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My childs future Godparent groped me

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Changedhername · 04/02/2011 16:23

To cut a very long story short me and OH have a friend who is in his seventies and last year lost his wife.
Me and OH are alot younger then our 'friend' and we let him spend Easter/Xmas etc with us as he told us how lonely and bored and sad he was.
We even asked him to be Godfather to my youngest(DS 2 aged 7m).My eldest(DS 1 age 2.5)loves our friend as he acts like the lovely grandad.
Anyway over the months he has been coming around during the daytime while OH is at work and I would make him lunch etc and he would play with DC..
Around two weeks ago he asked me what it felt like to have such a big bust and after that he grabbed my breasts and fondled me.
I grabbed his hand and told him he should not touch me in that way ever again and how dare he do that etc.
He then started shouting at me 'how dare you hurt my feelings and push my hands away..you horrible person'!
Anyway I've told OH that he gives me the creeps and he got 'touchy feely' and that's why I've ignored him recently.
I just admitted to OH that he touched my breasts and OH said 'are you sure you didn't ask for it'?
OH says he blames me!Maybe I shouldn't have been so nice and asked him aroundConfused
Oh and to top it off said 'friend' is calling my house number and mobile everyday(10 to 20 times)and in the last 2 weeks he turned up at my house staring at me through the window and wouldn't go away.
I feel like I shouldn't have been so friendly with him-he now thinks he owns me.
I don't think he's a bad person he's just obsessed with me.
We live close and go to the same places.He's left me voice messages saying 'have you got a problem'? etc..
Don't know how to handle this situation.
Thanks for reading
(I've been here a while but name changed)Smile

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Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 21:34

Why should I be 'busted'??I was asking for advice I don't have time for time wastersSmile

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Binfullofmaggotsonthe45 · 04/02/2011 21:37

Permission to google previous paragraph, SAH?

softglowsandmaybes · 04/02/2011 21:39

AF, i think you should change your name to trollfindergeneral Grin

Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 21:39

Thanks for that Binfullofmaggots-great input.Well doneSmile

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MoaningMedalllist · 04/02/2011 21:39

YANBU at all!

tell your husbans you WILL NOT allowhim near you and he is stalking you and that if he does not support you, then you have to make a decision.

If he comes again I would suggest you call the police tbh, I get the impression he will try and make you feel guilty, don't let him he is in the wrong.

MoaningMedalllist · 04/02/2011 21:40

god mumsnet affects my spelling too bad you can't edit
*husband

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Changedhername · 04/02/2011 21:41

Anyfucker you lttle troll finderGrin

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Binfullofmaggotsonthe45 · 04/02/2011 21:42

Don't mention it - help yourself to a pom Bear....

AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 21:43

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Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 21:43

MoaningMedalist-thankyou so much.I will take that on board.He is stepping over the mark.

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Changedhername · 04/02/2011 21:45

Anyfucker-why would I lie about this??How stupid??

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LoveBeingADaddysGirl · 04/02/2011 21:45

Actually op you sound very angry at af. And if you are not angry by the situationyou are in then I give up. You would rather try and convince a bunch of names in the Internet than your dp Confused

junktrunk · 04/02/2011 21:45

AARRGGGGHHHHH i can't belieeeeevvve what i'm reading not only has this DIRRTY old man groped you but your hubby thinks it's your fault. as for forcing you to kiss himAngry
You need to find out if your OH is in on this because if i told my OH that these things had happend he'd flip (belive me my fella's as placid as you'll get but theres a limit. I don't condone violence but maybe a swift punch in the whatits might help!!!!!!!!!!

Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 21:48

Thanks JunktrunkSmile

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Changedhername · 04/02/2011 21:49

Wish everyone else believed meConfused

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softglowsandmaybes · 04/02/2011 21:49

AF, look closely at my name, see if you notice something about it maybe change the words for some synonyms (i cant spell)

Binfullofmaggotsonthe45 · 04/02/2011 21:49

Don't think you are lying, but you seem to be embellishing the story a little. Or very gullible?

Really...? Afraid of a pensioner who claimed to be a gang land member? Are you falling for that crap op?

fifi25 · 04/02/2011 21:49

Next time kick him in the gonads, if he doesnt like it tell him to take it up with his underworld connections.

AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 21:52

soft, what you on about ?

I have had wine..you will have to spell it out Grin

I am aware you are a namechanger soft, lovey, but I don't have a clue what I should know you as Grin

I am the world's worst for namechangers

pm me if there is something I should knwo

Original poster
Changedhername · 04/02/2011 21:52

Bin-not embellishing-I have nothing to prove or gain..just wanted advice or feedback.

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Mouseface · 04/02/2011 21:54

Do you have a new stalker AF?

AnyFucker · 04/02/2011 21:56

I don't need any more stalkers

soft... what who are you ? Grin

Emmanana · 04/02/2011 21:56

CHN - I have PM'd you

softglowsandmaybes · 04/02/2011 21:59

hahahaha! AF pnly the other day on threads my lights were much more intense and my maybes more definate, dont actually expect you to remember me though :( mopes off wondering who else might let me stalk them

junktrunk · 04/02/2011 22:00

anyone taking me on about the OH being in on it !!! mybe he's one of these who likes to watch his other half being "done"

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