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Bring your worries over here, the Night Shift are still here to mind them

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 20/07/2021 16:56

New thread here, since the Last Thread has ever so slowly filled up. Isn't it amazing how little our worries crept up in the night when the world was actually one big worry?

Pandemic or not, this is the place to just park your worries. We don't ask questions, or try to solve your problems. We just hold them, tenderly, carefully, until you are strong enough to take them back. If they choose not to come back, all the better.

Signing in for the Night Shift, V3!

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Shieldingending · 20/07/2021 17:27

Ahh what a lovely thread. Just what I need now, dad has been doing so well with his cancer battle but they have just found a second more serious type. Felt like I literally can’t breathe right now, chest is so tight

hannayeah · 20/07/2021 17:31

@Shieldingending I’m here and will hold that one for you.

@2018SoFarSoGreat Thank you for the shiny new thread. I’ve missed this.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 20/07/2021 17:36

Oh @Shieldingending you are in such good hands with our dear @hannayeah. You just breathe and let it all go.

Yes, @hannayeah I have too. I'm always so delighted when it pops us and we are called into duty.

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User018475022 · 20/07/2021 17:36

Happy to mind some night time worries for our Australian / New Zealand / other countries who are currently in the night time zone friends.

ABitOfAShitShow · 20/07/2021 17:41

Happy to hold some worries tonight. Would be even better if I can someone a swap. Smile

ABitOfAShitShow · 20/07/2021 17:41

Can DO*

FizziWater · 20/07/2021 17:50

I didn't know these were still going. I found great comfort nearly two years ago when I was going through cancer treatment. The original thread was someone I knew from the cancer thread.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 20/07/2021 18:36

I'll swap you for tonight, @User018475022. Leave yours with me and I'll mind them whilst I work. They will sit in the (currently empty) cat hammock so that I can keep a stern eye on them, should they try to misbehave.

I'm fretting about when I'll ever get to travel home (to Scotland from California) to see my family. I'm physically missing them all so much.

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isthisouting · 20/07/2021 18:47

Mine isn't as serious and this is the first time I've seen this thread (love the idea). From the outside I have a wonderful life but just feel so blah in my head. So mental health has take a downturn. I worry about everything and it's so exhausting. My worries have worries. And possible solutions to those worries bring up more worries!

@Shieldingending and @2018SoFarSoGreat definitely holding those for you. Can very much identify with your posts.

Shieldingending · 20/07/2021 18:56

Thank you, crying here at the thought that strangers are so kind Thanks

Cloudninenine · 20/07/2021 18:56

My baby has started a new thing of crying inconsolably at bedtime. It’s so heartbreaking and hard to deal with, and it makes me frantic that I can’t fix it.

orangejuicer · 20/07/2021 18:59

Here for you cloudnine. Is it the witching hour?

Cloudninenine · 20/07/2021 19:00

Maybe. Although he’s seven months, so should have outgrown it. He’s never really been fussy in the evenings and used to go to sleep reasonably happily, but just lately it’s like he anticipates being left alone and just breaks his heart over it Sad

Cloudninenine · 20/07/2021 19:00

@orangejuicer also thank you ❤️

GenuineKlatchianPottery · 20/07/2021 19:04

Ohh, lovely, shiny new thread.
Settles in with the cat ready to take care of any worries.

DramaAlpaca · 20/07/2021 19:04

Hello all Smile I was on the last two threads so I'm an experienced worry minder at this stage Grin

Happy to help any evening and thanks for starting a new thread @2018SoFarSoGreat. I hadn't seen the last thread for a while, it's great to see it's still going.

@Cloudninenine I remember well how stressful a baby's crying can be, when you don't have a clue what's wrong and can't seem to fix it Flowers

2018SoFarSoGreat · 20/07/2021 19:25

@isthisouting I'm not sure how many of us now holding your worries, but you can just let them go. There are plenty of us on duty tonight to hold even the worries of your worries, so you do not have to. Let them go. That's it. Now, you go just be. Rest. We've got you.

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supafish · 20/07/2021 20:17

I've had a horrible headache for nearly a week . It's so bad I'm starting to worry about it . If I take the drugs to ease the pain I'm a zombie but can't function if I don't . Docs keep saying it's tension ! Take the worry away please dear friends x

ABitOfAShitShow · 20/07/2021 21:47

Can somebody please take mine for the night? They’re very trivial compared to the others but my boyfriend left 3 days ago and I’m absolutely broken.

namcybotwinbloom · 20/07/2021 21:52

I keep worrying about my parents dying. They are in their seventies in good health.

I'm worried about not spending enough time with them. I see them every day.

I know I'm an idiot.

Gazelda · 20/07/2021 22:02

@supafish that sounds like a worry. Try to get some cool sleep, your worries are being taken care of.

@ABitOfAShitShow sorry you're suffering. Your troubles aren't trivial, they are real. But leave them with me for this evening.

@namcybotwinbloom You're not an idiot. It's a worry many of us have. I'll pop your worry next to the others' and keep a close eye for you.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 20/07/2021 22:05

@supafish you poor thing. Let us just lift that worry and tension for now, and you just rest. Let it go. All the way. That's it. Breathe.

@ABitOfAShitShow oh your poor heart. I remember oh so well how that feels. I am sorry. You just sleep and let your poor heart mend. Go on, just do that. You don't have to worry about it tonight.

@namcybotwinbloom oh, what a worry that is. It is such a hard thing to think of letting go, and as we age it become so real. Not for tonight though. I shall hold this worry tight, it shall not wrangle free. You get some well earned sleep. I've got you.

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Gladioli23 · 20/07/2021 22:10

I've had my worries minded in the past and it really helped me sleep. I'm now in a less worrisome place and am also happy to look after someone's worries if that would help.

Shangrilalala · 20/07/2021 22:17

DD is out cavorting in pubs and clubs again. She’s late teens but is never truthful about what’s what, so I get so anxious waiting for the sound of her return. It’s been three nights/early mornings in a row and I’m exhausted. I need to let this go but she seems hell bent on self destruction and I’m so tired of lying in bed worrying. Sounds ridiculous. If only I could get a grip…

grealush · 20/07/2021 22:29

These threads always make me feel emotional to see the kindness and empathy shown to strangers.

I am really worried about some symptoms I have at the moment, am worried I will never feel better, am worried it's something sinister, am worried I will leave my baby behind... it's all a spiral of uncontrollable fear at the moment. Thank you to anyone who can mind this worry for the night x

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