Bring your worries over here, the Night Shift are still here to mind them

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

New thread here, since the Last Thread has ever so slowly filled up. Isn't it amazing how little our worries crept up in the night when the world was actually one big worry?

Pandemic or not, this is the place to just park your worries. We don't ask questions, or try to solve your problems. We just hold them, tenderly, carefully, until you are strong enough to take them back. If they choose not to come back, all the better.

Signing in for the Night Shift, V3!

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

@Siablue well done getting out and keeping you and your DS safe. Hopefully the divorce will be done before too long and let you get settled in whatever will be your home.

For now, just let us hold that worry. You need not carry that burden alone. Pass it over and we shall squish it and wrangle it as much as is needed. We've got you.

Cozy in and sleep. That's it. Just sleep.

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

@MareofBeasttown ah, your poor girl,and you poor mum. It doesn't matter a whit how old our babies are. They are still that. It is the hardest thing to watch them go through difficult times. I know. Much harder than suffering ourself.

Lay that worry down now. Just let it go and leave it with us. We will hold it tenderly and take good care until you are rested. It's OK. You go take care of you for a wee while. Sleep. That's it

[Becca19962014]

@MareofBeasttown please don't ever feel you cannot "talk" here. You can. No one is going to judge your worries, so don't ever feel anything is "too small". It's not.

[peachgreen]

Oh @MareofBeasttown, please don't feel that your worries are small. I am so grateful that my wee girl is small and in my control as it's one less thing to worry about, and she's already the thing I worry about the most! I hope you managed to get some sleep xx

[AlloftheTime]

Evening all
Hope you’ve all had a good day and are winding down now.
I have some space this evening for any stray worries or concerns.
Don’t worry if they are big or small, if they are taking up headspace for you then just hand them over here and I will check them in for the night.

[Becca19962014]

Difficult day, really need ro get off line.,horrendous headache and feeling awful (roughly two hours sleep last night). Am sick of people ignoring my needs as a disabled person.

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

Hope you get some sleep @Becca19962014. It all sounds so very difficult. Sending much love and 🌹

[Becca19962014]

Thank you. On my way to bed now, just been sorting out batteries for CD player!

[MareofBeasttown]

Thanks so much @peachgreen and @Becca19962014

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

Checking in to see how all of those pesky pains, worries and fears are behaving tonight. If any of them need to be corralled, send them my way. I'm organizing my good dishes/tableware/napkins closet and it is almost done, so I've made a little space in the hutch where I can tuck anything that needs tucked. If they need more personal attention, I can sit them right next to me at my desk, and Daisy shall help me care for them as needed.

Almost time for a new thread. I'll do one tomorrow and link it here.

Sending peace and quiet and calm to you all.

[Becca19962014]

Sorry, can I continue to bother you about the housing, insomnia and what is becoming increasingly severe depression. I am so badly struggling. I actually laid in bed and screamed this afternoon. Every single thing is such a mess. A horrible mess.

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

you are never a bother, dear @Becca19962014 and of course you may lay it all right here.

Screaming in bed sounds like a horrid but actually cathartic thing. I hope it made you feel better, or at least let some of the stress out of your body.

We're all here with you, for what it is worth. Stay with us. You're one of us now and we care for you!

[Becca19962014]

@2018SoFarSoGreat Thankyou!

Just another one to leave, sorry, I'm really scared my meds won't be done and I can't wait due to convoluted one way system and must get food. If it's not there I won't get meds again. They screwed up today's and in agony anyway.

The screaming didn't help - subluxed my jaw so in a lot of pain

I'll likely be up though not here but thinking of all of you.

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

I'll hold that for you, @Becca19962014. It all sounds horrid - I am sorry.

[Justbecauseofit]

I'm up here for the first time in ages.

You have all really been going through it haven't you?

I had my covid vaccine the other day so I've woken up rough and with achey bones, took some painkillers and made a hot water bottle to take to bed with me. Not too much going on, however I did get a call off my mum tonight, a close family member of mine had to go to urgent care with a headache which is a worry - he was in intensive care a few weeks back with meningitis, almost lost his life. So my poor mums been fretting over it. They have put him on morphine and he's awaiting a brain scan - been restlessly checking my phone for updates.
It's so cold in the house too, I've been watching the world dwindle around me along with my mood as it so often does in the colder months, I worry that it's going to be a hard one this year for depression. Some money issues too which has been made worse this week due to my partner missing the pay deadline to get his work in, meaning Friday moneys will not be getting here for another two weeks and it's a week where all the bills go out. Could have done without it all this month really.

Other than that I'm clinging on to the last few scraps of my summer happiness and I'm healthy so I have that to be grateful for. One other thing I noticed when I went to check my phone for the time is that my partner had sneakily taken a pic of our new toy shark - Iain Shark - and has set it as the background picture on my phone which must have been a stealth move when I went to the loo before bed. 'Pic or else it didn't happen' attached, hopefully it might bring a smile to someone's face if anything?

[Justbecauseofit]

@Becca19962014

Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and sending lots of love your way - I have been there (a few times than I care to admit) with the severe depression, the screaming in bed too - and the kitchen floor which seemed to be a common place - and I know how crippling it can feel to even breathe. It gets better. I promise.

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

@Justbecauseofit you write of your worries so beautifully. but lovely words or not, that's a lot going on. Sending healing thoughts to you and your relative, and for quick easing of your other woes.


For now, cozy back in and get sleep. Just rest your body and soul and dream of warm breezes. I'll hold all the worries so you don't have to. Go on. Just rest. it's OK.

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

Shiny new thread HERE - didn't this one fill up fast?

Never mind. We have more experience with wrangling all the worries, pains and fears now, so bring them on!

[Phoenixrising2020]

I separated from my husband in late autumn last year because of his hateful behaviour towards me. I went to a refuge and he lied to everyone and has exploited the difficult relationships that exist between my children and I because of my relationship with him.
He does all he can to make me appear argumentative and unstable if I have to speak to him about anything difficult and he is actively trying to destroy me. My older children don't care, my teenagers don't understand and the younger ones think he's amazing.

I couldn't get the children out because of my health problems, he would have used that to have them returned to him. He tried to take me to court with vicious lies and distortions and if I seek legal support he will make it difficult to see the children.

I am so afraid and so alone. I have the younger two this weekend and I can't sleep. I am so afraid. Even the refuge can't help and I am now really scared that as my wonderful little boys grow up they are going to despise me too.
I feel so alone.

[Phoenixrising2020]

He then withdrew the court application but I still had to appear. The judge was great and I honestly believe that my husband did this because he couldn't hit me and so chose to totally traumatise me instead. I wish it was all over.

[AliceOlive]

Yes, looks like sleep disturbance is a common withdrawal symptom. Hang in there.

I have worries if anyone wants to mind them. And I’m happy to take a few also.

[Ruthietuthie]

@AliceOlive, I am here, happy to hold your worries so you can sleep. This thread helped me so much in the past. Here to support you now.
@TheBuggerlugs, hope you finally managed to rest.

[AliceOlive]

@Ruthietuthie Thank you so much! I’m so glad to see the thread again. It has been so helpful and lovely in the past.