Quick Poll of MNers around domestic abuse - No details needed

[WoodforTrees]

A quick poll.

On the back of one of the threads about Emma Pattison who was murdered this week along with her daughter, it has become apparent just how many women relate to life she may have been living. We know the figures around reported domestic abuse, and some of the charities like Women's Aid will have a guess at unreported figures, but I think the numbers are higher than even the worst guess.

I never reported. I even insisted everything was 'fine' when someone reported on my behalf. I know there are more like me.

There is a good definition of domestic abuse here. It breaks down the types and gives examples for anyone who is unclear:

thefirststep.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/Types-of-abuse-and-examples.pdf

Please feel free to name-change and simply write 'Yes' or 'No' to indicate whether you have ever experienced any form of DA. Please please don't think this poll isn't for you if you never have. I'm hoping to see lots of 'No' answers.

Thank you.

Maybe, not sure on the definition.

He raped me once, but otherwise wasn't abusive.

I didn't report

Yes. Didn't report. He was a police officer.

Emotional, physical and financial

Never reported. I was working with abused women at the time. It would have been too embarrassing.

Yes

Yes as a child
No in any adult relationships

Apologies. I've read the definition now, sorry for earlier post.

Yes

Yes.

Physical - no.

Psychological - only for as long as it took me to kick the would-be perpetrator out.

@WoodforTrees is this for woman victims from male abuse.

Or are you included, female victims of females abuse, male victims of male abuse, sibling victims, child victims etc as well. Prob best be specific.

Yes

Yes and I didn’t report

Reported. Was disbelieved. Three times. Laughed at. By the police.

Left in the end.

Still don't think I would've been believed. I wouldn't be believed on here if I spelled it out.

No

Yes as a child witnessing it.

Yes as an adult in my own relationships.

Yes as the parent of a violent adult.

No

Abuse from a romantic partner - whatever sex that might be.

Yes

I was abused as a child inside the family and as an adult in my romantic relationship

Yes. Rape definitely counts :(

Yes, physical, psychological and financial.

Physical stopped once he realised my GP had seen bruising on me and noted it in my records. Just upped the other abuse further though.
Took three attempts to leave, third time lucky, my youngest was three, biggest regret not leaving sooner, my youngest can remember things that trouble her to this day... don't ever believe any children are too young to know what's going on.

Yes

Yes. Psychological.

47/59

Sexual, physical, psychological and financial.

No.

Heartbreaking that so many have experienced abuse where they should feel safe.