Quick Poll of MNers around domestic abuse - No details needed

[WoodforTrees]

A quick poll.

On the back of one of the threads about Emma Pattison who was murdered this week along with her daughter, it has become apparent just how many women relate to life she may have been living. We know the figures around reported domestic abuse, and some of the charities like Women's Aid will have a guess at unreported figures, but I think the numbers are higher than even the worst guess.

I never reported. I even insisted everything was 'fine' when someone reported on my behalf. I know there are more like me.

There is a good definition of domestic abuse here. It breaks down the types and gives examples for anyone who is unclear:

thefirststep.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/Types-of-abuse-and-examples.pdf

Please feel free to name-change and simply write 'Yes' or 'No' to indicate whether you have ever experienced any form of DA. Please please don't think this poll isn't for you if you never have. I'm hoping to see lots of 'No' answers.

Thank you.

Yes for me
Yes for my mum
Yes for my DD
Yes for my auntie
Yes for my sister
Yes for my niece
Yes for my great niece
Yes for my 2 best friends

That's just off the top of my head.

Oh and I'm also part of a female only group of which about 95% have experienced DV.

It's fucking endemic.

💜 for all of you out there who have also suffered.

Yes

Yes.

No but my DD has

Yes

No

Yes

Didn't report it.

Well I did phone 999 once, but hung up. They still came round but I was too scared and denied it all. They knew though.

Yes my ex was abusive and once strangled me but never reported it and never will.

No to my daughter.

and no to my sons.

Which is the most important thing I've ever done.

Yes for me
Yes for my mum
Yes for two aunts
Yes for two of my sons

Yes. Didn't report. Even my family were of the 'well you haven't got any bruises...'

Devil's advocate here, wasn't there a news article that SHE had been questioned by police for DA but NFA'd?

yes

Yes. Never reported

No
i wonder if the poll might be a bit selective as those who’ve suffered DA might be more likely to click on a post about it 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yes.

Yes

No

Replied yes before.
It was 3 seperate long term relationships.
Between them all, I suffered physical, emotional and sexual abuse.

It took years but I learned what behavioural patterns to look out for in men.
My now DH is incredible and I'm so thankful to have a good man in my life.

Yes

Yes - psychological and financial.

Yes

Someone else reported it - he went to prison.

No

Yes

No

Yes