I know I was wrong to judge but how would you react ?

[thickandcreamy]

My best friend (45) was recently away for a long weekend in another country with one of her uni friends . She met a guy she fancied and told friend to head back to hotel alone as she wanted to stay out with this guy she had met .

a few hours later best friend returned to hotel with the guy and had sex with him while her friend was in the other single bed beside them .

when she told me this , I spoke without thinking and I do admit I was judgemental, i probably should of said nothing . But I told her that I thought what she did was grim, and it was out of order bringing a stranger back to a room without consulting her friend and even worse she had sex with him with her friend asleep in the next bed . I said if I was said friend I would be questioning how much she values their friendship for her to dump her for a one night stand whilst on a girls trip in a foreign country.

she is now annoyed at me for what I said .

am I clutching my pearls too tightly or am I right in thinking it was grim ?

oooh no that is grim. Shag him - fine. Next to a friend - yuk. Did her friend know?

Ick! What did the other friend do/say? I’d be pretty pissed off and upset if I was her

Yeah, grim. I'd probably have said the same, and if I hadn't I'd have distanced myself from her sharpish.

Grim.

Its awful.

Many years ago, when on a girl holiday, I was the friend in another bed listening to two people having sex in the single bed next to mine. Thirty years on and I still remember how awful it was.

Gross! 🤮

Oh yuk!

Why do you think you were wrong to judge? I think you were absolutely right to judge.

@ShaunaSadekiShe said her friend slept through it all

@DuckonaBikeI suppose I think live and let live . It didn’t impact me personally so I shouldn’t of said anything. Also her reaction made me think I was out of order to judge .

..As far as she knows.
Friend's friend might just be saying that to keep the embarrassment level down.

You didn’t judge - you just pointed out a few obvious facts. If your friend can’t handle plain truth she shouldn’t talk to people about things she’s done.
I can’t believe she is 45 tbh.

🤢 no thank you

Gross

I’ve also experienced this second hand more than once. 🤮
really really grim - don’t give a shit about the ONS - I just don’t need to be there 🤮

I wouldn’t associate with that type of ghastly woman.

Of course it’s grim!

@tartyflettethats what I was thinking . Time will tell I suppose & if that friend distances herself from her then she will know why .

Yuck. And why can't they get a room? Is he an utter loser that he can't afford one?

Fucking with someone else in the room is fucking grim whether she likes it or not.

Grim for what she did and her reaction to you. She has no respect for her holiday friend either.

Eeeewwwww

No, no, no!

What a shitty thing to do- even worse that she can’t see it’s wrong!
Awful behaviour

I remember telling the girl I went on holidays with that I slept through it all when she was giggling about it the next day. I remember pretending to sleep and wondering when they would stop having sex and sleep so I could get up for water! Its thirty years since I've seen her, and thirty years since it happened!

I would have turned on the lights and thrown a glass of cold water on them. Who does that??

It is a bit grim.
But @thickandcreamy you were wrong to impose your morals and thoughts and make her feel more shit.
I'm sure she knows it was a bit grim. But as a friend she needs understanding not criticism or judgement.