Bring your worries over here, the Night Shift are still here to mind them

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

New thread here, since the Last Thread has ever so slowly filled up. Isn't it amazing how little our worries crept up in the night when the world was actually one big worry?

Pandemic or not, this is the place to just park your worries. We don't ask questions, or try to solve your problems. We just hold them, tenderly, carefully, until you are strong enough to take them back. If they choose not to come back, all the better.

Signing in for the Night Shift, V3!

[Gladioli23]

@ABitOfAShitShow

Can I leave mine again please? I promise I’ll pay it forward when this heartache eases.

apologies to everyone posting far worse worries than a break-up. I should be able to mind your worries but I’m struggling to see beyond my own self when it’s so fresh (5 days since he left). The worry minders here are ace though so you’re in safe hands.

I'm very happy to mind your worries tonight. The Night Shift kindly minded mine when I was struggling weeks back and the peace it brings is undeniable. So I'd like to pay it forward too.

I hope you are able to get some rest tonight, a well slept mind can cope better with any emotional issues.

I'll keep them here and keep an eye on them so they don't have to bother you, and you can luck them up when you've had a good night's sleep.

[ABitOfAShitShow]

Thank you @Gladioli23. It really brings me peace.

[isthisouting]

[quote 2018SoFarSoGreat]@isthisouting I'm not sure how many of us now holding your worries, but you can just let them go. There are plenty of us on duty tonight to hold even the worries of your worries, so you do not have to. Let them go. That's it. Now, you go just be. Rest. We've got you.[/quote]
Thank you! I've been feeling so much better today and I owe it to you wonderful people

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

@isthisouting so glad to hear it!

it is amazing how this works. You don't even technically have to have someone claim your particular worries. They (said worries) just know they have to go to the worry holders and let you (the poster) be. Some kind of magic goes on behind the scenes as long we do our part.

Post the worries and ask for them to be held.
Let them go. Trust that they ARE gone.

That's it.

Magic. I totally believe! And I am delighted (and a little proud) to be part of this amazing team!

[DramaAlpaca]

I've got the headspace for minding worries tonight, so I'll help out @2018SoFarSoGreat and @Gladioli23.

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba I recognise you as a regular and you always sound so upbeat on here, I'm sorry to hear you have worries. Park them with us for tonight and we'll take care of them.

@newidentiy so sorry about your mum

@ABitOfAShitShow sorry to hear about your break up

[DramaAlpaca]

@2018SoFarSoGreat cross posted with you there. It really is amazing how this works, but it does

[Bearsbearsbears40]

Hello all, free to look after any worries if anyone wants to drop anything off with me tonight…

[Rainallnight]

Can I bring something I’m very sad about? I know it doesn’t sound like a big deal but I think it speaks to a worry about the way my life and friendships are going generally.

A friend organised a wedding pre-Covid and invited me. It was abroad. It’s all obviously had to be reorganised several times and tonight I got an invitation by text, to the afters, the weekend after next.

It’s just such a huge downgrade from the initial invitation. The message says I’ll understand numbers have to be kept small due to current circumstances but you can any number of people at a wedding now!

I’ve had a very tough couple of years and feel I haven’t invested enough in my friendships and now I’m reaping what I sowed. And I just feel hurt.

I’m awake thinking about it. Silly.

[ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba]

thanks both of you

@DramaAlpaca
I recognise your name too (Drama knows Drama eh?🤣)

I guess on most threads I just like to banter and be silly (unless giving advice or discussing something more serious).
it's a nice distraction.

I guess maybe I'm good at hiding some stuff (for so many reasons) because I've had similar reactions to yours in real life, people have been complimentary that I'm organised and on top of things and look cheerful a lot which usually surprises me because a lot of the time I don't feel like those things at all.

What people don't see/know is that I suffer from anxiety, hyperacusis (oversensitive hearing), mild insomnia and also have ADHD so noise & distractions exhaust me and my head is like a washing machine on constant spin cycle.
Each thing that bothers or worries me adds to the load and it's overwhelming.
And intrusive thoughts and bad dreams can haunt me. But I don't want to whinge because others have it way worse than me so I don't want to insult anyone by bringing up comparatively smaller issues.

But thank you for letting me vent here a bit.
❤

[DramaAlpaca]

Vent away, Zing. As we say on here, no worries are too big or too small, you absolutely won't be insulting anyone.

@Rainallnight that's very hurtful, I can understand why you're feeling upset. I would be too

[ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba]

thanks Alpaca

@Rainallnight
I'm sorry that you feel hurt.
All I can think of is that I don't think it's your fault at all. Covid has made a lot of people more introverted, weary, slower to respond and less eager to bother cultivating relationships.
I don't think you are to blame at all so I happily take that weight off your shoulders.
I hope you can still enjoy the wedding despite the changes. hugs

[lifehappened]

Mine is so trivial but it's keeping me awake so I'm going to write it down. I'm sorry to those going through real issues.

I'm opening a restaurant in a couple of months, we are currently renovating the building and getting everything ready but everything is going wrong, I think I've made some bad decisions along the way and am so scared of it failing. I've managed lots of restaurants so I should know what I'm doing, and I think I do... but I'm petrified that if it fails we will be so stuck for money.

I want to sleep well tonight and can't but maybe now I've shared it I can sleep better. So apologies if I don't reply, hopefully I'm asleep!!

[DramaAlpaca]

Wow, @lifehappened how exciting! It's not surprising you're stressing. You know what you're doing, keep telling yourself that. You're opening at a good time too, coming out of lockdown. All will be well. Now get some sleep!

[lifehappened]

@DramaAlpaca thank you so much. Genuinely brought a tear to my eye that someone responded. I will def pay this back another night. Good night xx

[RyanAirVeteran]

I started this thread late in 2019 when I had been diagnosed for the second time in five years with another primary. I had clawed my way back from H&N cancer, still can't really eat, but still here, so imagine my delight to find a lump, a very small lump but a lump four years later. I came on here and started this under another poster name and the middle of the night crew gave me comfort solace and reassurance.

It was pre pandemic and even still it just grew like Topsy.

I am so delighted that the concept is still here, actually I have just filled up typing this.

[DramaAlpaca]

Good night, @lifehappened, sleep well.

Hello, @RyanAirVeteran glad to see you again. You started something that has become a bit of an MN legend, and your first thread made it to Classics. In fact, you are a bit of a legend yourself

[NotanothernamechangeforMN]

@RyanAirVeteran

I started this thread late in 2019 when I had been diagnosed for the second time in five years with another primary. I had clawed my way back from H&N cancer, still can't really eat, but still here, so imagine my delight to find a lump, a very small lump but a lump four years later. I came on here and started this under another poster name and the middle of the night crew gave me comfort solace and reassurance.

It was pre pandemic and even still it just grew like Topsy.

I am so delighted that the concept is still here, actually I have just filled up typing this.

❤❤❤

[Becca19962014]

zing I'll take your worries for you as well. You probably don't remember me, but we chatted on the owl thread.

[Becca19962014]

I thought I was going to die today from the heat. Actually die. Because I can't get out and have no help I've been forced to ration my meds and today my body just gave out. I have to get out Saturday, tomorrow is supposed to be early 30s (was mid 30s outside here today) and Saturday early 20s. I was so scared. I tried phoning for help only to be told to phone back when I was actually unconsious.

No one needs to take this onboard but I need to "say it"

Thankyou for the thread @2018SoFarSoGreat

[ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba]

@Becca19962014

zing I'll take your worries for you as well. You probably don't remember me, but we chatted on the owl thread.

@Becca19962014

I do remember you! and thank you

[itsallaboutschmoo]

This thread has made my eyes leak. I'm a newly diagnosed insomniac (thanks new medication...) so here to mind any worries tonight too.

A very teeny tiny one of my own: I dropped the ball at work last week while my boss was off. Nothing major but I'm seeing her tomorrow and will have to fess up. Hate anyone being disappointed in me

[itsallaboutschmoo]

@Becca19962014 that's awful I'm so sorry. The heat has been terrible hasn't it? Do you have anyone who could help you go out for your medication? I think the weather is supposed to 'break' over the next few days and we'll get some rain and cooler weather. My plants will be happy

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

@itsallaboutschmoo ah, that is hard. Let me hold it for tonight and you get some rest. Go and just sleep.

[Becca19962014]

The hot weather has always really badly effected me, especially in recent years but this was much worse. I no longer have access to my GP or social worker so no help. They stopped seeing me because of covid and then basically wrote me off as being a liar because I didn't see them anymore, bringing a lot of other stresses on top for me to manage.

I've no help. No one has even noticed I've not been outside, except at 2am to try and cool off a bit. I don't know why it's effected me so much, it's silly. I already knew this was what would happen but it was really scary. Still well over 26c inside and too hot to rest. Think I may go outside for a few minutes and then attempt sleep.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

Becca love, have you tried writing out a wet sarong or sheet, laying under it with a fan blowing over you? It really works. Failing that, I'll just be happy to empathise. I hate the heat and react poorly to it.

If anyone could have a hold of something for me. My family member has cancer. I love her dearly but we never quite got over a disagreement years ago. I'm far away and worried. I know you lot will help me with this.