I have to do a horrible thing tonight and I’m not sure I can do it (trigger warning r*pe)

[NotSureICanDoIt]

Something awful happened at the weekend, a ‘friend’ raped me, and tonight I have to go and do a video interview. I’m just not sure that I can go through with it. Even thinking about it makes me shake. I’ve done the forensics bit at the weekend, this is just the interview instead of making a statement.

Not sure what I’m posting for really. Has anyone else done one of these before? What if they don’t believe me?

Well done for speaking out and I hope the interview was as ok as that can be.

Sending you so much support

Nothing to add to the support, just adding mine. You’re one strong lady, don’t ever forget that x

Brave lady 🫶🏻

Sending you good wishes @NotSureICanDoIt . I hope it went ok and was not too upsetting.

You are amazing and we believe you. I bet you’ll be exhausted so take care of yourself.

I wish you much support and healing OP. We're all rooting for you.

Another message of support here and respect for your courage. I hope it was as ok as it could be.

Oh bless you and your little girl and DP. I hope you can hug them when you are done tonight.

Just another message of support for you OP. You have taken control of this situation, and will be the person others listen to from now on. Huge respect to you - your DD is so lucky to have a such a strong mum x

You are so incredibly brave for speaking out - sending you hugs and a huge hand hold. I hope all went as well as it could today and you are at home having cuddles with your DP x

Hi everyone. Thank you all so much for the support, I appreciate it more than I can say.

interview is done and I’m safely home. It was ok in the end, the police lady was so nice and gentle I felt at ease. The questions were quite intense and I had to go into minute detail which was hard, but she was just lovely. She even gave me a lift home, bless her.

I’m having a glass of wine now and a nice bath to try and relax.

Thank you all again, I don’t have too many people I can talk to about this so it’s nice to spill it out here.

So sorry. Sending hugs!

Enjoy your much deserved wine and bath @NotSureICanDoIt . Bless you, so proud of your strength, sleep well brave lady x

Sending some love. I 🙏 he gets the punishment he deserves. Well done for being so brave xx

Thank you for having the courage to speak about your experience here as you are going through it, you may not realise how many women and even men you are helping just by sharing how you are feeling.
It's a roller coaster of emotions so take things easy and slowly, accept all the help you can, I really wish I had the strength to report mine xx

Well done OP for being so brave. Thinking of you and hope you manage to get some rest tonight x

Glad the police lady was nice, OP. You should change your username to ICanDoIt! We're here if you need us x

Well done OP. Hope the fucker gets what he deserves. Either way, you've done everything you can xx

Well done OP, you're doing an amazing thing by not letting that man hide his crimes. Wishing you peace and comfort as you recover from what happened.

Well done, lovely. So proud of you, it made me cry. You’re amazing x

Raging for you that
a) he did it
b) he caused you to have to go through the forensic exam
c) he caused you to have to go through the interview
d) he caused you to have to deal with whatever the next bit is
The bastard.

But well done, every step you do is helping to save the next woman from him, and one arrow in the fight to stop bastards like that in general thinking they can just do that if they feel like it and expect no consequences.
So you're helping people like me, who you will never meet, and my little daughters who are growing up in this world. Thank you. Sleep tight xxx

My goodness what an awful thing to happen, I am so sorry this happened.
I just wanted to say though that your strength & bravery here is so inspiring… you are by reporting it, not only preventing this pond life man from doing it again, but you are in a small way, adjusting the appalling stats for how rape is handled here.
I fully understand you feeling it easier to answer alone without worrying about the reactions of others. This in itself is incredible of you.
But please, make sure you have a journey back planned, preferably with a trusted friend or your partner if possible. Then make sure you allow yourself the time & sanctuary with your partner or a good friend to collapse & unravel at home afterwards. Bringing all back to the surface will be worthwhile yes, but terribly draining & disturbing. Having somebody to help you vent & be still would be very helpful.
Well done to you & again I am so sorry.
i hope they get to this poor excuse of a man quickly and that you can begin to recover as you can.

Well done lovely, so glad that it went ok though understandably difficult! You are amazing ☺️ we're always here if you need to talk, vent or have a wobble. Enjoy your wine and bath, you deserve it! You are so brave 💐

I’m so proud of your strength. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this and relive this again.

Well done OP. More hugs and love to you ❤️

Thank you for updating. You don't owe any more updates. Get on with leading your best life. Love xx