38

Christ on a bike!!!Shock

Never mind the old lech taking advantage of your kindness your husband is unbelievable in his response. He is talking rubbish and he needs to tell this man to leave you all alone.

I would be more upset withmy husband than the old man tbh.

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