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Quick Poll of MNers around domestic abuse - No details needed

304 replies

WoodforTrees · 09/02/2023 18:45

A quick poll.

On the back of one of the threads about Emma Pattison who was murdered this week along with her daughter, it has become apparent just how many women relate to life she may have been living. We know the figures around reported domestic abuse, and some of the charities like Women's Aid will have a guess at unreported figures, but I think the numbers are higher than even the worst guess.

I never reported. I even insisted everything was 'fine' when someone reported on my behalf. I know there are more like me.

There is a good definition of domestic abuse here. It breaks down the types and gives examples for anyone who is unclear:

thefirststep.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/Types-of-abuse-and-examples.pdf

Please feel free to name-change and simply write 'Yes' or 'No' to indicate whether you have ever experienced any form of DA. Please please don't think this poll isn't for you if you never have. I'm hoping to see lots of 'No' answers.

Thank you.

OP posts:
cassiatwenty · 18/02/2023 00:44

Yes

ginandlemonade23 · 18/02/2023 00:45

No

quietlycontent · 18/02/2023 00:46

No

Talipesmum · 18/02/2023 00:47

No

Bluelightbaby · 18/02/2023 00:53

Yes

madeyemoody · 18/02/2023 00:55

No

sunshineandstrawberryjam · 18/02/2023 00:55

Yes

MistyGreenAndBlue · 18/02/2023 01:12

Yes. Twice. Didn't report.

twoandcooplease · 18/02/2023 01:22

Yes

cassiatwenty · 18/02/2023 01:24

Hugs @Bluelightbaby , @twoandcooplease @MistyGreenAndBlue , @sunshineandstrawberryjam 💐

PissedOffNeighbour22 · 18/02/2023 01:38

Yes. Didn't report.

Justmeandthedog1 · 18/02/2023 01:44

Yes, never reported as it was psychological, emotional & financial. Threatened violence.

Fentylipgloss · 18/02/2023 01:48

Yes x 2

SunsetStrip · 18/02/2023 01:48

Yes. Reported only once and the police were awful. They made the whole thing worse. They beat him up and didn't give me a moments thought, I was inconsequential to the situation, they barely spoke to me. They just brought more violence with them. We finished about 6m later without any help from anyone.

MyGhastIsFlabbered · 18/02/2023 08:12

Yes

Mumtheroad · 18/02/2023 08:16

Yes

clpsmum · 18/02/2023 08:25

Yes

SideshowAuntSallly · 18/02/2023 08:40

Yes, didn't report it because what proof was there he never left bruises because he used to give me a clip round the back of the head, the one time he tried to strangle me he never left a mark either. The shouting would scare me and I would flinch if he came near me. I got to the stage where I didn't think I deserved better. I was a nag and didn't know when to walk away (his words). He would tell me I wouldn't cope without him. He locked me out and the police did nothing.

Annoyingwurringnoise · 18/02/2023 08:47

Yes

Velvetbee · 18/02/2023 09:16

Yes. Didn’t report.

FlashDash · 18/02/2023 09:17

No

WoofWoofBeachLife · 18/02/2023 11:46

Yes

cassiatwenty · 18/02/2023 18:46

Hugs @PissedOffNeighbour22 , @Justmeandthedog1 @Fentylipgloss @SunsetStrip @MyGhastIsFlabbered @Mumtheroad @clpsmum @SideshowAuntSallly @Annoyingwurringnoise @Velvetbee @WoofWoofBeachLife 💐

clpsmum · 18/02/2023 18:49

@cassiatwenty thank you appreciated 🤗

SunsetStrip · 18/02/2023 22:13

@cassiatwenty Thank you. Life has very much moved in since then but it is never forgotten.

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