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Have you ever smacked your child, given 2021 UK statistic?

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Tinkerbelle4 · 09/09/2026 18:25

Just seen this clip, not really a big fan is super nanny but was shocked to hear the UK 2021 statistic that 62% of parents had physically disciplined their child.

https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1HXeNmtEDB/?mibextid=wwXIfr

I’m curious- do you fall into that statistic? Especially if you have children say under 16- have you ever smacked them?

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MyOtherTimePiece · 13/09/2026 19:07

owlsatnight · 13/09/2026 19:05

It doesn’t bother me at all. I agree with some parts of it and have said so. But without wishing to sound particularly peevish, it is a discussion!

You seem ever so invested in my opinion and understanding me. Move on.

Avie29 · 13/09/2026 19:25

My older 4 all had a smack or 2 at some point, they don’t remember being smacked, my youngest is 2 and not smacked her.

elm26 · 13/09/2026 19:36

Never and my DH is very anti smacking too.

owlsatnight · 13/09/2026 20:24

MyOtherTimePiece · 13/09/2026 19:07

You seem ever so invested in my opinion and understanding me. Move on.

That’s not how a discussion works. I’m happy to agree to disagree, but the whole point of contributing to a thread like this is to hear and discuss and disagree.

OtterlyAstounding · 13/09/2026 20:49

AlonsoMosley · 13/09/2026 18:47

Also, many parenting choices are all about the parent and not necessarily what's in the child's best interests.

The best interests of the child is a high bar and I often wonder if it is actually achievable?

I mean, most parents decisions need to be around the collective and communal, the family. Sometimes that means that the best interests of a child take precedence, but more often than not it has to be an "also."

That's a good point!

Username7258 · 13/09/2026 20:55

Depends on the child doesn't it? One of mine was actively dangerous to themself and others so got physical disciplined in a way that the others didn't need. Sounds a lot like the child @Cotopaxi mentioned. Sometimes it's the least worst option.

owlsatnight · 13/09/2026 21:07

If DD is in a silly mood and I say ‘don’t do that DD’ and she does it again, I say ‘if you do that again you will lose your TV / Yoto / whatever she cries.

DS … I love to bits but my god I am still looking for a consequence he GAF about!

OhNoooooooooooooooo · 13/09/2026 21:15

owlsatnight · 13/09/2026 21:07

If DD is in a silly mood and I say ‘don’t do that DD’ and she does it again, I say ‘if you do that again you will lose your TV / Yoto / whatever she cries.

DS … I love to bits but my god I am still looking for a consequence he GAF about!

What does he spend his spare time doing?

owlsatnight · 13/09/2026 21:19

He is at school five days a week and he does Beavers after school one night then after school club on another night. He has weekly swimming and rugby too. He’s an active boy and enjoys being outside. He’s a nice kid but his listening skills are non existent and he can get hyper and silly very easily and can be unintentionally destructive.

OhNoooooooooooooooo · 13/09/2026 21:56

Yes, but doesn't he have hobbies?

Other than going to clubs?

OtterlyAstounding · 13/09/2026 22:03

MyOtherTimePiece · 13/09/2026 16:04

So your only options were gentle parenting or "losing your shit" (whatever that means")? No other possibilities?

Sounds like you can't control yourself to me.

There is a moderate middle ground between 'losing one's shit' and gentle parenting, with firm but loving parenting that doesn't use physical discipline. You seem to only be able to conceive of extremes.

AlonsoMosley · 13/09/2026 22:05

SlugJam · 12/09/2026 21:18

I guess if you’ve been more violent with your child than smacking them, I can see why you’d defend smacking.

This is very aggressive @SlugJam .

OtterlyAstounding · 13/09/2026 22:06

mymswashing · 13/09/2026 14:35

So when dad ends up disabled with a brain injury through an accident, it’s choice then? Mum has to work to pay the bills as dad can’t so there is no other option than child in nursery. It’s not straightforward all the time

Yes, we all have to make imperfect choices, because life isn't always ideal. That doesn't make people terrible parents, just people who do their best. My point wasn't to denigrate parents who work during their child's preschool years, just to point out how social norms affect what we see as unacceptable, and what we justify as fine. And that what is 'fine' may not be 'ideal'.

ShitHoleDweller · 13/09/2026 22:10

I smacked a hand when my eldest was cruel to my mums cat. I think that’s all.

owlsatnight · 13/09/2026 23:07

OhNoooooooooooooooo · 13/09/2026 21:56

Yes, but doesn't he have hobbies?

Other than going to clubs?

I am really sorry but I have no idea where you’re going with this.

Happiestathome · 13/09/2026 23:38

Never have and never would.

KippyMcKippy · 14/09/2026 00:58

Never ever smacked them or lost my temper at them. I occasionally shouted but only ever when I needed them to stop something immediately. So I’d shout out a ‘stop that’ or whatever. I would raise my voice for longer than that. My kids had mellow easy going personalities and were generally well behaved.
I can see how you can get to the point of hitting a kid though.

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