Bring your worries over here, the Night Shift are still here to mind them

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

New thread here, since the Last Thread has ever so slowly filled up. Isn't it amazing how little our worries crept up in the night when the world was actually one big worry?

Pandemic or not, this is the place to just park your worries. We don't ask questions, or try to solve your problems. We just hold them, tenderly, carefully, until you are strong enough to take them back. If they choose not to come back, all the better.

Signing in for the Night Shift, V3!

[NameChangeforMoneyThings]

@Shangrilalala

DD is out cavorting in pubs and clubs again. She’s late teens but is never truthful about what’s what, so I get so anxious waiting for the sound of her return. It’s been three nights/early mornings in a row and I’m exhausted. I need to let this go but she seems hell bent on self destruction and I’m so tired of lying in bed worrying. Sounds ridiculous. If only I could get a grip…

@Shangrilalala

That sounds exhausting, you must wish she was home. I don't think it sounds ridiculous, it sounds like a normal feature of parenthood to me. If I mind your worries for you, might you be able to text her and ask her to call the landline or set your mobile to be loud only if she calls you and then try to get a good night's sleep tonight? Sometimes I take a drowsy piriton tablet. I'm very happy to mind your worries tonight while you do sleep: things always seem worse when you're tired.

[Gladioli23]

@grealush

to you, symptoms often make us fear the worst and the uncertainty can be as exhausting as all the possibilities. If you can, sleep tonight will help your body manage any symptoms you have better, so let me take your worries from you and keep an eye on them while you sleep, so they don't have to bother you tonight.

[namcybotwinbloom]

@2018SoFarSoGreat & @Gazelda thank you for thinking of me. Xx

Yep as we get older i think it becomes more real, no matter how old you are you still need that unconditional love and advice.

[namcybotwinbloom]

@grealush I will take your worry. Do you think maybe you have a bit of health anxiety because your a parent?
That's normal. I suffer with that also and I frighten myself with looking at google which has never been right once.

But also see a doctor to talk and put your mind at rest. Sending a hug/love/cwtch whatever you call it where you are x

[NoYOUbekind]

I've never been on this thread before but can someone please take mine tonight? My mum has died, my brother is terminally ill, my teen is anxious (I mean, no wonder, right?) and I am so very tired.

[WhispersOfWickedness]

What a lovely thread 🥰

Please can someone mind my worries overnight so I can finally get a good night's sleep.

We've been isolating for 16 days now, DH tested positive for Covid 16 days ago. A week ago he went into hospital and was thankfully released yesterday, such a relief to have him home and so much better. The day DH went into hospital, DS received a positive test result. DD and I have had a variety of different symptoms in the last week and are awaiting results of our third pcr tests in 2 weeks. At this point I'm done guessing what the results are going to be 🤷‍♀️
DS is fine, thankfully.
I'm worried DD and I will be positive and end up in hospital like DH. I'm worried about DS because he's in yr6 and has missed out on pretty much all the leavers stuff in the last two weeks, I'm gutted for him. I'm worried about DH who is still answering calls from work even though he is officially off sick (it's not his boss, she wants him to take the rest of the summer off, it's his assistant 😠), I'm worried for our new kitten who hasn't seemed to have realised that he needs to drink more in this heat, I'm worried about DD who is supposed to be doing a competition for her hobby in 2 weeks that she has worked so hard for. It's been so long since we've left the house that now I'm worried about leaving the house when we are able to!! Just a whole load of 🤯 going on in my head 😔

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

@NoYOUbekind how awful. That's a huge amount of pain and grief to bear, you must be exhausted. For now, just let it all go. Cuddle in, shut your eyes, and let your poor body and mind just be. That's the way.

@WhispersOfWickedness bloody CV (that which shall not be named in case it wakes the worries that are nestling quietly under my stern watch!) - it all sounds horrible and scary and exhausting. Your poor head must be ready to explode! However, for now, you can just pass the whole big ball of worries and fears over to us Worry Guardians. We'll manage it all for you, for tonight, and let you just rest. Go on. Cozy in, shut your eyes. Breathe deeply. Now sleep. We've got you.

[Shangrilalala]

@NameChangeforMoneyThings Your kind sensible words have already given me some calm. Thank you for letting me unload a little of the burden.

[grealush]

[quote namcybotwinbloom]@grealush I will take your worry. Do you think maybe you have a bit of health anxiety because your a parent?
That's normal. I suffer with that also and I frighten myself with looking at google which has never been right once.

But also see a doctor to talk and put your mind at rest. Sending a hug/love/cwtch whatever you call it where you are x

[/quote]
Thank you for your reply and for watching the worry for me all in hand with doctors and investigations- ironically I am a doctor too which as you guessed gives me terrible health anxiety.
Thank you to the night team watching the worries

[BeardyButton]

I am so tired of worrying about COVID. I’m so sad at the idea the my little boys education is going to be effected again in September. I badly miss my friends and family. It has been so long since I have been able to be around people without feeling totally anxious that something bad is going to happen.

[DramaAlpaca]

@BeardyButton I hear you. It's tough, isn't it, it's been so long. Leave your worries here with me tonight and get some rest

[ABitOfAShitShow]

@Gazelda and @2018SoFarSoGreat thank you!

[JustRabbitStuff]

What a lovely, comforting thread. My worries seem trivial but I just feel very overwhelmed at the moment, I have so much going on and I feel like I don't have a handle on my life right now. I worry that I'm missing out on what should be the best part of my life feeling anxious and sad all the time.

[DramaAlpaca]

Ah, @JustRabbitStuff, it's a tough time right now. Don't worry about trivial worries, nothing is too trivial for us worry minders If you like you can leave them with me overnight and I'll mind them while you get some sleep

[Mogloveseggs]

Please can I leave mine? I found a lump. Gp has referred me for scans and mammogram. I'm terrified.

[JustRabbitStuff]

Thank you @DramaAlpaca I really needed that tonight... I'm going to try and get some sleep now :)

[GenuineKlatchianPottery]

Another worry guardian signing in for the night shift.
Any worries can settle in the cat’s basket for the night, you can collect them when you’re feeling ready.

[Guiltymumofkids]

I am worried about my divorce, worried about giving up any of my time with my children to him, worried about how much more spiteful he will become, worried the stress of it all will make my cancer come back again, worried I screwed it up for the children because I tried to protect them and didn’t act wisely.
Just so tired of worrying

[ABitOfAShitShow]

Just took a sleeping pill and am going to try to get some rest but I just want to say I love you all and this thread is beautiful.

@Guiltymumofkids I’ll take your worries now mine are being minded. Leave them with me.

[bloodywhitecat]

I am tired, my asthma is playing up so I am sitting up so that I might not cough quite so much. I am stressed, very stressed. Since DH was diagnosed with cancer last year everything has been a battle, even the sodding oncologist doesn't call when he says he will. I am tired and I don't care about life any more everything is just such fucking hard work.

[Guiltymumofkids]

Thankyou @ABitOfAShitShow xx

[Guiltymumofkids]

@Mogloveseggs I will take yours. I’ve been there, it’s a worry I can hold for tonight for you xx

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

@Mogloveseggs I know how terrifying this time is - the bit between finding and then knowing what you are dealing with. Every second seems like an eternity. But for tonight, you let us hold the fear for you. We've got you - look how many of us are on duty! Your worries have not a hope of rearing their ugly heads tonight. You get some sleep. Just let it be.

@bloodywhitecat it sounds horrid, and no wonder you are exhausted and stressed. I am so sorry. Why don't you just give us your stress to hold for now? Give it over here. It shall be tucked in with the worries and fears and pain. The cats on duty shall keep their beady eyes on it, as shall we all. You don't have to think about any of it for now.

Cozy in. Get some well deserved rest. It is okay for now. We've got you.

[DramaAlpaca]

@bloodywhitecat I've seen your threads, I know you are going through such a hard time If I can help even a little by taking on a few of your worries tonight I gladly will.

[TrueRefuge]

Oh @Mogloveseggs. How scary. I had this 6 months ago. I know the exact feeling you're having. It's horrible and feels like the end of the world.

Let me take all those horrible thoughts, the what ifs, the planning, and keep them safe with me for tonight. You can pick them back up in the morning ready to take back on. But for now, you rest. I've got you.