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He said my sister's name

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Zebrabottle · 28/04/2026 07:43

I can't believe that this happened. It's like a bad film cliche. But last night when DH and I were having sex, he said my sister's name!
I know it sounds like something out of EastEnders but it genuinely happened, and I have had a sleepless night as a result.
I challenged him on it, and then that made it worse because at first he denied it and then said it was a joke.
I thought our marriage was fine. I love my sister. I have a good relationship with her (I think). There has never been any suspicion of my DH in any way let alone with her.

I have changed my name for this thread because I know she uses Mumsnet sometimes. I don't know what to do. It could genuinely have been a joke of his. Or, horribly, a fantasy of some kind. Or obviously the worst possible scenario (which would ruin my life).

Should I mention it to my sister? Mention it to him again? Let it drop?

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SpryTaupeTurtle · 30/04/2026 12:58

Beachtastic · 30/04/2026 12:44

I didn't realise you were following my every post. I don't blame you, they are really good! 🌞🌞🌞🌞🌞

Im not following your every post. Don't flatter yourself

Beachtastic · 30/04/2026 13:14

SpryTaupeTurtle · 30/04/2026 12:58

Im not following your every post. Don't flatter yourself

Never say never!!!!! There is always time to learn and grow 😆

SpryTaupeTurtle · 30/04/2026 13:26

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RussetMoon · 30/04/2026 17:35

The comments on this thread are mad.

I once called my friend Lorraine by mistake. Does this mean I secretly long for Lorraine (I don’t know anyone by that name, so no) - or was my brain being random & weird?

My husband’s mum recently called me by his ex-wife’s name - even though we’ve been together for 20 years. She was mortified but I know she didn’t mean anything by it.

Sometimes our brains do their own thing!

snowfire1 · 01/05/2026 02:11

Is your sister younger and better looking than you?
if she is then you know the answer already. if she's not it may have been a sick joke. Either way it doesn't say much for your DH.

Mykneesareshot · 01/05/2026 07:24

My legs would remain firmly closed here on out. Ducks in a row then I'm off.

NormasArse · 02/05/2026 06:38

StripyShirt · 28/04/2026 18:30

Do your names both start with the same letter? Had she or something to do with her come up in conversation recently? Sometimes the brain just picks the wrong rabbit from the hat, especially when tired, stressed, or emotional.

I've come close to calling my partner by the wrong name several times before, and have actually done it once or twice, with absolutely nothing untoward going on.

I think this too.

pineapplesundae · 03/05/2026 01:08

Do you look like your sister?

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