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Original poster

Quick Poll of MNers around domestic abuse - No details needed

304 replies

WoodforTrees · 09/02/2023 18:45

A quick poll.

On the back of one of the threads about Emma Pattison who was murdered this week along with her daughter, it has become apparent just how many women relate to life she may have been living. We know the figures around reported domestic abuse, and some of the charities like Women's Aid will have a guess at unreported figures, but I think the numbers are higher than even the worst guess.

I never reported. I even insisted everything was 'fine' when someone reported on my behalf. I know there are more like me.

There is a good definition of domestic abuse here. It breaks down the types and gives examples for anyone who is unclear:

thefirststep.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/Types-of-abuse-and-examples.pdf

Please feel free to name-change and simply write 'Yes' or 'No' to indicate whether you have ever experienced any form of DA. Please please don't think this poll isn't for you if you never have. I'm hoping to see lots of 'No' answers.

Thank you.

OP posts:
Original poster
WoodforTrees · 09/02/2023 18:46

Yes

OP posts:
Chevronsareshite · 09/02/2023 18:46

Yes

HyacinthineMacaw · 09/02/2023 18:46

No

Soapboxqueen · 09/02/2023 18:47

No

spottie · 09/02/2023 18:47

Yes

xJoy · 09/02/2023 18:47

I don't see the poll

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 09/02/2023 18:47

Yes

Jellykat · 09/02/2023 18:47

Yes

booboo82 · 09/02/2023 18:49

What is the point in this ?

yestoDA · 09/02/2023 18:50

Yes. I can't see a poll.

What will this achieve?

whatadaythatwas · 09/02/2023 18:51

Yes

PurpleReindeer2 · 09/02/2023 18:51

No

DramaAlpaca · 09/02/2023 18:51

No

Eas1lyd1stracted · 09/02/2023 18:52

Yes

Gufo · 09/02/2023 18:53

Yes

WishToBeContent · 09/02/2023 18:53

Yes

SkyHippoOnACloud · 09/02/2023 18:53

Yes. Never reported.

Original poster
WoodforTrees · 09/02/2023 18:54

There isn't a clickable poll. It's just a 'Yes' or 'No' - that IS the poll.

The point is that I believe the number of women who have experienced DA is far higher than current estimates, and thought a percentage overview would give a small snapshot. It will also be useful to share with all the abuser apologists who are trying to suggest that Emma Pattison may be in some way responsible for what happened.

There needs to be a sea of change, and perhaps by realising how many MNers have been victims of DA - just via one thread - more people will wake up to just how endemic this problem is, and feel more inclined to get behind those trying to drive change.

OP posts:
Lindycg · 09/02/2023 18:54

Yes

JanusTheFirst · 09/02/2023 18:55

No

GotBeatenUp · 09/02/2023 18:55

Yes

KatnissNeverdone · 09/02/2023 18:56

Yes.

albinobrows · 09/02/2023 18:57

Yes

Eas1lyd1stracted · 09/02/2023 18:57

Is it not worth asking reported or not if that's your aim?

FourAndTwentyBlackbirdsBakedInAPie · 09/02/2023 18:58

Yes.

Due to this I made my daughters do the freedom programme which resulted in them cutting their emotionally abusive dad out because they recognised the signs, that wasn't even the point in me making them do it, but I'm so glad my shit experience has made them more aware.