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Quick Poll of MNers around domestic abuse - No details needed

304 replies

WoodforTrees · 09/02/2023 18:45

A quick poll.

On the back of one of the threads about Emma Pattison who was murdered this week along with her daughter, it has become apparent just how many women relate to life she may have been living. We know the figures around reported domestic abuse, and some of the charities like Women's Aid will have a guess at unreported figures, but I think the numbers are higher than even the worst guess.

I never reported. I even insisted everything was 'fine' when someone reported on my behalf. I know there are more like me.

There is a good definition of domestic abuse here. It breaks down the types and gives examples for anyone who is unclear:

thefirststep.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/Types-of-abuse-and-examples.pdf

Please feel free to name-change and simply write 'Yes' or 'No' to indicate whether you have ever experienced any form of DA. Please please don't think this poll isn't for you if you never have. I'm hoping to see lots of 'No' answers.

Thank you.

OP posts:
Original poster
WoodforTrees · 09/02/2023 18:59

Eas1lyd1stracted · 09/02/2023 18:57

Is it not worth asking reported or not if that's your aim?

Yes, that would be good to know. Initially wanted to just see numbers, but interesting to see whether it was reported. I did not report.

OP posts:
YewandOak · 09/02/2023 18:59

Yes

Coffeesnob11 · 09/02/2023 18:59

Yes

2crossedout1 · 09/02/2023 18:59

No

CornedBeef451 · 09/02/2023 19:00

Yes to psychological, luckily nothing physical.

My sister yes to physical and psychological from at least two relationships.

My Mom yes to physical and psychological.

2 nieces yes to physical and psychological

SlightlyJaded · 09/02/2023 19:00

18 Yes out of 24 responses so far

Blossomtoes · 09/02/2023 19:01

Yes

Brakebackcyclebot · 09/02/2023 19:01

yes

onlyoneoftheregimentinstep · 09/02/2023 19:02

No

MeghanThyStallion · 09/02/2023 19:02

Yes

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 09/02/2023 19:02

No

MeghanThyStallion · 09/02/2023 19:03

To add to mine, I didn't report it but I did get an NMO after we divorced.

RunningFromInsanity · 09/02/2023 19:03

No

PinkPlantCase · 09/02/2023 19:03

No

Jellykat · 09/02/2023 19:04

Mine wasnt reported although i did do The Freedom programme (so im not sure if that would be amongst WA figures).. i'm sure thats the same for the majority of women.

pollchange · 09/02/2023 19:04

Yes

FourAndTwentyBlackbirdsBakedInAPie · 09/02/2023 19:04

Adding to mine- I reported after 13 years.

yummytummy · 09/02/2023 19:05

Yes

Shlomping1234 · 09/02/2023 19:05

Yes

Cannyauldsuddick · 09/02/2023 19:05

Yes

SockQueen · 09/02/2023 19:06

No

Zoutdroopje · 09/02/2023 19:06

Yes.

In 2 previous relationships, both with violence, including death threats. I didn’t report as I thought police would side with the perp.

My Mum was also the victim of DA/DV as was one of my DDs as a teenager.

PanettoneMoly · 09/02/2023 19:06

No

LightSpeeds · 09/02/2023 19:07

Yes

mumof31968 · 09/02/2023 19:07

me no dd1 yes