DH using toilet for DT’s when out

[Silverbirch123]

I have NC for this but I’m a regular poster

We have 3 year old twin girls. If we’re out (or he takes them out on his own) for the day and my DH has to take one (or both) of our girls to the toilet he’s started using the ladies (not always just sometimes)

The reason he says for this is that the mens toilets are usually really grotty. He went somewhere a couple of weeks ago where there was only 1 cubicle, and several men using the urinals. He pushed the door open and there was a guy sitting on the toilet who hadn’t locked the door 🤮

He immediately came out and used the ladies. No one has ever said anything to him but I’ve suggested that in those circumstances he uses the disabled, but that’s not always possible if you need a special key to open them.

i darent post this in AIBU but given the circumstances above would you DH’s do the same? I’m keen for my DH not to cause offence by using the ladies but I’m also keen for my DD’s not being subjected to filthy toilets and grown men not shutting the doors when they’re having a poo 💩

Wait though! What if the mens is clean BUT there is a terrorist and he’s threatening to blow up a nearby nursery school if DH and the poor twin girls don’t go in the woman’s toilets? The woman’s is covered in shit BUT one cubicle is ok but that one has a nun on her period in it.

WHAT THEN?!?!

@Pruella that's a job for Bruce Willis

@Pruella 😂

That eventuality is only acceptable if there's also a giant godzilla prowling the corridors outside the men's. No godzila = no entry

Same with me. I have an almost 4 year old DD (in October) and if we're all together I take her in the women's, of course. We've told her that if I'm with her she goes in the girls and when she's "only with daddy she can go into the boys." And that little girls and boys are allowed in either but mums and dads can only use the one for them. She also understands that she may sometimes see little boys in the girls but that's okay because their mum is helping them just like dad sometimes helps her in the men's.