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Quick Poll of MNers around domestic abuse - No details needed

304 replies

WoodforTrees · 09/02/2023 18:45

A quick poll.

On the back of one of the threads about Emma Pattison who was murdered this week along with her daughter, it has become apparent just how many women relate to life she may have been living. We know the figures around reported domestic abuse, and some of the charities like Women's Aid will have a guess at unreported figures, but I think the numbers are higher than even the worst guess.

I never reported. I even insisted everything was 'fine' when someone reported on my behalf. I know there are more like me.

There is a good definition of domestic abuse here. It breaks down the types and gives examples for anyone who is unclear:

thefirststep.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/Types-of-abuse-and-examples.pdf

Please feel free to name-change and simply write 'Yes' or 'No' to indicate whether you have ever experienced any form of DA. Please please don't think this poll isn't for you if you never have. I'm hoping to see lots of 'No' answers.

Thank you.

OP posts:
AdoraBell · 09/02/2023 20:11

Yes

Also my mother never reported. My older sister reported but kept taking him back.

ovaltina · 09/02/2023 20:11

No.

friskybiscuit · 09/02/2023 20:16

Yes.. exH. Didn't report.

stbrandonsboat · 09/02/2023 20:18

Yes

Spotsstripes · 09/02/2023 20:18

Yes but never reported.

saraclara · 09/02/2023 20:18

No

But this is a pointless thread and 'poll' because it's much more likely that those who have experienced DV will make the effort to respond. And far more likely to have opened the thread in the first place. Most no's will have scrolled past the thread title I suspect.

SuperSange · 09/02/2023 20:20

Yes

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/02/2023 20:22

Yes.

But it's worth saying that I didn't recognise it at the time. So some of the No may actually turn into yes over time.

Icanbelieveithappened · 09/02/2023 20:22

Yes

AlwaysLatte · 09/02/2023 20:23

No

bumblebeemumma · 09/02/2023 20:24

Yes

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/02/2023 20:24

saraclara · 09/02/2023 20:18

No

But this is a pointless thread and 'poll' because it's much more likely that those who have experienced DV will make the effort to respond. And far more likely to have opened the thread in the first place. Most no's will have scrolled past the thread title I suspect.

Nothing to see here. Move along. Don't talk about male violence.

<sigh>

BraveGoldie · 09/02/2023 20:29

Yes- though sad to say it was from a woman partner.
From men, I feel lucky to be able to say no.....

Redshoeblueshoe · 09/02/2023 20:38

Yes, not reported

Igmum · 09/02/2023 20:47

Yes

DecommissionedVag · 09/02/2023 20:50

Yes

wheresmymojo · 09/02/2023 21:12

No

cunningartificer · 09/02/2023 21:12

No

Tamarindtree · 09/02/2023 21:13

No.

wheresmymojo · 09/02/2023 21:13

Sorry, I said no as not in a relationship

Yes as a child by father. I don't believe it was reported. My DM left him when I was 3.

cunningartificer · 09/02/2023 21:13

Agree a lot of no votes would not click on this as I nearly didn't.

QuitMoaning · 09/02/2023 21:15

No

Mamathulu · 09/02/2023 21:16

yes

AntiHop · 09/02/2023 21:19

Yes

SandSeeker · 09/02/2023 21:23

Yes.
Not reported.