My childs future Godparent groped me

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To cut a very long story short me and OH have a friend who is in his seventies and last year lost his wife.
Me and OH are alot younger then our 'friend' and we let him spend Easter/Xmas etc with us as he told us how lonely and bored and sad he was.
We even asked him to be Godfather to my youngest(DS 2 aged 7m).My eldest(DS 1 age 2.5)loves our friend as he acts like the lovely grandad.
Anyway over the months he has been coming around during the daytime while OH is at work and I would make him lunch etc and he would play with DC..
Around two weeks ago he asked me what it felt like to have such a big bust and after that he grabbed my breasts and fondled me.
I grabbed his hand and told him he should not touch me in that way ever again and how dare he do that etc.
He then started shouting at me 'how dare you hurt my feelings and push my hands away..you horrible person'!
Anyway I've told OH that he gives me the creeps and he got 'touchy feely' and that's why I've ignored him recently.
I just admitted to OH that he touched my breasts and OH said 'are you sure you didn't ask for it'?
OH says he blames me!Maybe I shouldn't have been so nice and asked him around
Oh and to top it off said 'friend' is calling my house number and mobile everyday(10 to 20 times)and in the last 2 weeks he turned up at my house staring at me through the window and wouldn't go away.
I feel like I shouldn't have been so friendly with him-he now thinks he owns me.
I don't think he's a bad person he's just obsessed with me.
We live close and go to the same places.He's left me voice messages saying 'have you got a problem'? etc..
Don't know how to handle this situation.
Thanks for reading
(I've been here a while but name changed)

Thanks Ladyofthehousespeaking-you're right.Also writing on this site is the best thing I could have done.Have just been treating him coming to my house(3 times in the last fortnight)as if it's normal behaivour and 'brushing it under the carpet' as I've been told to do growing up with a manipulative father.
Weirdly enough I think I liked this old man as a replacement of a father/grandad I never had(?)

Also thanks again so much Emmanana-I feel you hit the nail on the head.I thank you and everyone for writing the helpful messages.

he had 3 affairs while being with his wife(of 40 something years)2 of the affairs lasting 2/3 years and 1 lasting 7 years Translated: I'm so deluded that I think a young mum would want a bit on the side, and I'll let her know that people have affairs all the time, so she's not really doing anything wrong. Also his references to his connections....yeh right.
Alzheimers? This guy is one crafty slimey arsehole.
And no discredit to you for not reading him as such. It's a lot easier, not being directly involved IYSWIM.
If he is/was so powerful in London's Underworld, then where are they now, letting him spend Christmas etc alone. He sounds tragically deluded. He probably held a door open for a Kray twin once.
For the record, you'll find that even the most hardened criminals have no truck with those who sexually assault women, or mess with children.
He doesn't sound like much of an underworld villian....They have their own drivers.

Hullygully-'I think your bottom must be very very hot'

If you don't think the OP is being genuine, then please do not waste her, yours or our time by posting on the thread.

OP, hope this all works out. TBH, I'd also be very worried about your DH's attitude on the matter.

He sounds vile. In fact he sounds like the weird old alchy who lives nextdoor to me! Told me all about his 'contacts' and he could get me anything I needed whilst eying me up and at a later date eying up my 16 yr old dd.

I ignored him as much as possible which has worked for me.

Thanks TheMartorialist
Certain people think I'm 'off my trolley'

The man is a nutcase. No matter how desperate you are as a bloke, you never do that!!

OK OP. There have been a few odd threads on here recently but I believe you I hope you can find a solution.

So, let me just get this straight.

You have chosen a 70 year old man to be godparent to your baby. A man who brags about cheating on his wife, several times, and having "gangster connections". Why? That is the daftest thing I have ever heard.

and

I see we have lost the pombear.

Joni...your initial reaction was the most appropriate one

(no it's still here )

who is this random elderly perve? is he related to you or OH?

Biscuits and wine don't go together

we need a "crisps" emoticon

or a pizza one

I don't think you are making it up OP-

I went through something similar myself- I gave a mans grandama mouth to mouth when she collapsed in my shop and he followed me around for weeks, showed up outside work, then turned up when I was at hairdressers and began following me home and finally groped me.
It is very very frightening and I think people are cruel to assume you are making things up.

fancy a tortilla, hully ?

Your husband needs his arse kicked. How would you "ask for it"?

New godfather, new OH. Keep a diary so you know what really happened in case either of them try to rewrite history.

When was the last time this man was actually inside your house OP? I mean as opposed to looking through the window?

I don't know whether you're making it up either. But when I was a teenager I had my breasts mauled by our outwardly respectable elderly (to me, at any rate) neighbour on more than one occasion. And I certainly hadn't led him on. It happens.
In your position I'd be sending the DH on his way with a kick up the arse, and telling him to take his lovely friend with him.

Of course I wouldn't chose a man with such 'connections' to be godfather.Like I said I was writing a very long story short..I found this out very recently..
Glad people find himour in this..maybe I need to take a leaf from your books

Anyfucker and hullygully-you amuse me.