Have you ever smacked your child, given 2021 UK statistic?

[Tinkerbelle4]

Just seen this clip, not really a big fan is super nanny but was shocked to hear the UK 2021 statistic that 62% of parents had physically disciplined their child.

https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1HXeNmtEDB/?mibextid=wwXIfr

I’m curious- do you fall into that statistic? Especially if you have children say under 16- have you ever smacked them?

I really don't get this argument. Men don't put their wifes in time out or confiscate their phones or dock their pocket money either.

Smacking isn't ok for other reasons but you can't compare parent to child behaviour with husband to wife.

Yes. Also, the whole NCT group had also smacked their children too. They're all teens now.

No but as posters above have said I have yelled and lost my temper, as well as physically held the door to their room shut to stop them violently attacking me in a tantrum. I do not condone smacking/violence but as such I have had to leave the situation completely a few times because I felt so angry at their behaviour. FWIW I’m a teacher and am honestly so burnt out from dealing with the behaviour of kids at school and keeping my cool there that sometimes I feel I am far too snappy with my own but I would absolutely never hit them.

my parents never hit me because my mom knew better as a social worker and my dad was hit as a kid, regularly. However, I remember my teenage brother squaring up to my mom and that was the one time my dad stepped in and told him if he ever dared to that to her again he would punch him - I believe he absolutely meant it and I think it was important my brother learned not to disrespect any woman by being physically aggressive and that his dad wouldn’t tolerate it.

Where is the data that says 62% of parents in the uk have hit their children?!?

Never, I used to think it never did me any harm but once we had a child it just never made any sense to me.

However I did once absolutely shout in DD's face when she was 2 or 3 and ran into the road. That could well have been scarier for her than being hit on the bum.

@Tinkerbelle4 What range of people did they ask?

No. Never needed to, with any of my 3 children.

A couple of times yes, a slap on the bum or hand. Never because I thought it was the best way to deal with the situation but because their behaviour was too much and I became overwhelmed

No. I have never and will never assault my child.

It's probably a shock and fear response though.

It's illegal where I live and happily I've never felt the need but I think it's reasonable sometimes.

Once when dd2 was 5, smacked her bum. She was being extremely cheeky and wouldn’t stop. Felt so guilty afterwards, I never did it again. She’s 20 now.

Yes, but my kids are adults now and also weren’t brought up in the Uk.
I would much rather have not smacked them but to be honest I think that unkind and hurtful words can often have a much larger and lasting impact than a smacked bottom. I say that as someone who has been occasionally smacked as a child but to be honest it never crosses my mind. The times that someone said something that I found hurtful were much more damaging.
So yes, I occasionally smacked my kids when they were aged 3-5 as was the cultural norm where I lived. I wouldn’t do it now were I to have kids again, but to be honest in the last 5 or 6 years I’ve seen parenting which I would consider far more damaging in the long run than a smacked bum.

Well, quite. I'm not opening some random facebook link either.

Who were these parents and how were they chosen to participate in the survey?

How many people were included in the study?

How many of them responded, and how many did not?

What age range were they, and what demographic?

Were they male or female, how many of each responded to the question, and how is the 62% split between male/female?

How were the questions actually worded?

For what reason did they smack their children?

Was it regular, or a one-off event?

And that's just for starters. You can make any dataset prove what you want it to prove. Lies, damned lies and statistics - who said that?

No I haven’t. Surprised by the amount who have!

Yes, not deliberately, he kicked me in the face while I was putting his school uniform on. I smacked his leg and said "we don't hit" then instantly felt like a prize twat.

How are we defining physical discipline? I haven't smacked but I have done things like manhandled them into pushchair and I once had to drag my younger one on the school run to pick up the older one.

I've said this before but I've never met a parent that hasn't lost it and shouted at their kids.

I’ve watched the Facebook video and didn’t see it there either

Do you automatically believe statistics quoted by randoms online, or do you check whether or not it is true first?

Never.

I was battered by both parents into adulthood. Bruised, cut, nipped, poked, pushed, hair pulled.

Horrific. I can’t believe I still speak to them. They deny all of it. My dad would hit me now, but he knows I would ring the police.

Maybe they mean by the amount of people on this thread who have said they have.

Wow - harsh response.

I meant the amount on this thread!!

Thank you. Yes this is what I meant.

Eldest yes youngest never

I've just done a spot of googling, and cannot find anything resembling a survey showing figures even remotely approaching this percentage.

I did find information on gov.wales in which 62% of parents disagreed that it might sometimes be necessary to smack a child. Which rather blows the OP's assertion out of the water.